I cheated with a prostitute and screwed up my life.

[Zelda]

I have been very very happily married for 3 years. I got out of a bad relationship with a cheating wife prior to meeting my dream woman. Everything was perfect, great life, great career, great home and to top it off we just had our baby girl 2 months ago! I am the happiest man on the planet, love my family and love my wife with every ounce of my soul!

 

For some reason I went out and found a prostitute! Not only did I find a prostitute but I planned this encounter for a week, got a disposable cell phone made an afternoon appointment and booked the hotel room. I had this encounter with this prostitute and of course got caught due to some sloppy web surfing at home. I tried to lie my way out of it but ended up confessing the whole thing.

 

My question is why do men feel the need to do this? I have just ruined my life and the life of the person that I love the most and now will not be able to be present at all of my daughters milestones, if this goes the way that I expect. I had it all and I can't even explain to myself why I let this happen. I will try to do what I can to keep this together but my wife will not be able to forget, forgive maybe but not forget!

 

Her first husband died in an accident and left her with an autistic son, now with this special needs son and a newborn baby girl how can I live with myself for doing this? - How much can a woman go through in her life. I never meant to hurt her, breech her trust and ruin our relationship. She now hates me. I am a very good person. Why did I do this and just ruin her life and everything we had built together?

 

Why why why did I think I had this need. There were 0 problems, I was happier than happy, our personal relationship was outstanding our sex life was unmatched and we were going to try to have another baby! Why Why Why did I have to screw the perfect life up with the perfect wife?

[guest764538568]

Off the top of my head, if everything was truly perfect then...

 

Are you a gluten for punishment? Do you sabatoge yourself?

 

Are you really happy in the situation? Are you screwing up to have an excuse to get out of it?

 

Are you so bored/disatisified with your life that you need a little excitement? Or maybe a closet sex addict?

 

Or did you just screw up, make a mistake and deserve a second chance? My feelings are that if you did, she will realise you are a good person and take you back - be patient

 

Good luck

[SincereOnlineGuy]

There were 0 problems, I was happier than happy, our personal relationship was outstanding our sex life was unmatched and we were going to try to have another baby! Why Why Why did I have to screw the perfect life up with the perfect wife?

 

 

We can't answer effectively unless you're willing to tell us the truth.

 

Be more honest, please.

[Israfil]

Some things I would like to know:

 

1. Are there any problems in your marriage? (Be honest) Not what other people may think of as perfect, but things you are not happy about. Perhaps you are not happy with a conventional marriage?

 

2. Have you ever had sexual fantasies outside of the realm of “normalcy?” IE: do you often fantasize about illicit sexual activities, sex with adolescents, men, she-males, Dominatrixes, prostitutes etc.?

 

3. Was your wife your first sex partner?

 

4. Did you see your wife give birth?

[glittergurl]

4. Did you see your wife give birth?

 

OMG please don't tell me this is a traumatizing experience for guys that will turn them off forever lol or I won't let my husband in the day I have a baby!

[Gold Pile]

Your wife caught you via sloppy web surfing. So now you posted this so she can read it.

 

One trouble with your plan, she knows that you know she hacks into your web history.