scobro Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 have you ever physically in person caught your ex with someone else either banging away in the buff or simply holding hands, kissing,talking on phone etc...what did you do?
Tony T Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 An ex if free to see any person they want to...and it would not be called cheating. It would be called moving on to the next person. I really do enjoy the TV Show, "Cheaters," where they use a surveillance camera to catch the cheaters in action and then allow the person being cheated on to swoop in on the action and confront the cheaters. It's a hoot. A truly classy person who encountered a current partner cheating would simply pass on by and see an attorney if married or pack the persons bags if living together. If neither, I think of no better reason than to invoke the no contact rule. Confrontation is such cases is for trailer trash and people with no class or an inability to control their emotions. Such confrontation serves absolutely no purpose.
Author scobro Posted November 11, 2005 Author Posted November 11, 2005 An ex if free to see any person they want to...and it would not be called cheating. It would be called moving on to the next person. sorry Tony I just assumed that they would now be your ex if you caught them cheating. A truly classy person who encountered a current partner cheating would simply pass on by and see an attorney if married or pack the persons bags if living together. If neither, I think of no better reason than to invoke the no contact rule. Confrontation is such cases is for trailer trash and people with no class or an inability to control their emotions. Such confrontation serves absolutely no purpose. yeah o.k, usually people who think like this have never walked in on their wife losing 20 pounds getting banged by some guy. People that think this way are the first ones to pull out their guns and commit double homicide when it really happens to them;) .
Scott S Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 ...kissing,talking on phone etc...what did you do? I caught the ex by some amateur sleuthing. I had been seeing a counselor through the EAP where I was working. After listening to my account of her behavior & the decline of our marriage, the counselor suggested the possibility that she was involved with another man, or possibly woman. He suggested possibly retaining a private investigator to ascertain this, which I could not afford at the time. So I did my own investigating. One night when she went into the bedroom & locked the door again (she had been doing this frequently), she apparently forgot about the phone downstairs. I picked up the phone & sure enough, she was in a steamy conversation with a voice I recognized. I just listened quietly (with the mute button pushed) for about 20 minutes before I'd heard enough. She came down after a while, & I then confronted her. ___________________________________________ If the world were perfect, it wouldn't be. - Yogi Berra
ThumbingMyWay Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 scobro, brother....your mind is reeling I see......try to take some time and NOT THINK about it anymore....or at least not today. as for the ?...no never. BUT I did see a text mess from her OM once. "I WANT MORE OF YOU" is what it said.....I said WTF is this....she said it was her firend (female) and they were just jokng around....I WAS BIT TOO NIAVE...back then wish i would have pursued that issue more.
Skeered Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 Yes I have caught emails, photos and even a very kinky phone conversation..I too was pretty naive about the stories he would tell me following me walking in on these moments and wanted so badly to believe that I was overreacting. But to no avail I was not overreacting at all... I'm a firm believer in go by what your guts says...your heart can lie.
b52srock Posted November 13, 2005 Posted November 13, 2005 Well, I walked into a bar one night with some friends...first time I'd been out in months since the separation...and there she was...the OW! I'd like to say I was classy about it, but to tell the truth, I really wasn't! I just walked in a circle around her (yes, he was there, too), about 3 people out of range of actually touching her...stuck my nose up in the air and sniffed, saying to everyone around "Gee, I smell cu**! Don't you smell cu**?" And believe me, that was totally out of character for me since I absolutely detest that word! They high-tailed it out of there very quickly! After a couple of drinks I left the bar, went straight to my house...packed his sh*t in garbage bags and dumped it all on the front steps of his apartment...topping it off with his three precious fire helmets! He may have been the fire chief, but the fire chief's wife can be a vindictive wench when pushed!
Pyro Posted November 13, 2005 Posted November 13, 2005 have you ever physically in person caught your ex with someone else either banging away in the buff or simply holding hands, kissing,talking on phone etc...what did you do? It wasn't in person, but I found out via computer. She told me that she was going to be somewhere on a paticular weekend, but I discovered through some photos that she had on her online journal that she was somewhere completely different with this guy. I made the mistake of calling her instead of waiting to see her in person and I asked her and she didn't know what to say. She tried to cover it up but i could easily tell that she was lying. I didn't take it too well. I was a wreck for about a week. We tried to work things out, but that didn't work. It was a lost cause.
pooh23350 Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 I have caught my now ex husband RED HANDED in bed having sex with another woman.In our than trailer.Unfortunatly I got kicked out because it was the land lords daughter he was banging.And When I moved out I took everything from the last plate,fork,spoon and knife.He called me a hatful b**** for leaving him with nothing.I was the B**** but he was the one caught RED HANDED.Get that one LOL.
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