rita Posted July 8, 2001 Posted July 8, 2001 i have a boyfriend and he is not aroused by me. im afraid he might be gay or impotent. how can i find out if a gay is still "in the closet".
Laurynn Posted July 8, 2001 Posted July 8, 2001 Try this: drop a bar of soap and see how he reacts (joke). Seriously, though...need a little more info. How long have you been together? What are your ages? Has he ever had a serious girlfriend before? Has he ever had sex with a woman before, that you know of? Has he ever mentioned what kind of childhood he had? (often times, kids who were sexually molested as children end having problems with intimacy/may even view sex as 'bad' and 'dirty'....it can bring up a lot of issues, too). Is he affectionate at all? So what you're saying is that he doesn't get an erection, right? When...when you're kissing/making out/naked and in bed? (need more info here) Has he *EVER* been aroused or is this problem something new? What is his reaction to not being aroused.....does he say anything? Does he seem uncomfortable? Embarassed? Is he under a lot of stress? Any history of depression? Is he on anti-depressants? (all of the above can cause problems getting/maintaining an erection) Laurynn
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