Pendawn Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 (sorry for a sexist title couldn't think fo how else to express this in a short title) Okay so my bf and i have been together 9 months, and he's never said I Love you. He's known for several months that I'm in love with him, and his reaction was very sweet and understanding - gave me lots of hugs/kisses and reassurance that it was "gerat" and that he liked it. But he hasn't said it in return, so i assumed he just wasn't there yet. However this week he mistakenly thought it was our 1 year anniversary and he got me a card. He siad he took a long time picking the card and on the inside he wrote "Hope this isn't too OTT but it gets the message across, my lady". It was one of those long poemy cards and the front of the card said "On Our anniversary i want to say more than just i love you...becuase even though i do love you our relationship is so much more than that...". Then inside the printed poem talking about the love I live for, a dream made reality and for as long as you care I'll be here for you etc" ending with another "I love you." I was very touched by this and he was delighted and asked me several times if I liked it etc and told me a couple of times that he meant the sentiment expressed etc. So I thought I was pretty safe in assuming he is in love with me, and I felt reassured to say "i love you" to him again. But he still didn't return it. When I said it again he said "awwwww....and I think the world of you." This is what is so confusing because he never stops complimenting me saying I mean the world to him, he wouldnt' swap me for anything, thanks his lucky stars he has me; that I'm beautiful inside and out, that i make him laugh, and how i always impress him. The other week he even said I was his saviour. And he acts very loving and thoughtful towards me. I'm not mad for thinking he's in love with me, am I? And if so, why is it just so hard to say those 3 little words? (I know this isn't a huge problem because as long as he's acting loving and saying nice things it's just kind of wanting the whole package to get the verbal proof. I'm just expressing it cos I want an unbiased view)
Outcast Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Gee - you've got it in writing! Quit picking nits, girl.
Author Pendawn Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 LOL i knew That's the answer I'd get. I'm not really complaining just more wondering why it's so hard to say verbally?? And yes I'm a woman I want it ALL.
slubberdegullion Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I'm not really complaining just more wondering why it's so hard to say verbally??Some guys are just like that, and they know how emotionally loaded the phrase can be. Have you ever said to someone, "I love you" with all the intensity and passion that the phrase commands, and they just say "uh huh" back? Trust me on this, it ain't no good for the soul. But you're absolutely right in that actions speak louder than words. If he's giving you all the love and attention that you crave, but just hasn't vocalized it yet, you already have your answer. Of COURSE he does! And yes I'm a woman I want it ALL. Well, if you get it all, you'll be the first!
Hot Coco Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 "Well, if you get it all, you'll be the first!" Amen to that, sista! BUT, it still doesn't keep us from WANTING it all!
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