hbeezee Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Hey guys and gals... What are some of the ways you have surprised your SO? Or how have you been surprised? Maybe romantic, or humorous? Did it work? Were there any "misfires"? I am working on one right now: I havent seen my GF for about 2 months. I am however going back to spend thanksgiving with her. She thinks I am flying in this coming Sunday, but I am actually showing up on Friday, renting a car, and going out to surprise her while she is out with some friends. I was thinking of sending her a drink, or a note while she is at the bar... having her turn my direction, and SURPRISE! hope this one doesnt backfire! Only thing is... what do I put on the note? Anyone got any other ideas?
AlmostMarried77 Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 I'm doing a very similar thing with my wife this christmas, although its going to be tricky as i'll have to be out of contact for the 16 hour flight which will look a bit fishy. But yeah - suprises are very good
Walk Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 I know surprises back fire all the time. Probably more then they work. But as long as you are can go with the flow, accept that the outcome may not be what you had planned, then they're great. If you've got it in your head that it's going to be a set way, then you're setting yourself up for failure. I tried surprising my bf one time, he wasn't "cooperating" as I had planned it. I ended up feeling hurt because I thought he'd love it, but he didn't. It didn't go well. But I learned that if you're going to surprise someone, always remember it's for them, not you. So go with the flow, and don't get upset if it doesn't work the way you thought. Don't get upset, and make sure you're able to adapt to whatever situation arises. Don't get mad if it doesn't work, or hurt, or upset.
Hot Coco Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 I surprised my H when we were engaged. Here's the story: We hadn't decided where we would go on our honeymoon. He said he really didn't care...maybe the west coast. He said he'd leave it up to me and I could make all the arrangements without consulting him. Anyway, I researched all kinds of places and kind of settled on the San Francisco, Nothern California area. It's just gorgeous there. I'd been there with my ex and thought it would be a good idea to make new memories with my H. And he'd never been there before. Anyway, at that time (almost 11 years ago) the fares to the West Coast were outrageous! (I guess they still are but I don't know.) I hung up with the travel agent and said to myself "damn! I bet we could go to Europe for less!" Plus I think our dollar went further back then. So just for fun I checked out airfares to Paris. And yup, sure enough it was the same (or less...I can't remember now) to fly to Paris! I booked 2 flights right then and there. I was going to keep it a surprise for our wedding day but of course I couldn't contain myself. One night he asked me if I'd taken care of our flights. He was thinking at that time that we were going to California. I told him I did and then I didn't say anything. But I was bursting! I went and got the tickets and put them in his hands. He said "Great!" and put them down without looking at them. ARGH! I told him to look at them. He said he didn't need to that he trusted it was all in order and we'd be flying into S.F. I told him to please just look at them and make sure all was ok. So he looks at the ticket and suddenly his eyes got HUGE! What?!!! Paris? What is this? Wow! What a moment! I'll never forget it! It was incredible.
Walk Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 I was also thinking... Send her a postcard saying something cryptic, like "You will meet a tall, dark, and handsome stranger on Friday X" (or blonde, blue eyed..) Make it so she'll be expecting something, but won't know what. Or you could send her flowers, with a note attached. Possible quotes: *Who so loves believes the impossible. Elizabeth Barrett Browning *The pain of parting is nothing to the joy of meeting again. Charles Dickens *In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged. Hans Nouwens quotes Anyway, just some ideas... She'll be happy to see you no matter what you do!
Gold Pile Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Someone's got to post the flip side. You might suprize your SO in the company of another. Never happened to me, but I've seen it happen to others.
Author hbeezee Posted November 16, 2005 Author Posted November 16, 2005 Someone's got to post the flip side. You might suprize your SO in the company of another. Never happened to me, but I've seen it happen to others. THATS the backfire I was talking about. Cuz in order for me to pull this off... I have to basically find out somehow where she is going to be that night.. And I dont know her friends that well... But I trust her, so we will see. I am keeping a positive outlook. Anyone had the opposite happen? Like surprise to your SO in company with someone you wouldnt approve, or worse, doing something?
Walk Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 Can you call her mom and see if her mom will play along with this? Find out where she's going without giving away the secret? Or if you can narrow it down to a few places, then it probably wouldnt' be too much work to find her.
Author hbeezee Posted November 16, 2005 Author Posted November 16, 2005 Can you call her mom and see if her mom will play along with this? Find out where she's going without giving away the secret? Or if you can narrow it down to a few places, then it probably wouldnt' be too much work to find her. I thought about these things... dont know if she tells her mom where she's going anyways. Mom is a devout Christian (nothing wrong with this... my mom is too...) and doesnt like to know her daughter is going out to nightclubs or bars. So mom is out... There is a list of about 10 places she goes depending on which friends she is with. I dont even know who she is going to go out with that night. I never usually ask, and I'm afraid if I did, she would think I was worrying... (dealt with that issue already in the past) So my only true, sure-fire way of doing it is to try to cut her off as she is leaving her apartment... and follow her. I just dont want this to look stalkish you know! How do I do that without her thinking I am checking up on her? I might just have to surprise her before she goes out... but that isnt the fantasy she had. It was to be out with some friends and turn around and see me standing there or come through the door. Anyone had any experience with things like this?
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