country gal Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Ok, I realize that I can take the initiative and ask him out .... however, here's the deal. I run into him once a week while we are both working (not same agency or office) ... and we both work with kids so whenever I do run into him we are both always surrounded. Nonetheless, we had been flirty for months last spring and then I didnt see him for a few months and now he's back and we're back to our usual flirty business. Now during round one, I was seeing someone so even though I was flirty, I was also stand-offish so I wasnt surprised that he didnt make a move (bf and I were on our last ropes - also, this guy didnt know about my bf). But I've seen him 2 times since he's been back and I've made it pretty damn clear that I'm actually interested this time - wanted to do that before I even considered asking him out - and he's been very responsive, but has not taken any initiative in trying to ask me out - or even for my number! I dont get it. I know he's interested so whats the deal??? Is it a gf thing? Am I intimidating him (I'm a few years older 27 vs 21)? I'm so confused, I dont want to ask him out b/c I dont know whats holding him back!
glittergurl Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Oh, aren't you the sex class teacher? Whow, uhmm, a 27 y/o woman and a 21y/o guy ... well uhmm, you can bet that's what's intimidating him.
Author country gal Posted November 15, 2005 Author Posted November 15, 2005 He doesnt actually know i'm 27 - and most people that guess my age say i'm 22 (some even less!) .... but assuming that he did know, if i've made my interest clear, shouldnt he make some sort of effort? He seems so mature and sure of himself in all other ways, can it really just be intimidation??
mini696 Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 I think you are being stilly and chould make the move yourself.
mrB2006 Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 It sounds like this guy is shy. I have been in those pair of shoes before. (To think of it I still am). I bet he knows that you are very interested and it is ripping him up inside. My advice, if he is shy, is to go ahead and make your move. It will probably give him some relief. (I am very shy-however if I am interested I will flirt, I just have a hard time moving beyond that). mrB2006
daisyduke Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 I think you should perhaps just go slowly with this one... Perhaps there is a film coming out that you both like, could you casually ask him out with you to see it and then you always have the option of having a drink with him before or after. From what you said, it sounds as though he is interested, but perhaps because you were a little stand offish in the past he is now worrying he is reading too much into things... Perhaps you should just be direct and take the bull by the horns and ask him out for yourself - at least that way you will know how he feels.Good luck x
Author country gal Posted November 18, 2005 Author Posted November 18, 2005 Thanks for your help all ... I guess I'll just have to bite the bullet on this one. I really dont like asking men out - I've yet to have a good experience with it.... but I suppose we'll have to see. Any suggestions on how to approach him without the intimidation factor??
d'Arthez Posted November 18, 2005 Posted November 18, 2005 If he does not know about your bf, he may have perceived it as an innocent past-time. No more, no less. Who knows? Guessing will not give you the answer. Or he hoped for more, but you killed the hope at the time by being standoffish. And if so, it takes more than a few signs of interest to where you once were (but burdened / limited by your boyfriend of the time).
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