ThatGuy2 Posted February 17, 2024 Posted February 17, 2024 So I texted this girl which I saw a lot in my accom and we really didn’t talk much too much just brief conversations. I like her alot, so I got the courage to text her (would of done it in person but I don’t see her everyday), ask her for coffee said I want to getto know her better. She she’d love to but she is busy for the next couple of weeks. She didn’t give an exact times. Should I continue texting her to start a connection or should I wait for her to get back and take this as a rejection. I’m crushing hard and I don’t want to screwup. I’m fairly new to the whole dating game
Rider on the Storm Posted February 17, 2024 Posted February 17, 2024 (edited) 54 minutes ago, ThatGuy2 said: So I texted this girl which I saw a lot in my accom and we really didn’t talk much too much just brief conversations. I like her alot, so I got the courage to text her (would of done it in person but I don’t see her everyday), ask her for coffee said I want to getto know her better. She she’d love to but she is busy for the next couple of weeks. She didn’t give an exact times. Should I continue texting her to start a connection or should I wait for her to get back and take this as a rejection. I’m crushing hard and I don’t want to screwup. I’m fairly new to the whole dating game Unfortunately, if she was crushing equally as hard, she probably wouldn't have told you that she's too busy to have a coffee for the next couple of weeks. If she happens to reach out to you, great. If not, that opens the door to you finding someone who does have the time for that coffee. Edited February 17, 2024 by Rider on the Storm
Wiseman2 Posted February 17, 2024 Posted February 17, 2024 How much do you really know about her? Are you connected on social media or in the same classes or have mutual friends? What is accom? Do you live in the same dormitory or apt building? How do you have her number? It's possible she's "busy" but depending on what you know about her she could also have a BF or is simply being polite and sidestepping it. Unusually people aren't "too busy" for what they're interested in.
Author ThatGuy2 Posted February 17, 2024 Author Posted February 17, 2024 20 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: How much do you really know about her? Are you connected on social media or in the same classes or have mutual friends? What is accom? Do you live in the same dormitory or apt building? How do you have her number? It's possible she's "busy" but depending on what you know about her she could also have a BF or is simply being polite and sidestepping it. Unusually people aren't "too busy" for what they're interested in. Accom means accommodation. We both go to university and live in the same building. I spoke to her a few times and that’s it
FredEire Posted February 17, 2024 Posted February 17, 2024 (edited) 1 hour ago, Rider on the Storm said: Unfortunately, if she was crushing equally as hard, she probably wouldn't have told you that she's too busy to have a coffee for the next couple of weeks. If she happens to reach out to you, great. If not, that opens the door to you finding someone who does have the time for that coffee. This. I've found if a girl/guy isn't into you you'll be making all the effort, texting first and she'll only have excuses about how busy she is. If they're into you they'll be texting first, most of the time responding quickly, wondering how your day is and when you're next going to meet up. There's also the half-interested type who'll engage in a big conversation when it suits them and just hit you with a "hahaha" when they don't feel they need attention/validation. Probably the most crazy-making of all. Either way, it doesn't sound like this girl is all that keen, unfortunately. Edited February 17, 2024 by FredEire
Alpacalia Posted February 17, 2024 Posted February 17, 2024 You're not screwing anything up by showing interest. She sounds on the fence, though. I'd avoid appearing over interested by staying off the topic of dating. Just be chill and casual and don't ask her out again. When you see her, you two can laugh and catch up on random stuff. If anything comes of it, it will come from her.
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