missingj Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Hi everyone I have a bit of a crush on a guy who is doing his prac studies at my work. We have been chatting and I think he's cute, smart and funny. Anyway I was planning on asking him out for a drink tomorrow afternoon but to soften the blow in case I get rejected I was going to ask him to join me with my friends. Is this a good approach?
Sevenmack Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 No. Softening the blow in this way merely creates more confusion for the both of you than it's worth. Just be brave and ask him out. If he's interested, he'll say yes; if not, you just move on to the next potential lover. There's plenty more from which he came.
slubberdegullion Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Sevenmack is absolutely right. Take the initiative, because life rewards action. Besides, if you ask him to join you with a bunch of friends, he's more likely to think that you're slamming him into the friend zone from which there is little chance of escape. But a one-on-one meeting with him clarifies your interest. Go for it. And good luck!
country gal Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 agreed.... you already are taking the more cautious approach by asking him for a drink vs asking him to dinner - coffee would be even more cautious if you wanted to be.... but forget the friends and just ask.
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