future Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 Twentythree years ago my finance broke off an engagement a few months before we were supposed to get married. Never really got a good explanation as to why but I moved on and got on with my life. Anyway, just out of curiousity I found her email address on the Classmates website and wrote to just see how life had turned out for her. Any hostility I had over the years was dead and gone. To make a long story short, she wanted to apologize to me and meet with me so I said I would. I got divorced last year so I figured we'd just talk about stuff and maybe we'd become friends. Well, she is divorced and has a grandkid and is jumping up and down at the thought that we can just pick up where we left off before the engagement ended. I'm not nearly as excited at this and don't quite know how to say anything like, "babe your nice, but this is really moving too fast, and I mean too fast for me." I could use some advice on this if anyone could give me a thought or two.
Art_Critic Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 I think its great.. But as old friends.. Remember that you guys are REAL different people today.. She is even a grandmother.. You both carry life baggage and can not pick it up where it was left off.. Go slowly and don't get all wrapped up in the old times and think about your future instead of the past
kitkat826 Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 My best friend's mother dated a man in college for a year, and then broke up with him. She ended up meeting my friend's father, got married, had my friend and her sister, and got divorced. About five years ago, THIRTY years after they had orginally broken up, she started seeing the guy from college again. He had been married and divorced with kids as well. After five years of a long distance relationship between CT and Ohio, he finally moved here to CT to live with her, and as far as I know they are doing well. I have never seen this women look so happy, and I have known her my entire life. It happens.
Author future Posted November 15, 2005 Author Posted November 15, 2005 I talked to her tonight when she called and told her that things were going way too fast and they needed to slow down. I'm sure she might be disappointed but I know that I'm not the same person I was back then and I know she's not the same. Anyway, we'll see how it goes and thanks for your advice.
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