sierra22 Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 alright after about 6 years of mental abuse from my mom I am an under-confident 16 year old guy with too low of self-esteem. i posted the story of my moms mental abuse in the family section. anyway, my mom has lowered my self-esteem so much that im afraid to talk to girls in real life. i know this is obviously a very common problem among horny teenaged boys, but its just different for me. i have friends who always consider me a 'ladies man' even though i hardly ever talk to women, i think its just because of my look. but im pretty reclusive and very shy and uncomfortable in social situations with people i dont know or can't relate to. the last time i had a girlfriend was 1 year ago and she broke up with me because i was too afraid to make a move. the girlfriend i had before that was in 4th grade, which is 7 years ago now. my friends always make fun of me because im the only virgin in the group. but im always too afraid to talk to girls and when i do i can never think of the right thing to say and we end up talking about irrelevant stuff like the weather. i just need to know if theres anything i can do to improve me attitude or become more outgoing? and no im not just trying to score some so my friends will get off my ass, im afraid that ill end up alone and not in a marriage or dating relationship because im too afraid to commit or even start a relationship. HELP!!!
Outcast Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 As long as you think of 'girls' as some sort of separate species, you'll have trouble. Don't you have a sister? She's a girl. Girls are just human beings. Talk to them as if they are guys but don't ask them to join you in farting contests.
Author sierra22 Posted November 14, 2005 Author Posted November 14, 2005 also, its just hard to mantain a decent conversation with a girl because my vernacular can sometimes be more sophisticated than the average girl my age. so i dont have much to say because im not as much in tune with hip-hop artists and MTV as many teenagers are. im trying to be as modest as possible, you have to realize that im very insecure and im not gloating about anything. but i really have to downplay my vocabulary a lot so a girl can understand me. sometimes i wont and she will just say "what's that mean?".. im lost , help! and for outcast, i dont think of them as seperate species. and its not so much i have trouble talking to girls, i have trouble talking to everyone in fear of "what they will think of me", a fact in my mind that im trying to work around. im just pretty shy at first to to all people . my friends would say the oppisite, im very loud and outspoken and very humorous. its just getting past the first introductory obstacle that is my problem.
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