lonely4you Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 well he has my phone number now and i invited him to hang out and he was unable to go but said he had no plans over the weekend. i got no call one so ever. nothing nada! then today he says hi to me and all....he is a shy guy is that why he aint calling or what is it?
wantedandhopeless Posted November 17, 2005 Posted November 17, 2005 Hey! Well... I have the girl i likes phone number.. cell and home... but ive never phoned them... am i suspose to???? Anyways, just because he isn't phoning doesnt mean he doesnt like you... If he is shy, phoning may be extremley hard for him. he may have other people in the house who he doesnt want to have listening in on his convos.. He may just have copied your phone number down wrong and has tried phoning it only to find that it isnt the right phone number. Next time you see him, try to plan something and then say something like, "you have my number right??" and if he does, and he likes you.. he'll probably have it memorized... (ive memorized the girl i like's phone number.. even if ive never used it ). If he doesnt have it memorized, well, its not the end of the world... he may just have a bad memory. The only real way to get him to phone you is to GIVE HIM A TIME AND DATE. As in, "hey! so-and-so, want to do something Saturday?" if he replies "Sure.", then say "OK, great, phone me at (time) Saturday so we can figure out what were doing. See ya!" and then leave.. dont leave him room to say anything else besides mabey bye or talk to you later or something. Then what Saturday comes around, if he doesnt call, well, he may just be very very shy, but he most likely isnt interested... sorry. By giving him a date and time, it lets him know that your free at that point. He's probably worried that if he phones you saturday and your like.. sorry can't. that if he phones you sunday he'll sound desperate... worries himself to death over this and never ends up phoning.. ---------- One last thing: Dont ever show him signs that you may not like him... Always show him signs that you do.. the slightest sign of you not liking him will cause great uncertainty in him. It will drive him crazy. I would know.. the girl i like is doing exactly that.. she doing the, i'll say yes to going out, but then change my mind later and go, "i want to, but im soo busy....." meaning yes and no. Then try to set us up for date but of course ive already made plans so its a no go.. Basically, my heads on the verge of exploding... If you really like him, make everything you say to him simple... none of those "I want to, but im soo busy", just a yes or no. ---------- The fact that he said, IM free over the weekend, to me, would imply that he wanted you to phone him because he doesnt know your schedule.. you know his!!! He might just be waiting for you to phone him as you are waiting for him to phone you
Jules Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 ya hi actually id like to know why guys dont call aswell. ive seen it before situations where guys like the girl but dont call or text and it looks as though they're not interested. is it the whole playing hard to get act or what. guys are mad!!!!
LN8840K Posted November 24, 2005 Posted November 24, 2005 by the time a man reaches the age of 21 he has been rejected about a half million times or so ...so yes it may be he is afraid of rejection or he doesnt want to come off as desperate or he is not into you .... why dont you call him
solsta Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 if he is super into you he would call. If you have given him all the signals he can't be that clueless to not know you like him, you already asked him to hang out once. make him work for you!
flowergirl Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 Lonely: I hate to tell you this, but the fact that this guy hasn't called you yet isn't a good sign. Believe me, I've been through all the drama and making excuses for guys. The guy I'm dating makes sure he calls me on the phone, and he doesn't even like talking on the phone, but he's interested in talking to me, so he makes the effort. I'd say go put forth emotional effort on someone who does show you interest. Good luck.
whichwayisup Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 Why not call him, and tell him you were disappointed that he didn't call you that weekend to hook up. Ask him if he is shy and still interested or just say are we better off as friends. I guarantee he'll answer you. Don't get into alot of detail about it, make it short sweet and to the point. The less drama the better.
LN8840K Posted November 25, 2005 Posted November 25, 2005 I really hate to tell you ladies this , but I'm going to go against you and say FROM A MAN, JUST BECAUSE HE DOES NOT CALL DOES NOT MEAN HE IS NOT INTO YOU ............... THE MORE I LIKE A WOMAN THE HARDER IT IS FOR ME TO CALL, IF A WOMAN IS A FRIEND I CAN CALL HER 24 TIMES IN 3 HOURS, SOMETIMES YOU WANT TO MAKE SURE THE INTEREST IS MUTUAL AND SEE IF SHE CALLS, SO IF YOU WANNA SIT AROUND AND TELL EACH OTHER HE IS JUST NOT INTO YOU, GO FOR IT .......... OR YOU CAN CALL HIM AND YOU MAY BE SUPRISED AND HE MAY START CHASING YOU BECAUSE HE KNOWS YOU ARE INTERESTED THERE IS A FINE LINE BETWEEN STALKING AND PURSUIT AND YOU DONT WANNA BE LABLED A STALKER
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