LucreziaBorgia Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 1. I am thinking I might tell him that we can't go down this road. 2. I still feel like I would just really want to have sex with him though, especially since he understands that I would never make any demands on him to leave his family. 1. The best choice, which you probably will not end up making because ... 2. of this. If you decide to go through with this - and chances are you will since you want to and he isn't exactly turning you down flat (though I wonder if he will take it past kissing since he already gave you the 'afraid of my feelings' excuse to keep you at a certain safe distance from his marriage) - a good deal of people in this stage of the game end up going with their heart regardless of what logic tells them to do. All you can do is to try as best as you can not to get emotionally attached. It won't be easy - your biology itself pretty much guarantees you will with oxytocin, but if you try to separate yourself perhaps you can by the force of will turn your mind from it. Or... you can circumvent a good deal of mess by simply turning away from this altogether and end your "friendship" with this man. Your actual genuine friendship ended the second it turned physical so it isn't like you will be losing something you haven't already on some level lost.
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