mazza32cott Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 I am an accountant and run my own business. Some people have said that some men feel threatened by this. Don't worry I am not about to give up my business but I am just wondering why do men feel threatened? Should I not say anything about my occupation when I meet someone?
konfuzd Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 I'm trying to figure this out myself. I'm an architect and think it's a huge hurdle in the dating scene. I personally think it should be an asset as you are not going to depend on him to pay for everything, you have other things consuming a lot of your time an energy, so you aren't going to be obnoxiously clingy... but yeah, guys seem to be intimidated, feel belittled by a successful woman and want to maintain their primative role as provider. I don't think you should hide your career from your dates, because it's something you work hard for and should be proud of, not be ashamed of it because of some silly male ego issue. I guess you can only hope like I do to find someone who can accept you for who you are and all you have to offer regardless of your professional status.
Author mazza32cott Posted November 12, 2005 Author Posted November 12, 2005 The only problem I see with it is that I can be very busy at times. Just cant work out this ego business. What is it? Maybe some guys can enlighten us...
Author mazza32cott Posted November 12, 2005 Author Posted November 12, 2005 Is it a power thing? Is it because we are independent so in their mond we don't actually NEED them to get on?
konfuzd Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 I've tried posting the same question on this board before, and didn't get any male responses... I personally think it is a issue of insecurity. If a guy doesn't make as much money as his woman, he feels as though she'll leave him for someone with a bigger wallet (which is not the case at all!). Pop culture holds all these gold digging women in the spotlight, and thus we are all seen that way. Even if a guy is successful in his career, he wants to hold the financial card. Have you ever noticed that when guy screws up, he goes out and buys you something to make up for it, or he'll take you to a nice restaurant? If he knows you can have these things without him, he knows he can't bribe you to come back to him when he acts like a complete tool. I would love to see some male opinions on this, and how to get it through their heads that a successful woman is an asset, not a liability.
pippen_2k Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 Im male and its not even a factor I consider when dating someone... no intimidation at all... but thats just me.
TUDOR Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 There could be numerous reasons for this, men are naturally competitive, image in the eyes of other men and being with a women that makes more money than you, image in the eyes of family, so on and so forth. Men are very proud creatures which is why so many have a hard time from walking away from a fight for example, in this case their pride gets in the way over not being the bread winner. And yes insecurity plays a huge part in it. But the men that don't let their pride get in the way have no problem with a succesful woman. Personally I find a successful woman who is also very independant, smart, and passionate about her career as a good thing and nothing to be intemidated by.
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