A Beer Drinker Posted November 18, 2005 Posted November 18, 2005 Well here goes my story. I was married for nine years, two houses and two wonderful children. On October 14, after returning from her trip to MT, she told me that she was not happy and that she had an affair with a stranger in the park before she left. Needless to say I was devastated. I had a really hard time believing her about the one time affair, but I figure that there was no reason for her to lie to me. The next morning was a sorrowful one. She told me how sorry she was and how she wanted the next ten years of our life to be better than the last. She told me how when I got home, she was going to cook dinner for me and that she wanted to make love to me (More to come on this later). So I get home that night and WAM!!! She tells me she wants to separate for awhile. So after talking and going to be, she did come to bed and we had sex, very dull, non meaningful sex. The next morning she hits me with the big d. WTF. So, I have been on my own since then. I have kept hope of reconciliation in the front of my head. Well this weekend I found out that she was seeing this guy for two weeks before she told me about the affair. I really trusted her and to know she lied to me and instead of going out with her friends, she was seeing this guy. I called her on the carpet last Saturday when I found out. She was upset and tried turning it around on me, but admitted to still seeing this creep. Being the wimp I can be with her I backed off, spoke my mind and left. The straw that broke the camels back was today. I was at lunch and I got a phone call. She said that she had just tested positive for Gonorrhea and that she has continued to sleep with this guy since our separation. The evil side of me believes that she got what she deserved , but I did not deserve to be exposed as I was that last night we were together. Finally, I know it is over. I have lost all respect I had for her. She is not the same women that I married and I deserve better. Thanks for listening!
scobro Posted November 18, 2005 Posted November 18, 2005 she did come to bed and we had sex, very dull, non meaningful sex. You guys hads sex after what she said???????????????????????????????????????????????????????how did you even get an erection??lotta love in that bed at that time WTF:eek:
Natalie05 Posted November 18, 2005 Posted November 18, 2005 Ok, you are just waaaayyyy to laid back for everything you describe you're going thru. A cheating wife, meaningless sex - possibility of now having an STD and getting a divorce? Where have you been all this time - in a coma?
Author A Beer Drinker Posted November 18, 2005 Author Posted November 18, 2005 First off, at the time after she first told me, I really had no ideal how involved it was and I was really hoping for a receniliation. I did not realize how non meaningful the sex would be util we started. Yea I admit, it was very stupid, but when you love someone that much, you can put blinders on. Secondly, I am very laid back right now because I already poped my lid, burnt bridges, ect. At this point I have accepted that this is totally out of my control and I just need to try to stay some what positve for the Kids sake. Believe me, I go to bed everynight with a bad vision burnt into my head. I think that part of me has seen the divoce comming, but I NEVER thought his is how it would end. I mean, I was nothing but caring and giving to her. Through out our marriage I rarely raised my voice, never raised a hand or threatened her in any way. I was 100% faithful and this is how I get repaid. Tis life I guess.
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