lonely4you Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 he told me that he isnt the type of guy to just pick up the phone. i dont understand that at all, but whatever. I have asked him to hang out once, he could not go. Now, the weekend is starting again and i am unsure wether or not i should call and ask to hang out. Granted, he is a shy guy and all, but not one time has he asked to hang out, not a thing. I just dont know what i should do because i dont want to end up being the one to call all the time yet if i dont call i doubt we would hang out at all. He seems intrested in me...
Ruby Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 what is your relationship with him? boyfriend or just a friend?
Author lonely4you Posted November 19, 2005 Author Posted November 19, 2005 well, i guess you would consider him a friend, but we almost went out last year...just recently we gave eachother our phone numbers and he does things that make me think that he likes me more than a friend, yet i am not so sure sometimes. There is no way of knowing without him saying it, it will remain a 50/50 chance...i want him to be more than that but we never get to hang out and i dont want to be the clingy girl around his feet..thats what i feel like if i call...
Lishy Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 Then you have just answered your own question!! Dont call! If he likes you he will let you know somehow, however shy he is! Dont call and see what happens - You have liked him for a year, another few weeks wont hurt !!
Chateliers Principle Posted November 19, 2005 Posted November 19, 2005 Hey!! (In only in High School, but you may find this usefull) Well, I can say that I'm probably your best shot at getting an answer because I'm for one, a guy, and secondly, I have exactly the same problem but from the guy's point of view. - I've known this girl for the past year, got to know her more this year and fell madly in love with her. A little while ago (I'd say something like 3-4 weeks ago) we exchanged numbers. Me being the quiet and shy person i am have never phoned her. Quite frankly, I dont phone anyone for conversations, just to say im comming over whether you like it or not.. hahaha... lol... Anyways, just because he hasn't phoned you doesn't mean much. mabey he has a phobea of phones like i do... Anyways, here's a list of how shy guys (such as myself) would show a girl that they like them.. and tips on what you should do. - 1) Eye contant from a distance. Try to catch him looking at you from a distance, but don't make it obvious that you're trying to catch him. Just quickly turn your head in his direction like your looking for something and turn back. If he moves his head, he was most likely looking at you. why else would he need to move his head the second you move yours?? 2) Do you know any of his close friends?? If so ask them if he hase mentioned your name recently?? Chances are that if he has, he's thinking of you 3) Let his friends know that your interested in him, I'm sure (if their not pricks) they'll help you let him know that your interested.They can even tell you that he's interested in you 4) He's probably just as unsure about how you feel about him as you are unsure of his feeling towards you. So make it obvious you like him and want more than friends... don't give him any signs that you don't like him. SUCH AS NOT PHONING HIM!!! 5) Does he talk to you more than usual?? 6) Does he instantly brighten up when talking to you?? 7) Does he end up at events you are suspose to attend? 8) Does he do things for you he wouldn't usually do?? 9) Does he flirt with you at all?? 10) If he isn't flirting, does he compliment you a lot more than usual?? As in does he compliment you eyes, smile, hair, clothing,etc? 11) Is he suddenly interested in your more personal life?? 12) Has he suddenly taken interest in things your interested in that you know he probably wouldn't be interested in?? 13) When you talk to him in person, does he stare off into space? Or does he look you in the eyes? If he looks you in the eyes, it means that he is interested in what your saying. 14) Give him a reason to phone you.. He may just be intimidated because he has nothing to say. Shy guys like me, usually have a harder time keeping a conversation and like to analyse things so talking on the phone can be quite intimidating. 15) Add him to MSN messenger or any other instant message program. If he doesn't have one, introduce him to one. If he's suddenly on when your on and tries talking to you a lot, then he's probably interested. - My best advice to get him to phone you though is to give him a reason. Email him saying something like, Hey, want to get together this weekend? See a movie or something? Call me (your number) tomorrow at (some time) so I can know if were on or off. - Well, I hope I helped, I'm only in High School, so Im not sure how this can help in the adult world.. But what ever, i tried.. Hope you have better luck than I am, the girl i like is driving me crazy.. lol .. Anyways. Good luck.
Author lonely4you Posted November 19, 2005 Author Posted November 19, 2005 i did this approach last week, when i invited him to hang out and he had plans, he said that the rest of the week he had no plans and during that entire weekend not a thing, no call, nothing. What does this truly mean. Is he not that into me? I mean, he talks to me at school, he will wait for me after a class and all, but when it comes to calls nothing. The other thing that i am confused about is, he gave me his cell number and when he called me once he used his cell phone and i asked him if he just wanted to use his house phone so it wouldnt cost him anything and he said something like he couldnt or something to that effect...what is that? he is so complicating.
elijahBailey Posted November 20, 2005 Posted November 20, 2005 Don't call. He'll have to call eventually. To him, you're desperate and he knows you'll snap at some point and call. That's why he doesn't bother calling. You keep doing that and he'll start to be "just not so into you". If you want someone you have to risk losing him.
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