consumed Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Here's the link to my breakup thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t74790/ Everyday since our breakup I've been having dreams about her. It makes things hard cause then I wake up and I feel down for the entire morning and sometimes the day. I also find myself staying in so that I don't miss her calls and I keep checking to see if she's online. Im sure alot of ppl experience this aswell Im just wondering how you deal with everything? Thankfully I got a job this past week which I hope will take my mind off things a llittle. The days are still really tough though, some days good, some days bad, and then some days I get up down but the day gets better but then always at night everything seems to crash down. Its been a little over a week but I still feel the shock throughout most days over and over.
brittanyjean259 Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 well a little over a week, its not shocking that you could still be in shock, its been 3 months for me....and its still a big shock to me some days, those dreams kill man i know, i had one the other night actually....of him and his new girlfriend...trying to be like nice to me...as we were all hanging out......the funyy thing is everytime i have a dream of her...i wind up smashing her face in haha its really really werid....... but i wake up miserable...... the first time we broke up.......i had them every night for the next 2 weeks....they lessended after that....but than when it hits me again ill have one that night....... there is nothing you can really do but just deal with them, people say there meaningless....but there STILL there to remind you of what happend by the way sorry this did happen to you:-(
NrclptcNSmniak Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 i think this may be my last post. it seems my presence here is uneeded. there are many other people that are just as, if not, more helpful than i am. everyone says the same thing anyway.... its been about 2 weeks since my whole drama happened with my x. i also suffer from the same thing. just try and keep yourself as busy as possible. that job should help some. hang out with your true friends as much as you can. friends are always good medicine for the heart. reading about how other people are suffering just like you is also kind of comforting. if you wish, my story is on this forum at http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t74642/. it's pretty long and pathetic but, i posted my misfortune for the sake of helping other people not feel so alone in their situations. i wish you much luck in getting over this heartbreak, and hope that you find a new love soon. ~narcoleptic insomniac
brittanyjean259 Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 yeah, its the same things, but you should still stay and give advice it could be helpful, you seem like you need a little support to, we all do
Art_Critic Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 The dreams will go away.. Give it time.. You need to start falling asleep with something else on your mind.. Read a book.. a novel.. make sure the book or novel is the last thing on your mind before you drift off to sleep.. You might want to try taking melatonin 30 mins before bed and read and your dreams will switch back to normal things..
Author consumed Posted November 15, 2005 Author Posted November 15, 2005 Throughout the day especially this past weekend and Im sure upcoming ones I find myself wondering what she is up too, thinking about where she might be, at who's house and doing what. If she is talking with other guys in her town. I mean Im sure in her small town now that guys know she is single they'll start to hit on her and thinking about that eats me alive. How do you deal with those thoughts?
Art_Critic Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Go out and find someone to hit on yourself.. you can't stop her from living her life and you need to stop thinking about it.. you guys are broken up.. think about moving on and try and stop thinking about her.. I know it's not easy.. but you really have no choice..
Author consumed Posted November 16, 2005 Author Posted November 16, 2005 Yeh it feels like hell on earth though not to be able to talk to her or see her. I just want to call her up everday and chat. I went from waking up with her last monday to the next day not being able to talk to her, or see her. I think the hardest thing was I knew 2 wks before hand that she wanted me to go back and that was it. So until I left we carried on as ussual for those 2 wks and then bam... its over. Life sucks sometimes and I hate the curveballs it sometimes throws at you. I tired to call her today but she wasn't home. She said we can be friends and keep in contact but not if Im going to bring things up when we talk because it's too hard on her. I've been able too bring things up a few times when we've chatted and it helps me because it lets me ask her things or just talk about what happened or the future. I know Im only giving myself false hope because I mean she has alot she wants to get sorted out in her life and it would be 3-4yrs at minimum before we got back together if we did. Alot can happen in 4yrs as well. She's told me not to put my life on hold for her, don't wait around, go out and find a nice girl and make a life for myself. When I talked to her this past weekend and heard was she had been up too, a party one night and then a bar It made me feel really bad. She said she was doing ok and said it in a sorta happy tone, I dunno maybe she put that on or maybe she really is happy. I know she must be going through alot of pain herself though, she must be thinking about things... I hope Im in her thoughts. Feeling like crap tonite too, its raining outside, dark, cold and Im feeling well just down the dumps. I miss her.
Author consumed Posted November 16, 2005 Author Posted November 16, 2005 Well she called me back and we spoke for a few minutes. She told me not to call as often (I only called her Sunday) but anyways she didn't say much. Asked her what she'd been up 2 but after asking twice she kinda gave a "I used the washroom twice" response. I just wanted to know what she'd been up too. Anyways after talkin for a few minutes about work and what she was up too she had to go. Said she will call next week. Man, I feel really really down now.
Author consumed Posted November 18, 2005 Author Posted November 18, 2005 My job is keeping me busy but I work in retail and most days I come across things that either remind me of her or bring up some memory Still having my up's and downs through-out the days but I just keep telling myself there ain't nothing I can do so why think about it constantly? It helps sometimes but not always.
Natalie05 Posted November 18, 2005 Posted November 18, 2005 It's been several months for me and I was having dreams about my ex - usually me taking my anger out on him in these dreams. FINALLY last night I had a dream about a guy I used to work with - in it we were having fantastic sex and I woke up with a big smile on my face. It's like I had rebound sex that was safe and confined to a dream! It was great! And today all I could think about was the guy in my dream - for once I wasn't thinking about my ex!
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