Cricket1967 Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 This is my first time to the forums. My husband and I have been married for 15 years. We have two beautiful daughters. Last years I found out that my husband had an affair, which lasted three months. They went to a motorcycle ralley together in Florida. Which lasted Thursday - Sunday. He says he didn't sleep with her that he was just some place that he shouldn't have been. I never really felt he was truly sorry. However, I did try to work it out with him. This girl knew of us and had been around us (me and my girls) She is his cousin's wife's sister. (Hope that makes sense)! Then he starts lying about the places he goes and then he tries to make out like its nothing (He was at a bar close to home). I had asked him time and time again not to go there anymore, yet he still would. We had been there together a few times. He would hide his cell phone and keys to his truck from me so I couldn't go through his things. So one night I finally get up the nerve to look through his things and find three different girls phone numbers from that bar just down the street. He says he didnt ever do anything with these ppl. but How can I believe that. I don't even know how I am supposed to feel. I feel very hurt and betrayed yet again. I really would like some advise on what I should feel or believe or think. What does it sound like to you? I hope this makes sense and I didn't ramble. Thank you for your time and thoughts! Christie
seachange Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 If you're wondering whether you have a right to feel betrayed and angry, then my answer is yes. He may or may not be telling the truth about whether he did anything with any other girls on a particular night. Right now you have no proof that he's lying about that. BUT. He has collected at least three phone numbers from other women. And there's just no good reason for him to have them. None. He's hiding things from you and lying about where he's been. And, he has already cheated in the past, and shown that he's capable of extensive lying and covering of his tracks. It's shady, any way you look at it. I'm sorry.
harleygirl92156 Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 He went on a vacation to a motorcycle rally with her for three days and didn't have sex with her?? YOU DON'T BELIEVE THAT DO YOU???
Cat-ty Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 a lot of guys r f*cked up asses who don't realize what they have is good. i feel alot of sympathy for you in your situation bcuz u have children involved. if u didn't have children i'd say dump his a** but u have your kids to think about. I'm not sure exactly what u should do. see if things get any better...if they don't you and your daughters may be better off w/o him.
Author Cricket1967 Posted November 16, 2005 Author Posted November 16, 2005 Seachange...Thanks for your thoughts and advise! He went on a vacation to a motorcycle rally with her for three days and didn't have sex with her?? YOU DON'T BELIEVE THAT DO YOU??? That's exactly what I said too!!!! Cat-ty.... I know the girls are what really makes it hard....
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