the1whoislost Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 help me please...I havent done anything yet and I need some advice. I have been in a relationship with a great guy for almost 3 years. We live together and I have a son from a previous relationship whom he has been like a father to during this time. I love him alot and I cant imagine being without him, but our love life lacks horribly. We both have very stressful lives so we dont have much free time to spend with one another. We seem to argue more lately than anything. At work there is a volunteer who comes by every weekand to help out...and lord is he good looking. He is about 10 years older than me but looks so handsome. I find myself thinking about him romantically alot. It has been inncocent so far but recently I just think things have changed and he is showing interest in me now. I really like him...maybe because I am sexually frustrated and just miss being paid attention to I guess. I like the attention he shows me and the way he looks at me. Niether of us have ever said a word about likeing each other but it is obvious. He is a great guy as far as I can tell. ...I dont know what to do though. This weekand I am going out with some people and I have invited him to go. I dont know yet if he can but I am hoping he can. I just said as Friends of course but I am hoping it will lead to something more I guess. I am not even thinking about sex with him at all....just a nice passionate kiss and being held so i can feel alive again. I dont know how else to put it I suppose. Am I wrong to want to have some fun in my boring....working all the time....no time for myself life? Please someone help me. What should i do? Should I just ignore the feelings and stay friends or just have a little fun on the side? I feel guilty on one hand but excited on the other thanks in advance for any advice
Neptune Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 This can be answered however you want. Take your pick: 1 You can realize something lacking in your present relationship and take this as a sign it is time to swing in to action and work things out for the better with your current. 2 You can keep your current and sneak around behind his back with this other guy. Remember you can catch Herpes from this new guy and give it to your current. Not good! 3 You can dump your current and recognize that the relationship is not going that good and pursue the new guy. Remember, this new guy really may not give a squat about you anyway but what the heck. That is about it. Take your pick!
whichwayisup Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 You need to talk to your man and let him know what needs are not being met. You want more cuddles and intimate moments with him? Then both of you have to make the time to do just that. Nuture it and communicate. What you are feeling is normal, but please don't kiss any other man..That will only complicate things.
Sami_D Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 You love him and can't imagine life without him... So it's definitely worth working on your relationship with your partner. I would forget the night out with friends this weekend and plan to do something with your partner instead. Something fun that you've never done before, or something romantic... something that will get you both relaxed and smiling together.
newbby Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 i agree. work on things with your current partner. he sounds like a good catch. if you are always working and have no time for romance, how would that change just because you changed partners? if you have an affair, isnt that going to take even more precious time? give your relationship more priority and inject some romance into it yourself.
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