What to do... need suggestions

[j819]

I've been dating this guy for about a year. We get along great except he has this problem of pulling his hair out and picking his scalp. I can't take it when he does it. I get all anxious and nervous and want him to stop. I've talked to him about it and he will not get help. I'm sure its hard for him but its hard for me to watch him hurt himself. Lately, he's been doing it more and more. He does it when he thinks I'm not looking, as soon as I turn my back, and even when he thinks I'm sleeping!

 

I'm losing all interest in him and I don't know how to stop losing interest. I'm starting to withdraw from him.

 

Should I break up with him? How would I do that? He certainly deserves someone who can truly support him. I don't want to make him feel worse about himself -- then he'll pull more. I've been trying to accept him as he is but I just can't get passed this.

 

Any suggestions?

[NrclptcNSmniak]

umm... thats kind of odd... ya well... if ur losing interest, and you don't htink you can help him get better... maybe it would be best to break up.... esp if its getting worse... i know it might be selfish but... u only get ****ed over in the end when u do something for someone else's sake heh

[littlekitty]

First thing I would do is gain an understanding of what he is doing and why.. this might help you:

 

http://www.trichotillomania.co.uk/

 

Once you've enlightened yourself, decide if you think you can stay and work on it, and if you don't feel you can then walk away. You can stay out of pity... it has to be more than that for his sake!

[NrclptcNSmniak]

huh u learn something every day. what an odd mania.

[mazza32cott]

I think that would really turn me off and yes I think I would eventually leave. I think that if you still have feelings for him, you should tell him that you can't handle it and that you will not continue being with him if he does not get help to sort it out. You cant put up with that. If that doesn't work, I would leave.