itwontdawnsooner Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 just curious about people's experience here: seems to me that many girls (im sure it works the other way) seem to stick with guys in crappy situations. i know the whole nice guy/jerk thing, but other than that, what is really a deal breaker for you? sometimes a guy is pulling away, being colder, makes you want them more? try harder? what makes you finally give up? also, if youve been with a guy for 2 months, instead of 6 months, or say a year or two instead of four, does that mean you are more likely to try harder - is it an addiction thing? lots of questions, some sound kind of dumb or obvious, but im just wondering other people's experiences, seen lots of posts about "putting up" with these types of things from others here.
MnkyGirl Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 I don't think that "putting up" is something that you can generalize. I was with a man 12 years, married 7 and physically abused for 8 of it. Why did I stick around? don't really know...he made me feel worthless, I couldn't have friends...things he said and did to me made me hide from the world. My breaking point was him beating me so bad I blacked out for 10-15 mins woke up and he was gone. Our kids were upstairs in their room during this. This was my breaking point. I moved out, took the kids and went to my parents...got my own place, filed for a divorce and I am just living my life. I had a boyfriend for awhile since my divorce and he up and left, said he needed time alone to figure out his issues...not really sure what is up with him, I am confused by it. I don't know what his breaking point is because he doesn't talk about feelings or emotions. I don't think a persons breaking point has to do with the length of time they are with someone. I think it has to do with tolerance level and how much you love or care for the person. Everybody is different, some people can deal with a lot more than others.
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