coconut Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 I am very confused about my relationship. I have been dating exclusively someone for 6 months. He treats me very well, makes sure that we speak every day, went out of his way for my BD etc... He is a great and sensitive guy. The problem is that his ex gf committed suicide last Xmas at a moment when they were not dating. It was an off and on relationship and she was not that into him ( cheated etc.. ). This person was extremely messed up ( prescription drug and alcohol abuse, unwanted pregancies from other guys, met the father of her child in a 3 some ) You get the idea... He maintains to this day that he was very much in love with her and would have done anything for her. That concerns me, but I was letting it go until he told me last week ( after I asked him about his Xmas plans) that he had no plan to spend Xmas with me as we were not in love and that he was anticipating to grieve over his ex during the Xmas holidays. After I told him that I was very hurt by this, he called me selfish and insensitive and told me that there will be another Xmas next year and that one would be better. I almost laughed at that point ( thinking to myself that with all this, the chance of us spending next Xmas together would be very small ). He went for a walk in the middle of the night. After he came back he told me that he did not realize that spending Xmas with him was that important to me and apologized for making me cry, but still no outcome as far as what will happen at Xmas. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated. thanks
Outcast Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 he had no plan to spend Xmas with me as we were not in love and that he was anticipating to grieve over his ex during the Xmas holidays. This is one of those 'he's just not that into you' situations. Drop him. Anyone who could be devoted to someone who cheated on him and mistreated him might have big problems of his own. Time to drop this dude and move on.
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