isabellaraviv Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 I posted here before about my ex's strange behavior. We have been broken up for 9 months and we were NC for about 6, until he came to my school and joined organizations I was apart of, making NC impossible. He is a very interesting guy because he is one of those people who is nice to EVERYONE, even people he mortally hates or people he's been in fights with. He still goes out of his way to be nice to them, but somehow I don't fit into that equation. I was his first love, lost his virginity to me, all of that. Things were okay until I made it clear that I just wanted to be friends, but I'm not sure that that's what I want now. I actually don't know what I want in regards to him, except for the awkwardness to stop. He talks to me in the "hallways", and will have convos with me if I initiate them. I texted him once and he called me back right away. But when we are in group settings, he usually doesn't even say hi to me. He will just stare at me. He tells everyone we dated and asks my friends about me and freaked out when I got really sick recently. I asked him if we could talk about everything and he didn't respond for a few days. Everyone on this board told me he had moved on and didn't care, but the next day after all of that, I got a response from him saying he needed time, but he would like to talk to me and didn't want me to think he was ignoring me, because he would never do that. That was a week or so ago and I know this is difficult for him as well as the fact that he is busy. However, the thing that's bothering me is people's reactions to everything. People saw him break my heart into two pieces 9 months ago, and now that he's come here apart from me, people seem to think he's like this GREAT guy. Not that he's not, but not so long ago, they were telling me he was an evil jerk for breaking my heart, and now they think he's so great. They still think I'm just as great, but it hurts that they're not even taking into account how much he hurt me as they befriend him. Then yesterday a gay friend of mine started telling me how attractive my ex was and how funny and nice he was and how he wanted to be with him and that he was the nicest and funniest guy in his classes. And I was just stumped as to what to say....he's being weird with me, but is the nicest and funniest guy? I mean what do I say to that? How do I deal with things like this as they arise? I know we'll talk eventually, but I'm not going to pester him and am going to give him space because that's just ridiculous if I keep pestering him. What can I do?
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