dahlia Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Hi everyone! I was just wondering--can anyone shed some light on this. yes, my b/f of 3 yrs left me, so it's a no-brainer there, but, here's my question: Why did he ignore me all of the time? Never sleep in the same room with me? Never want sex? Never call me at work anymore? We lived together. He used to laugh in my face when we would fight and I would be upset b/c I never received any attention from him. why would someone treat me like that? What possesses someone to act this way? I need to find closure with this, b/c I don't ever want it to happen again. Thanks!
Sloppy Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 You allowed him to do that. You stuck around, letting him step on your face and kick you in the head. He did you a favor by leaving. Learn self-respect and to value your self. There are people who will appreciate it and treat you the same way - with respect.
Jellostick Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 My ex broke up w/ me after a 3 month relationship where we were extremely close and loved each other. Now she treats me like I meant nothing. It hurt, it hurt a lot and I tried asking myself why someone can act one way and then act totally different after it's over. I was dumbfounded because I felt I needed to understand why this person was treating me the way they were because it made absolutely no sense. I would never treat someone like that unless they deserved it and I don't feel I deserve the reaction I'm getting from my ex. But instead of me focusing on the "why", I'm focusing on the "I'm better than that piece of trash and they're not worth my time and energy." Screw my ex and screw yours as well. Sometimes it's not worth focusing on why they did what they did because ultimately they aren't worth it. Focus on yourself. For once in my life I'm focusing on me and believing in me and knowing that I'm worth it, not someone who blames others instead of blaming themselves. Stop sweating him. If he's going to treat you like crap then he's not worth your energy. The only thing that means anything now is you. He's done and over w/, now it's time for you to think about you. Cheers.
chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 It is scary how people can just change, almost like a switch has been pressed, my ex was the same, one day all "i love you so much, more than i ever have anyone ever.. when are we moving in together etc." to a week later not even looking at me and completely ignoring me like she hated me. She won't even say hi to me if she sees me in the street now (and she broke it off!!) It is terrifying, and I ask myself if she could do that, surely anyone could? But I guess that's part of life... at least we found out that awful side of them now (and it is a HUGE character flaw) rather than 5 years down the line when we're married.
NoFaith05 Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 I agree with Chocolate Boy. This has happened to me not once, not twice, but THREE times now! It really scares me from wanting to get involved with any other girl ever again.
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