scobro Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I always here people talk about "the one" and its always referred to as the person who will be the perfect "one" for you.If we really analyze it what to you does "the one" mean?Is it really even a reality to find "the one"
NrclptcNSmniak Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 i thought i did hahahahaahahahahahaahah...... i think "the one" shouldn't be actively searched for.... but can disguise itself as something else hehe... its realistic if you let it be... i mean if you put some impossibly critical tag on it then no... but i refer to the one as being someone that you can really relate with... and have lots incommon with have complimenting personalities... and cant imagine living without... ... i don't believe theres only 1 "the one" out there per person..... and "the one"s (haha) don't have to be the same... they can be 2 totally different people, but actually fit you both perfectly... human beings aren't puzzle pieces.. were more like... ingredients... you have to find the right combo to make a perfectly balanced dish...
downcydeguy Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 I agree with N. There are over 6 BILLION people on this planet, so to say that there is only 1 perfect mate for us is rediculous. The problem is that our craving for true love causes impatience and when we meet somebody that seemingly matches perfectly, we want to hold on to them forever. And then reality hits and they leave. Very disheartening. So in my opinion, no, there isn't a "one" out there. There are "many". Patience and luck take over when we become single.
Tangerina Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 Haha, I agree... I call them "The Ones"... and who this is at different points in life can depend on so many factors.... I personally want to get married and settle down and I am optimistic that I can make it work... but I don't think that there is one perfect person out there who is right for the job... When I am confident that I am with someone that a. wants to be with me too b. has the same goals about family, career, life, etc c. understands that marriage isn't always a picnic and is willing to make it work d. is faithful, beautiful, friendly, intellegent etc. d. and yes makes my heart go zing and makes me want to jump his bones on a regular basis.... then I will marry the lucky bastard.... I think there are many people in the world I could have this with though... To elaborate on "The Ones".... my Ex was "The One" when we were in high school, we learned about love and sex and committed relationships together and it worked out great but as we grew up it was no longer the beneficial, healthy thing it once was so it died... Devon is "The One" for me now and we are having so much fun exploring a more adult relationship, we both know more of what we want than we have in past relationships... who knows where it will go in the long term, but he is the one for me now, maybe in a few years I will realize he meets the above criteria... or maybe not, but it will be fun to find out....
billskrill Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 I believe that everyone has "one person" that they are meant to be with. I could be wrong but I'm just one of those people that believes that everything happens for a reason. Some people obviously end up alone when they die and for that I can't explain what happened to their "one." My mother is 58 and is divorced without a companion and I can't imagine how that would be like as I am 23 and am longing for someone to share my life with. Maybe her reason she married my father was to have me and my sister although it caused her much pain as the marriage failed she still gave me and my sister the wonderful gift of life. So is there a "the one" for everyone???? It's very hard to say but I truely believe that everything happens for a reason no matter how big or small of a reason, but I do believe that there is one person out there that we are all meant to share our lives with.
kodiak Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 Hey Everyone- I have been posting in the second chances column lately so if you want to read my post and give me some feedback i will appreciate it very much. Anyways the question about the one really confuses me too. With all the people out there in the world its hard to imagine that their is only one person for you. I feel that my ex girlfreind is the one for me. The whole details of our relationship, how we met, how we feel inlove all this, makes me feel that way. However she is my ex and does that mean that she is not the one. I dont know. My biggest fear is that what if you find the one, but they are not the one for you. You love them more than anything but they just dont love you the same way. I guess when you find the one that stuff doesnt matter because you both love each other equally. Then you look at these couples that are high school sweethearts, get marrried, have a family, then get divorced. i just dont get it!!!! I know that if my ex ever gave me a second chance I would hold onto her and never let her go. I would give her my heart to grow old with. I guess the one is out there, but you have to search over mountains, through seas, across deserts to find them sometimes. For the lucky ones out there, it just happens. Sometimes timing is off with a certain person and they might be the one. So you move on, date others, and basically go on with your life. Then you meet up again down the road and things work out. watch that movie with Aston Kutcher called "Its about Love" and you will see what im talking about. I recently watched this with my ex gf and it killed me because i want that to ahppen with us..
Recommended Posts