Free At Last Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 I have been impressed by this girl since I first met her in school last year. She asked me to work on a project with her recently and the more I see of her, the more I like her. So I called and asked if I could take her out. She agreed, which is great... My question is whether it is a bad idea to take her to a nice, $40 - $60 per person restaurant (I'd pay) for a first date? I'm thinking it might be overkill, and I should give myself room to move upwards later...
d'Arthez Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 I would say it is a bit too much, if any of the following does not apply: 1. any restaurant in the area does not offer meals below $25. 2. if the both of you are used to go to places like that. If neither of these apply, I would try to keep it a bit less expensive for the first date (and because you asked her out, pay for the both of you).
alphamale Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 My question is whether it is a bad idea to take her to a nice, $40 - $60 per person restaurant (I'd pay) for a first date? I'm thinking it might be overkill, and I should give myself room to move upwards later... save your ca$h F.A.L... take her to a moderate chain restaurant for a first date. Some place where the total cheque will be around $50-$60 for both of you. There reasoning for this is that if she really likes you she'll enjoy your company no matter where you take her (except maybe Taco Hell). Moderation is the key...not too cheap, not to expensive. You can save the really nice dinner for after you get some nookie which should be around dates 3 to 5.
WRbeach60954 Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 I usualy like to take girls to a restaurant around here called Bahama Breeze, its nice, good food, kinda expensive 20-40$. Casual but not to casual and a very fun place to be in.
alphamale Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 Bahama Breeze, right, and they have some caribbean-looking dude playing reggae music. thats a good place for a 1st date...
LexiB Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 Go with your instincts. If you're afraid it's overkill (which it is), go someplace else. $$$ on the first date = trying 2 hard ...unless she's a high-maintenance chick, but then why would you wanna deal with that anyway
alphamale Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 ...unless she's a high-maintenance chick, but then why would you wanna deal with that anyway ummm, cause maybe she's good looking LEXIB?!? I dont' see too many high maintenance fat & ugly chicks
Art_Critic Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 The key to the restaurant on the first date is to make sure that you don't take her to a cheap place..If you do you you will never outlive the feeling of being cheap.. But expensive.. no.. maybe a second or third date.. since you are still in school take her to a chain restaurant.. Fridays.. or maybe mexican someplace like that
Neptune Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 Go to a place where young people are comfortable and there is a fair amount of activity. Too quiet and isolated is not good for a first date. Think fun rather than money. But don`t go where your friends can distract you. You want to make sure to avoid familiar people that may botch things up.
country gal Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 for me, it'd be overkill.... ideally first date should be at a place where you both feel relaxed enough to be yourselves so go to a place that you like (that isnt a dive or a fast food chain!). that way you get to know each other without so much pressure - and you get to decide if there will be future dates, which, in time, can be of the fancier kind. good luck!
LexiB Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 ummm, cause maybe she's good looking LEXIB?!? I dont' see too many high maintenance fat & ugly chicks LoL. Ok rephrase: why would you wanna deal with that for more than one night? Btw, you'd be surprised at the confidence levels of some "fat & ugly chicks" !
JS17 Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 for me, it'd be overkill.... ideally first date should be at a place where you both feel relaxed enough to be yourselves so go to a place that you like (that isnt a dive or a fast food chain!). that way you get to know each other without so much pressure - and you get to decide if there will be future dates, which, in time, can be of the fancier kind. Ditto. I don't like it when guys try to take me on expensive dates early on. It feels like a lot of pressure. I'm a dive-y kind of girl....definitely no fast food. The biggest factor for me is whether they're easy to be with, not where we go.
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 why not make her dinner in your place if you have one that is? i usually did that and it went down a treat! the restaurant thing is great on birthdays etc. but not that essential! in the end it makes no difference... don't go too expensive... doesn't mean anything to the right girl!
kitkat826 Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 On a first date, I think somewhere in the $10-$20 for a meal is good. It's just in the middle in terms of price range. Less than that for dinner, and I feel like we're just buddies grabbing a bite. I want to feel somewhat special, but not at a place soooo special that Im practically feeling being 'bought'.
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 kitkat826, sounds about right! anyhow no matter how expensive the food or how good it tastes it doesn't make up for who you are with my ex could have brought me to mcdonalds and i'd have still fell in love with her and i hate mcdonalds!
RecordProducer Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 Why not let HER pick a restaurant? If she picks a cheap one, suggest a better one. I kinda don't like the idea of a guy taking me to a place he likes without considering my desires. I personally don't like too fancy, icy, and conventional places, but my BF likes them. I prefer the romantic, bohemian, little, warm-looking restaurants with lots of wood, candles, paintings, etc.
WRbeach60954 Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 right, and they have some caribbean-looking dude playing reggae music. thats a good place for a 1st date... Have you been there before Alphamale? Obviously you havn't.
alphamale Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 Have you been there before Alphamale? Obviously you havn't. I've been to all three that are in the metro detroit area... Why not let HER pick a restaurant? Bad idea RP, for two reasons: 1) he won't look like a decision maker, which is bad 2) she'll most likely pick an expensive place, which is also bad Btw, you'd be surprised at the confidence levels of some "fat & ugly chicks" ! I understand that LEXI....but none of them are gonna be gettin' busy wit me
Author Free At Last Posted November 17, 2005 Author Posted November 17, 2005 Ok, so if I have this right.... I'm thinking I should ditch the restaurant with the 'too much' vibes. In its place, I'll pick a spot with some character, not too fancy, but that at least has a wine menu. I know a few that match those criteria for $10 - $20 each. With most other girls I wouldn't think twice. I think I can say this one is special Thanks for all the opinions... maybe I'll get a chance to take her to the higher end spot a little later down the road.
RecordProducer Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 Bad idea RP, for two reasons: 1) he won't look like a decision maker, which is bad My guy always let ME pick the restaurant. That's about the only thing he lets me chose! Oh, he may let me pick the color of the carpet and type of juicer as well if we ever get married.
alphamale Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 My guy always let ME pick the restaurant. That's about the only thing he lets me chose! screw that RP! if I'm paying I'm going to where I want to go. I may let her choose 10% of the time. Its all about ME! Oh, he may let me pick the color of the carpet and type of juicer as well if we ever get married. I hope he lets you pick the colour of your BMW also
RecordProducer Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 Its all about ME! I hope he lets you pick the colour of your BMW also I can envision myself letting HIM pick the color too!
SmoochieFace Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 I've been to all three that are in the metro detroit area... That so? I see that there are TWO locations in Metro Detroit - one in Livonia and one in Troy. So where's the third one? I'm heading up that way next week so I wouldn't mind checking it out. Oh, one other thing. The reviews didn't say anything about any "Caribbean-looking dude playing reggae music." Hmmm... I guess he must be at that *third* location.
Audrey1 Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 I'm sorry, but a chain restaurant??? For a first date? Like a TGIFridays or Friendley's??? Wow, that's classy. Unless this person is in highschool, chain restaurants are NOT ok for a first date. I'm not saying Cipriani's but at least a quaint cafe or bistro. Something that doesn't have "buy one pitcher get one free" deals. Think middle of the road...not too fancy, not too cheap.
SmoochieFace Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 I'm sorry, but a chain restaurant??? For a first date? Like a TGIFridays or Friendley's??? Wow, that's classy. Unless this person is in highschool, chain restaurants are NOT ok for a first date. I'm not saying Cipriani's but at least a quaint cafe or bistro. Something that doesn't have "buy one pitcher get one free" deals. Think middle of the road...not too fancy, not too cheap. What the hell's wrong with Fridays?! Well, I suppose... looking at your location... yeah, I could probably understand your *displeasure* at a *chain* joint but then again not everyone is into the NYC way of doing things either.
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