consumed Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 I have to say I'm not looking forward to the holidays at all. I had wanted so badly to spend the holidays with my ex. She broke things off 2 wks ago and I had no choice from her but to move back to my city. When we talked and she told me to make a better life for myself back here in my city I asked her over and over to let me just stay until after newyears so I could spend it with her. She always just said it would be too hard on her the longer I stayed. Now I'm beginning to feel anger about the whole thing. The Christmas songs I hear now and everything else about the holidays just makes me upset cause I wanted to be there with her over the holidays so bad and now I have to spend them alone. Well I know I won't be alone, I'll spend christmas with my family but I just wish the holidays would pass over tomorrow and be gone for another yr again. My thread tells the story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t74790/
slubberdegullion Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 I can't stand the xmas season. I hate the music, the pressure to spend too much money, the commercialism, the bleatings of churchfolk, the weather, the forced joviality... yuck. Just plain yuck. </grouch>
chocolate_boy Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 To me, xmas is always about my family, and I've never spent much of them with a partner, so being single at xmas is fine for me.
brittanyjean259 Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 yeah i was just complaning the other day, about how i wish the holidays would pass, it gives me this werid feeling of emptiness and sadness and weridness and all these werid emotions that i hate having to wake up to in the gosh darn morning.... ah
omegaRED Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 Yeah, not really looking forward to them... But on the other hand, i`ve spent most of the past xmases/new years eves with my exes alone (and enjoyed them), but this time i won`t be. So just maybe, i`ll get a chance (read: have to) do something different this time around. Actually, my friends have a rather radical idea for spending the holidays, and i like it, because it`s quite unusual (we`re talking about a 5-6 day tour of a number of castles in Transylvania, including Vlad Cepes` castle (Count Dracula)). So who knows. It might just turn out to be the best holiday season. We`ll see.
billskrill Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 I was looking forward to going over to my ex gf's family and have her come to mine. We were making plans for thanksgiving and xmas in mid september. After she broke up with me I now dread anything that has to do with her, what i mean is since we had planned to spend the holidays with each other and now we're not I dread the upcoming holidays. New years will be even worse but you know the holidays are meant for family and my family won't be breaking up with me and New years can be for friends who won't dump me either.
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 it also is all in our heads, we have our familys and im sure we all have our friends...just be thankful that they are there, and when it passes than you can start dwelling on the relationship just make the best of whats around:) thats what i am going to try to do
Delicaterose00 Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 I know exactly how you are feeling. This will be my christmas and New years alone in 4 years..... it really sucks.. but know that on christmas morning when you wake up, your not alone in how you feel... It is really hard.. all the commercials make it seem like you have to have a partner or have a family ( not parents, a husband and kids) its like god... wheres the freaking single people!!!! Im glad to know i wont be alone in feeling the way I feel though.. I guess what you can think though, is all the money your saving on not spending it on a partner?? lmao,.. I used to go nuts, this year I can go nuts on my family.. ya ya, I know... it still sucks.. but your not alone and I wanted you to know that...When ever we go though these situations we always feel like we are the only person in the whole world having a broken heart, but we arent, and this site is proof. ( for your fyi, my ex of 2 years cheated on me and left me for someone else in March, but didnt break up with me till May.. a**h*** eh?) ahhhh well.. it still hurts my heart, and holidays make it worse.. hope you do feel better and who knows.. maybe well find someone in the mean time, we will have over a month!!! lmao
SMHappyface Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 I've never had any great memories from the holidays with a SO - 2003 I spent it with my parents and saw him after New Years, and he did buy me a present, but it wasn't that thought out. We broke up later that year. 2004 was my greatest memory - I spent it with my family and went over to his house that evening (Christmas) and we exchanged presents. He even seemed to really think the beautiful glass castle and stuffed monkey he bought me out. Last Christmas he forgot totally and made me a little string ankle which I WRAPPED. Obviously the present thing was serious show. I love Christmas music (Which he hated) but I know it'll be hard. But I've been so used to spending it with my family, that I don't think that will be hard or change. Life will go on and it will be better because of it. Perhaps someday I'll live the dream of a fireplace and a warm special somebody, but right now I don't care. The cold hard shell is creeping around my body. *depressing air*
7on Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 Oh man am I or am I? This semester has been b-r-u-t-a-l. Homework is all I do. Except on the weekends when I usually sleep till noon then clean house and watch tv in mere fatigue. Even as I type this before thanksgiving break I have a 6 page brochure for studying abroad due monday for my viscom class and tuesday I have to have a Book Report and a term project AND a book bound (yes, I have a class where the prof wants us to bind a book) finished. Though most of the stuff due has been due for a while, but like I said - I've just been swamped with work due the next class that I haven't gotten around to it. So driving the 6 hours home and crashing for the holidays will be a God send.I haven't bought any gifts for anyone so I have to do that. I should take the artist's way out and paint **** - but after this semester I am just too fatigued. I may do one gouasche piece for our family christmas auction for my Grandpa's memorial scholarship (we have a auction where the profits go to a high school senior the following spring). My sister will get it because she's graduating this spring. People are always bewildered about the book binding thing, so here's the process we have to follow. http://www2.truman.edu/harmon/bookbinding/bookbindingwebsite.htm
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 i to have alot of homework, and i cant seem to conecentrate eaither im on here, eating , or just laying in bed.....
patwheel Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 I was dreading the holidays period. Especially the tv part, have you guys seen the one where the "under pressure" is playing in the background, and all the guy can see is "propose to her", and then comes home to her and ahhh, engagement time. Also, doesn't help that the family loved the ex, and was getting to the idea that we were together. I came to the point where I am like, whatever. I don't care anymore. Ill go back home, and be happy, and surrounded by people who love me, I should be happy! Im kinda sceptic about new years since I used to always have plans, but this year, we'll see.
westernxer Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 People are always bewildered about the book binding thing, so here's the process we have to follow. http://www2.truman.edu/harmon/bookbinding/bookbindingwebsite.htm Pretty cool. Bookbinding is something I'd like to learn, provided I can find time for it. Other than that, I'm looking forward to some Yuletide cheer with my family. Having a significant other is just a luxury this time of year.
Apathetic Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 I love the Holidays but im not looking forward to spending them without my EX...Especially when im surrounded by couples,just makes me unbelieavbly miserable..just feel so alone
Alwaysunsure Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I'm not looking forward to the holidays at all this year. And this is my favorite season...usually. I wish I could just hibernate until after Valentines Day. EVERYTHING reminds me of my ex. We only split up 3 weeks ago, but I already know I am not going to be in the best spirits during Christmas. And Definitly not New Years. We had the first snow fall of the season this morning. 4 inches. At first I tried to look at it as a symbol of fesh snow covering all the dead things, a new slate. But, then he popped into my head, and all I could think of is how we should be out there together enjoying the damn snow. I'm right there with ya Apathetic. It si miserable and lonely
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