rachellllllann Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 My boyfriend and I have been together for eight months now. We are so in love and everything has been going great. However, my boyfriend has jealously issues. In the beginning of our relationship, i did things (nothing on the lines of cheating or anything like that) but more like "flirting". I don't think what I did was flirting at all. My intention was never to flirt and I'm just not a flirt but to him..it's flirting. It sucks that he thinks that way but that's what he thinks it is. There was so many countless things that I did that he was pissed, didn't like or jealous about and it all fell under the category of "flirting". We talked and fought over about the situations and problems plenty of times but he can't seem to let it go. He keeps coming back to it. He keeps telling me of how hurt he was. And I've done a lot to show him how much I love him.. Now that things have been better. He's starting to do the things that I did wrong to me. His reasoning for this is that he has the right to do it because I thought it was right when i did those things and I still do think it's right therefore he has a right to do those things. The thing is I don't think it was right. I understand why he felt the way he did and that's why I don't think it is right. I've changed my ways and I've shown him that I've changed and he knows that but he still wants to do the same things I did so I know how much pain I gave him. But yet he still thinks that it's right for him to do those things because I did it in the past. He also said that I shouldn't complain either about anything he does because I did the same in the past. But now, I'm the one hurting. It just makes me sad that he thinks in that way. It's not helping our relationship..I think it's making it worse. I've tried talking to him about this but he just doesn't understand because he's so caught up with the past. It's like since you did it to me, I'll do it to you. I personally don't think it's a right way to think but that's how he thinks. I'm so confused on what to do. Do I let him continue on doing these things even though they hurt me?! Sometimes I don't want to bring it up because we usually end up fighting about it and I'm sick of the fighting. But it hurts to keep it inside me. ahhhh I'm so confused! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 This guy doesn't sound mature enough to be in a relationship.
Mary3 Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 He is emotionally damaged and disturbed. Do not let this continue. He wants you to pay FOREVER! Get out now....
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