jasmine111 Posted November 13, 2005 Posted November 13, 2005 Theres this guy that i like and he says he likes me too, but i'm 99% sure hes just trying to get in my pants. If i get with him i think i'll end up with a 'friend with benefits' relationship. I'm kind of ok with that because hes really hot, but that sounds wrong, yet i can't really picture me going out with him either. Ok nvm I'm 100% sure he just wants to sleep with me , considering everything i've heard from everyone. I know listening to rumors is bad, but when you hear enough of them from enough people (especially one from your best friend) you start to believe them. And i know they're true. He's really confusing and complicated, he sends a lot of mix messages even know it seems he'll go for any girl. One day hes hitting on me a lot, the next he acts like im just another person. He's different from other guys, he's definitely a sweet talker and he seems like he really has respect for girls and cares about me...but then at other times it seems like he's like any other guy who goes around and just want to sleep with me. Are you as confused as i am? Anyways now he wants to talk about some text messages we've been sending eachother. I texted him telling him to call me tomorrow about it and he texted me back saying "how about now" i didnt answer him hoping he would think i didnt have time and i wasnt at the phone because i needed a reason to talk to him tomorrow for something that im not going to get into. and now he hasnt called in like 5 days. Is this another one of his mixed messages or is he really over me? Im so confused, i dont want to be another whore, but at the same time i really like him and kind of dont care if he is just a friend with benefits.
kitkat826 Posted November 13, 2005 Posted November 13, 2005 You are right, he 100% just wants to get into your pants. So you shouldn't go ahead with it unless you in turn are 100% sure that you want a FWB relationship. Since you sound unsure of this in your post, I would say forget about it. It's not worth the potential heart ache, no matter how cute he is. Also, FWB relationships are only successful when you have a strong, respectful foundation. He doesn't even sound like he'd be capable of that. On top of that, just because he's cute doesn't mean he's good in bed. So you could very well be wasting your time and end up disappointed anyway. I hate to sound pessimistic, but I've seen a lot of people end up upset over what was supposed to be just a fun FWB relationship.
Sloppy Posted November 13, 2005 Posted November 13, 2005 Kitka, very true. Entering a FWB relationship thinking it will never be anything but that is lying to your self. Sooner or later one involved party will have a change of heart, and one party will get hurt because of developing feelings for the "friend". jasmine, your post sounds like you have feelings for this guy already. My opinion is that if you let this "hunk" to pull your panties down, you will regret it. Keep us posted
Author jasmine111 Posted November 13, 2005 Author Posted November 13, 2005 Thanks, thats what i thought you guys would say. Great advice, i KNEW thats what i should be doing and I know i'll regret doing it, but...i'll also regret not doing it. And your right i do have feelings for him, damn. Well, i doubt he's going to call be back and i regret sort of avoiding him now. So i guess i already got hurt *sigh*
Author jasmine111 Posted November 14, 2005 Author Posted November 14, 2005 Scratch that, surprisingly, after reading many posts and reading everyone's problems and advice that has nothing to do with my problem helped me. I'm completely over this guy. He's actually kind of disgusting now and looking at my past posts im kind of embarrassed because i look like a dumb whore.
kitkat826 Posted November 15, 2005 Posted November 15, 2005 He's actually kind of disgusting now and looking at my past posts im kind of embarrassed because i look like a dumb whore. LOL. That's probably a little harsh, but I appreciate your honesty!
dreaming4ever Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Wow I have kind of a similar situation going on except for the guy that I'm already doing FWB with is a really nice guy, he's just not ready for a relationship yet and is still getting over the heartbreak from his last one. Now I feel bad for going on with it, but god he's GORGEOUS and I would completely want to date him b/c he's really sweet and nice. Good job to you for not succumbing to evil temptation like I have.
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