I'm the MM, I love my "OW", we split but I can't go on without her.

[newbby]

i dont understand whats to choose? you are clearly very unhappy with your wife, for whatever reason you bring out the worst in each other, you dont love her. you do love the ow, on the other hand. i think you are using your wife as a reason to not be vunerable, somewhere inside you dont think you are worthy of real love and it has led you so far to bad choice 1: wife, 2: pushing away true love-ow. you need to get over it fast, before you lose ow for good.

[newbby]

Get a life & set your wife free, she deserves to be with a man who really loves her not someone that is staying with her for finanical gains.

 

I hope your "OW" dumps you like trash and cheats on you - u so deserve it!!

 

i think this response is verrry strange coming from you mandy. hmmm

[whichwayisup]

Get a life & set your wife free, she deserves to be with a man who really loves her not someone that is staying with her for finanical gains.

 

I hope your "OW" dumps you like trash and cheats on you - u so deserve it!!

I was thinking the exact same thing. Mandy, considering YOUR situaiton about allowing an affair to happen between you and your MARRIED dentist, your response here isn't appropriate!

[newbby]

its not i felt it innappropriate, just out of character.

 

well that just confirms our suspicions then.

[crazy_grl]

Get a life & set your wife free, she deserves to be with a man who really loves her not someone that is staying with her for finanical gains.

 

I hope your "OW" dumps you like trash and cheats on you - u so deserve it!!

 

I agree with newbby and WWIU. How can you judge delmin so harshly and be so rude to him, yet "your MM" is some wonderful knight in shining armour. Talk about hypocritical...

[crazy_grl]

delmin, when I first started reading, I thought you should just get the divorce and let your wife move on with her life. But it sounds like you two have a lot of issues built up and never dealt with over the years that you should try to work out and make sure you really don't love your W before you leave her. To make that work though, you have to make a choice to forget about the other woman...

 

I also think you need to get some individual counseling for yourself, because without getting yourself together, you might just end up in the exact same situation (the cheating, etc) with the OW as you're in with your wife.

[RecordProducer]

1. You fear being single. You're only 35! So many men are not even married YET at your age. You have two women who love you so you're pretty popular, which means if you lost both women, you could still find a new one - it's not like nobody ever wants you, right?

 

2. You fear that the OW will leave you. Anyone can leave you. Even your wife, she must be mad enough at you so she can cheat on you and divorce you for another guy, but you're not afraid of that because you don't love her. So how comfortable are you in a bad marriage? What you really fear is that your heart will be broken. Well, your heart has to be broken from time to time. I would see it as a chance to be happy... with the OW or someone else.

 

3. You don't want to lose financially. Is money more important to you than happiness? Does money make you happier than love? Do you like your house or vacations that you share with the woman you don't love? Do you think you will never earn what you have now?

 

You might regret missing the chance to be happy with the right woman for the rest of your life. Sometimes you have to do a major cut that hurts in order to improve things... just like surgery.