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a4a Established Member

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1.What did a ex do to push you over the edge to leave him/her?

 

2. Or the certain thing that most annoyed you about a ex?

 

3. Does your current SO have the same habit and remind you of a ex?

 

 

 

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1. made the mistake of getting physically abusive. Another ex was cheating.

 

2. When I decided I had enough even chewing noises sent me over the edge, the way one would pack his cigarettes, the skoal dipper spitting and tapping that damn nasty can.

 

3. The cigarette packing by my husband irritates the hell out of me and reminds me of ex #4.

 

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ReluctantRomeo Established Member

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1.What did a ex do to push you over the edge to leave him/her?

 

For me it's never one incident or habit - you can work most of these things out IMO. My decision is made over time on the total package.

 

 

2. Or the certain thing that most annoyed you about a ex?

 

Yakking fullspeed without apparent pause for breath on a range of 23 random topics in the first 2 minutes of breakfast. I need slow and linear first thing in the morning :laugh:

 

 

3. Does your current SO have the same habit and remind you of a ex?

 

They all do. It's a girly thing. I've decided to consider it sweet ;)

Hot Coco Established Member

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1. Excessive verbal abuse and yelling.

2. Extreme moodiness. I didn't know it at the time but he suffered from bouts of depression and what also may have been manic depression.

3. No, my husband is not moody at all but he does have certain OCD-like tendencies like my ex did.

JadeStar Established Member

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1. He threw a drink in my face.

 

2. He was very arrogant

 

3. Hubby is nothing like the ex thank goodness.

 

 

 

 

Jade

slubberdegullion Established Member

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1.What did a ex do to push you over the edge to leave him/her?

She actually did the leaving. Every time we had any sort of disagreement she'd threaten to end the marriage. So I finally called her on it. She left. If I had known it would have been that easy I would have done it years before.

2. Or the certain thing that most annoyed you about a ex?

Her entire existence revolved around her menstrual cycle. "I'm close to my period" or "I'm PMSing" or "I'm on my period" or "I just finished my period"... gawd, she just never shut up about it. sheesh... :rolleyes:

3. Does your current SO have the same habit and remind you of a ex?
I don't have a current SO, just a cluster of FWBs. But there's no way that I'd EVER put up with the BS that my ex put me through ever again. Nadda chance.
Art_Critic Established Member

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Pawned the wedding ring for a gas load for her gas station.

 

She got 7,000 in a hock shop.. and when I found out I flipped and made her get it back out and decided at that point it was over..

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It had been building for a couple of years- but he refused to give our son the money he had in his drawer for lunch money- because it was for his lunch he said- when he could have driven by the ATM.

 

My new husband is nothing like my exhusband but yet there are still some of the same issues- such as money- and sex. Universal in marriage probably.

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1. My X left but only after I told her to pack up her *beep* and leave. She was irresponsible with money because she felt that her precious doggies were more important than paying her car note.

 

2. Aside from the above, her laziness in general and her annoying habit of not washing her hands after using the bathroom - one reason why I wouldn't allow her to make my dinner. :eek:

 

3. Current GF is opposite of X. She loves animals too (as I do) but is responsible about it and has no intention of *saving* all the strays in the state. :p

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1. Very controlling and self-centered. Among other issues, I was expected to be at every one of his (many) family functions but when it came to mine, he would have every excuse in the book. Then he started pressuring me to not go to my family parties and the rest is history.

 

2. His shoes... I hated his frickin ugly brown old man loafer shoes. I still hate the sight of any shoe that looks like them!

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1. He wouldn't visit my sister in the hospital, b/c he had to work for his father, to which he could have said NO. Long story short, he was an ass.

 

2. He had O.C.D. (obsessive compulsive disorder) very bad. He would touch things like 5 times. Everything had to be centered on the table. In the end, I would walk around the house before bed and mess everything up. It was funny to watch in the morning. (I know I'm satan's spawn)

 

3. My current SO is nothing like my most recent ex. He does however have a similar voice to one of my other ex's.

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1.What did a ex do to push you over the edge to leave him/her?

I woke up one day and realized I hated him and he made me wanna :sick: !!

 

2. Or the certain thing that most annoyed you about a ex?

 

Looking back, just about everything. His B-O, the scent of beer on his breath, stinky awful f**k'n gross smelling feet, and the fact the guy was and probably still is an A-HOLE!

 

3. Does your current SO have the same habit and remind you of a ex?

Not one. I'm SO happy to say that too!

Outcast Established Member

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Lies. If you don't trust me with the truth, you don't trust me enough so get lost.

glittergurl Established Member

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Hmmmff, I didn't love him :( Poor guy. He did nothing wrong; just felt it was better to call it quits instead of wasting his time and feelings.

JayKay Established Member

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1.What did a ex do to push you over the edge to leave him/her?

 

 

Things had been building up for a while....a LONG while. But the straw that finally broke the camel's back was when my ex came home after playing golf all day and drinking with his buddies....and complained that I hadn't fixed him dinnner. I had just worked a double shift waitressing at a restaurant! We had a huge fight and I told him, "F*** you, I"m outta here." And I was.

 

2. Or the certain thing that most annoyed you about a ex?

 

His double standards (i.e. it was OK for men to get sloppy drunk but not women....it was OK for men to stay out all night with their friends but not women....etc)

 

His incessant chain smoking

 

His inability to empathize

 

His insensitivity

 

The way he treasured things over people

 

 

 

3. Does your current SO have the same habit and remind you of a ex?

 

 

He couldn't be more unlike my ex in every ways -- looks, temperament, you name it.

NYCmitch25 Established Member

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wow these are all so funny!

basscatcher Established Member

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1.What did a ex do to push you over the edge to leave him/her?

 

XH-3 weeks before I left he screamed and yelled at me until my ears were ringing and hurt to the point I couldn't hear anymore, he pinned me to the floor and picked me up-carried me to the bedroom and through me across the room onto the bed because I was trying to leave the house cause he was totally out of control in a rage. He was always running all hours of the night. Would lie to me. Womanize. Was a weekend drunk

 

Xbf1-he was a control freak and would get verbally abusive if I spoke to my family or friends on the phone or they would come over. He shredded up 13 years of my personal journals and started to turn on my son.

 

Xbf2--in a drunken blackout he started to punch my thighs (left bruises), he became verbally abusive when intoxicated and started to turn on my son also. He is a alcoholic. (note: he has been in AA for over a year and has been sober 3 months this week.)

 

2. Or the certain thing that most annoyed you about a ex?

 

Xh- he thinks he is always right and never wrong. His way is the right and best way. He rarely showered or brushed his teeth. His family always came first before his wife and son...

 

Xbf1 - he was never wrong and used racial discrimination (against him) as an excuse for his negative and hateful thinking and actions. He didn't disipline his children right and provided them with unlimited access to candy and pop.

 

Xbf2- he would get drunk and lie to me that he was drinking when it was obvious. He would attack me verbally and tear me down about my past mistakes when he did worse then I did.

 

 

 

3. Does your current SO have the same habit and remind you of a ex?

 

My current SO is a wonderful man with none of my X's bad habits and arrogance. He is the complete opposite of them all. (Thusfar)

 

That is what I wanted---to break the cycle--break the chain of dating losers and abusers..

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1.What did a ex do to push you over the edge to leave him/her?

 

2. Or the certain thing that most annoyed you about a ex?

 

3. Does your current SO have the same habit and remind you of a ex?

 

1. The unwillingness to compromise with me or to make any sacrifices for our relationship and she cheated on me.

 

2. She always assumed everything before knowing the truth, she was VERY stubborn, and whenever she got mad at me, she would ignore me completely for days.

 

3. N/A

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1. Nothing, I didn't want the relationship in the first place and it took me months to actually say it. [i'm not as immature as this sounds, there were lots of weird circumstances involved]

 

2. His wisdom talk about how people never value 'true values'. Meaning of course, how most people just don't like the same stuff he does, and that making them inferior somehow.

 

3. My bf is very different to my ex, I can't think of anything. Strange.

NYCmitch25 Established Member

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wow these are all so funny!

 

these weren't supposed to be funny were they ? .l..... lol

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Well let me tell you what SHOULD HAVE BEEN the final straw but I was so blind at the time I didn't break up with him over it. This is so messed up, but oh well... hindsight is twenty-twenty.

 

One night my then-boyfriend drove over and picked me up and brought me back to his place. Later that night his ex-fiance calls up and says she's drunk and can't drive and needs him to come pick her up. He went and told me he'd be back in a little bit. I wait and wait and wait some more. Watching tv, getting restless, getting worried.... watch the clock... 2 am.... 3 am.... 4 am... I wake up and it's 7 am and he's not home yet. WTF?! I call him immediately when I woke up, and he says, "I'm on my way, I'm almost home! I'll be there in a few minutes." And he does show up a few min. later, assures me nothing happened, that they talked all night, and he laid on the floor while she was in the bed. He then proceeds to tell me that he wants us to go lay down together. I was so stupid I agreed. I can't believe how snowed I was. What a lying, cheating bastard.

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We were nearly $300,000 dollars in debt, and he was spending money like water. One day he calls me up, and tells me he bought me a motorcycle for only $1800. That he got a great deal on this Yamaha Shadow 250cc. (think it was)

 

Funny, I'd never wanted a motorcycle but he'd been talking about buying one for several months for himself. So he bought it, and justified it by saying it was for me, and yet I couldn't ever drive it, cause he was always gone with it.

 

Then we got in an argument, because I didn't feel he was pulling his weight in the relationship. He used that motorcycle to prove how much he did for me.

 

When I left him, he told me I couldn't have the motorcycle. Of all our possesions, it was the only thing he put up a fight about.

 

This was just one of the last things, not really the final straw. mostly because he did so much stupid crap like this.

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We were nearly $300,000 dollars in debt, and he was spending money like water. One day he calls me up, and tells me he bought me a motorcycle for only $1800. That he got a great deal on this Yamaha Shadow 250cc. (think it was)

 

Funny, I'd never wanted a motorcycle but he'd been talking about buying one for several months for himself. So he bought it, and justified it by saying it was for me, and yet I couldn't ever drive it, cause he was always gone with it.

 

Then we got in an argument, because I didn't feel he was pulling his weight in the relationship. He used that motorcycle to prove how much he did for me.

 

When I left him, he told me I couldn't have the motorcycle. Of all our possesions, it was the only thing he put up a fight about.

 

This was just one of the last things, not really the final straw. mostly because he did so much stupid crap like this.

 

 

$300,000 in debt? :eek: WOW! Dayummmmm thats not good!

 

 

 

 

Jade

NYCmitch25 Established Member

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$300,000 in debt? :eek: WOW! Dayummmmm thats not good!

 

 

 

 

Jade

 

Thats called robbing paul to pay peter..

Walk Established Member

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Thats called robbing paul to pay peter..

 

He called it "floating money".

 

We owed so much in bounced checks one month (1, not several) that the bank teller said something like "Wow, you could've flown to Hawii and stayed a week for that much."

 

When I left him, he wanted the engagement ring back. Was appraised at $4,000. He bought it because he mortgaged MY house (he told me it was for repairs.), then conned me into paying for the mortgage.

 

So, I pawned that stupid ring for $200 bucks so I could put my cat to sleep. (very sick) Thought it fitting though. The death of one should pay for the death of another.

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1.What did a ex do to push you over the edge to leave him/her?

 

He left me for the 3rd time, that is why I wouldn't take him back when he wanted back.

 

 

2. Or the certain thing that most annoyed you about a ex?

 

He was so non commital! He claimed to love me and then would make comments about how he didn't want to be with me or didn't know how he felt about me. He always flirted with other girls and didn't like it if I introduced him as my BF. Sometimes he said he wished he could marry me, then the next week he would be talking about how he wished we had an open relationship. We were each other's firsts so his insane fantacies about how he was "missing out" on the single life made him resent me and made me feel so insecure..

 

3. Does your current SO have the same habit and remind you of a ex?

 

Not really... but sometimes if he does anything that makes me feel remotely similar I really freak out even though it is more me than him... like my BF was single for about 2 years before we met and really played the field, though was kind of looking for something serious at the same time... and I was the first girl he ever met who he felt he could settle with and he is so happy to be with me, but sometimes gets scared about not being single anymore and it freaks me out to no end! HAHA, one thing that was a big misunderstanding when we first got together was that I would never introduce him as my BF to people because my ex didn't like that and he thought it was because I was ashamed of him and wanted to keep him a secret... I have since reformed my ways....

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