starr3546 Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 ok so here it goes...one of the girls who i thought was my realllllllyyyyy good friends works at this bar, the same bar that my x's best friend works at...so anyways, i met a guy and we were out, this is the 2nd time we have hung out, so he was like i wanna go to the other bar (the one by friend works at and my x's best friend) naturally i feel uncomfortable going there. here is the reason y...please tell me what you guys would feel or do if it were you in either situation... situation #1 your me and you go the bar...talk to good friend who is acting weird and not very friendly, x's bestfriend is tehre working, he is a door guy. Every time you turn around you feel like your x's bestfriend is watching you. Now your ex broke up with you, so you feel you should be able to do anything you want, your just trying to move on..... Would you feel uncomfortable thinking that every move you make he is going to relay it to your ex...i hate this feeling, so i go to friend who works theree...i feel uncomfortable because of what i just explained above....and they tell you no one cares...he doesn't care...and your x ddoesn't care...pretty much telling you to shut up....okkkk sooo i have been thinking anyways about this good friend of mine as not being such a good friend...i can see her being like oooo starr is so obsessed with her x Jr. that she thinks your checking up on her always to my x's bf... i just don't wanna look like i am a psycho or something. or maybe i am overacting...what do you think.... that is question numero uno question 2 if you were the friend of my ex would you watch and tell your friend about what your his ex was doing even if you know this guy broke it off??... really hope this is clear...thanks guys
AriaIncognito Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 Even IF your actions are being "reported" back to your ex, who cares? I mean, if your ex broke it off, it's no longer your problem. What you do with your life, is your business. If they wanna watch and report, let them. Have a little fun, give them something to report. There's no need you should put a cap on your life or your fun, just to spare your ex's potential feelings if it were to get back to him. If I were you, I'd spend less time thinking about your ex's feelings, and more time thinking about the guys feelings you could be hurting by remaining hung up on your ex, when this guy could potentially like you... Jennifer
Kengne Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 ok so here it goes...one of the girls who i thought was my realllllllyyyyy good friends works at this bar, the same bar that my x's best friend works at...so anyways, i met a guy and we were out, this is the 2nd time we have hung out, so he was like i wanna go to the other bar (the one by friend works at and my x's best friend) naturally i feel uncomfortable going there. here is the reason y...please tell me what you guys would feel or do if it were you in either situation... situation #1 your me and you go the bar...talk to good friend who is acting weird and not very friendly, x's bestfriend is tehre working, he is a door guy. Every time you turn around you feel like your x's bestfriend is watching you. Now your ex broke up with you, so you feel you should be able to do anything you want, your just trying to move on..... Would you feel uncomfortable thinking that every move you make he is going to relay it to your ex...i hate this feeling, so i go to friend who works theree...i feel uncomfortable because of what i just explained above....and they tell you no one cares...he doesn't care...and your x ddoesn't care...pretty much telling you to shut up....okkkk sooo i have been thinking anyways about this good friend of mine as not being such a good friend...i can see her being like oooo starr is so obsessed with her x Jr. that she thinks your checking up on her always to my x's bf... i just don't wanna look like i am a psycho or something. or maybe i am overacting...what do you think.... that is question numero uno question 2 if you were the friend of my ex would you watch and tell your friend about what your his ex was doing even if you know this guy broke it off??... really hope this is clear...thanks guys HEY STARR!! how are you doing hun?? Have you heard from your ex at all?? In any case - to answer your question 1 -> I would still go to the bar where my ex's best friend works. Let them see me! Let them relay messages back to my ex. In fact - if and when you do go - make sure you look STUNNING! If the bestfriend goes back to ur ex with stories, all he could say was "Starr looked really good... looked like she was having a good time" etc... it will serve to let your ex know that you are not holed up in your room, pining & crying incessantly over him. But in FACT - you are moving on - WIHTOUT HIM! In fact - it may very well spurr him to action to make a move back towards you. Question 2 -> if I was the best friend and I saw my best friend's ex (even if she broke it off with him)... HELL YEAH I'd tell her! It would HAVE to come up in conversation, sooner or later. I've seen many of my friend's exs on the street and vice versa.... and whenever we talk it just naturally comes up "Oh I saw so and so on the street...". The ONLY TIME I would NOT tell my bestfriend I saw the ex - is if things ended badly i.e. he DOGGED my friend eg cheated etc... or HURT her really bad.. if that was the case I wouldnt bring it up, bcuz I wouldnt want to dredge up the feelings of hurt. But in your case - the breakup was amicable so yeah I'd mention a sighting of the ex to my bestfriend. BUT THATS ME - I"M A FEMALE. FEMALES TALK. GUYS - ??? I dunno. Thats a different ballgame altogether. K.
mini696 Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 I wouldn't let anything stop me from doing what I wanted. And if I was the freind I would tell too.
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