andyleagues Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Hi Everyone Looking for some sensible advice. Having just been to the continent for the weekend I was travelling on my own back to the airport when I got chatting ot this Lady. It turns out that I am 25 and she is 27. We were chatting about our interests and what we did for jobs ect and got on really well. When I got to the airport I asked her if she would liek to join me for coffee - she obliged and we went to check in. We continued chatting over cofffe and it turned out that she had to get going as she had been placed on stand by for the flight. As she was leaving she was saying it was nice to meet me etc, I then out of the blue just asked her for her email address which she gave me. It turns out that she is actually on the way to becoming a semi famous journalist. I would like some advice on whether or not I should contact her or not? Is it bad news that I instigated both the coffee and the asking of the e-mail address or is that just the way it is these days! She is certainly someone who I cant get off my mind at present! Any Advice would be welcomed from you. Thanks everyone Andy
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 That's so sweet! A great story. Of course you should email. Girls like a guy that goes for it. Let me share 2 rules of thumb with you: It's ok to persist as long as she is still being friendly and receptive. Take your cue from how she responds. So invite her to do stuff as long as she is still agreeing to meet up. Send her emails, but reply roughly as often and with a similar timing to her. Don't make her your life. Have plenty of other things going on and sometimes allow her to miss you for a couple of days. But within these 2 rules, take as much initiative as you please - she'll enjoy it.
Author andyleagues Posted November 15, 2005 Author Posted November 15, 2005 Hi thanks for the advice. email is sent!!!!! so fingers crossed
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 Exciting! Keep us updated as the story continues
Author andyleagues Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 Hey, Well after just less than a week, when the dissalution was starting to set in I received an email today from her. However although I am so glad that I have received an email from her, the response was pretty well guarded. She thanked me for asking if she had got back safely and said that it was nice meeting to me too, but closed with 'good luck with your course' (as in my postgraduate) that we talked about when we first met and ended by saying take care. There seemed to be nothing in the email that suggested she wanted a reply! I.E. a question posed towards me etc? Is she just want to be pursued? Any advice on what to do next would be much appreciated!!! Thanks Andy
Art_Critic Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Any advice on what to do next would be much appreciated!!! Sorry Andy.. She is not interested and is just being nice.. Leave her be and don't send anymore emails.
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Agreed. The "good luck with your course" thing is a polite way of saying that she won't see you in the meantime. People give out emails but then change their minds. Chalk it up to experience and move on.
Author andyleagues Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 Thanks guys for the feedback. At least your all honest!!! Any optimists out there, however? Cheers Andy
Art_Critic Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Are you looking for someone to give ya some hope and tell you contact her again ? It's not a matter of optimism or pessimism.. She just isn't into you and was being nice.
westernxer Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Any optimists out there, however? You want us to lie to you?
Author andyleagues Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 No I like honesty always and thank you for it Its just when you meet someone you always look at ways that it could be! Blinded by love or something like that anyway. I guess you just want it to happen thats all Cheers:(
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Its just when you meet someone you always look at ways that it could be! Hot tip for the future: if you're with a girl you like, having coffee, then focus on the fact that you're with a girl you like. Enjoy the moment. Don't build a future until you've been dating for a while and have signs of commitment from her. Otherwise you just expose yourself to heartbreak.
westernxer Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Well, you can always contact her if you plan on visiting the city she lives in. Other than that, don't do long distance. Just for curiosity's sake, what do you mean when you say she's on her way to becoming a "semi-famous journalist?"
Author andyleagues Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 basically she works for someone in the UK who if I mentioned it, there is a chance that people would know her. the reason for semi is that she isnt a household name but if you are in touch with her particular area you definately know her! cheers for the advice mate
Art_Critic Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 the reason for semi is that she isnt a household name but if you are in touch with her particular area you definately know her! All the more reason for her to be nice to you and not burn bridges
whichwayisup Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 but closed with 'good luck with your course' Sadly that means: Sorry, we are not going to happen...But wishing you well!
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