He talks about sex but ?

[Calmandfocused]

8 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He was already married but divorced .

He hasnt taken me home nor wants to. So how can he have sex? Also he mocks other women including Muslim hijab colleague of ours who was acting unhinged by saying she's a virgin at 40, doesn't have a man and should get a vibrator to enjoy herself 

Delightful! And you’re impressed by this blatant disrespectful and devaluing attitude towards women? 

I for one am not surprised that he’s divorced. I just hope he’s not a father. 

He respects no one. Not you, not any woman and certainly not his faith. 
 

 

[Alpacalia]

25 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He already says teasing you nothing real or serious. I have told him to delete some very graphic ones and for the rest I only give laughing emojis or stay quiet 

He's an over-sexed wanker --stop speaking to him. He may sleep with you eventually, but the reality is women find him repulsive. Even prostitutes are too disgusted by him to touch him. This is a serial womanizer and does not give a fig about anyone but him. He's already divorced because women couldn't stand him more than a few weeks or months. He can send photos to take up your time level up frustration. You would be a fool to be with a man that no Western woman will have.

What are you doing, I mean really? Stop talking to him, delete his photos and texts, and block him on all forms of communication.

He's an absolute classless pig. He does not respect you, he makes fun of other women, and should be on a sex offender's list.

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

19 minutes ago, Calmandfocused said:

Delightful! And you’re impressed by this blatant disrespectful and devaluing attitude towards women? 

I for one am not surprised that he’s divorced. I just hope he’s not a father. 

He respects no one. Not you, not any woman and certainly not his faith. 
 

 

Well she herself was crazy saying she's 40 , unmarried and how her parents will get her married. She was saying this in front of colleagues so she was crazy 

He's not a father so I'm assuming his marriage didn't last long.

He also had agressive cancer 2 years ago and got treatment 

Edited December 26, 2023 by Meangreenmysterymachine

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

7 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

He's an over-sexed wanker --stop speaking to him. He may sleep with you eventually, but the reality is women find him repulsive. Even prostitutes are too disgusted by him to touch him. This is a serial womanizer and does not give a fig about anyone but him. He's already divorced because women couldn't stand him more than a few weeks or months. He can send photos to take up your time level up frustration. You would be a fool to be with a man that no Western woman will have.

What are you doing, I mean really? Stop talking to him, delete his photos and texts, and block him on all forms of communication.

He's an absolute classless pig. He does not respect you, he makes fun of other women, and should be on a sex offender's list.

The woman was unhinged. She was suspended from work for her behaviour and herself said that she can't work in news as men will see her face, how she's unmarried and still waiting to have arranged marriage at 40 etc.

He said he's not having sex in and out every week and he knew I was having a hard time believing based on the images and texts he's sent and he sent a gif saying here's hoping you believe

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He hasnt taken me home nor wants to. 

This is very telling as far as your sexting and coffee breaks. You're ok to toy around with but that's about it. 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

This is very telling as far as your sexting and coffee breaks. You're ok to toy around with but that's about it. 

There's no toying round with. I am leaving this role and will be going away temporarily for 1 month hence he hasn't expressed interest anymore in taking me. Earlier he did come with the intention of taking me but I didn't go and later on I had to tell him that I was quitting this role and he was like no we were just getting to know you

And there are no coffee breaks. We plan and meet outside of work.

Edited December 26, 2023 by Meangreenmysterymachine

[stillafool]

1 hour ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He already says teasing you nothing real or serious. I have told him to delete some very graphic ones and for the rest I only give laughing emojis or stay quiet 

No wonder he sends you these awful pictures.  You're probably the only woman in his sphere who will accept such filth.  Really, please think higher of yourself and leave this creep alone.  

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

8 minutes ago, stillafool said:

No wonder he sends you these awful pictures.  You're probably the only woman in his sphere who will accept such filth.  Really, please think higher of yourself and leave this creep alone.  

He doesn't send it often and I only laugh at those pics. I don't engage in sexting with him. He is the one who talks about his likes and dislikes. I don't share , I simply laugh it off. 

And you are acting like you have never sexted or sexting is bad. Everyone does it but I have repeatedly said I don't engage from my side, just laugh and that's it

 

Edited December 26, 2023 by Meangreenmysterymachine

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Dated many times and know more than you

Then why are you having such a hard time figuring out this very simple situation? 

[Alpacalia]

1 hour ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

The woman was unhinged. She was suspended from work for her behaviour and herself said that she can't work in news as men will see her face, how she's unmarried and still waiting to have arranged marriage at 40 etc.

He said he's not having sex in and out every week and he knew I was having a hard time believing based on the images and texts he's sent and he sent a gif saying here's hoping you believe

If he's mocking other women to you I assure you he is doing the same thing about you to your other colleagues. 'Look at this woman, I can send her countless perverted photos of myself to her and she just laughs and sends me emojis. I don't have to take no for an answer you see, I can just joke my way through it and she'll laugh it off.'

Edited December 26, 2023 by Alpacalia

[stillafool]

1 minute ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He doesn't send it often and I only laugh at those pics. I don't engage in sexting with him. He is the one who talks about his likes and dislikes. I don't share , I simply laugh it off. 

 

Laughing it off says you find it funny and acceptable.  He knows you'd do anything to please him.

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

Just now, Alpacalia said:

If he's mocking other women to you I assure you he is doing the same thing about you to your other colleagues. Look at this woman, I can send her countless perverted photos of myself to her and she just laughs and sends me emojis. I don't have to take no for an answer you see, I can just joke my way through it and she'll laugh it off.

He hasnt sent perverted photos of himself to me. When he was extensively sexting and I wasn't contributing much, he had to delete many comments of his because I wasn't engaging and it was him only.

 

And laughing it off doesn't mean acceptance. He knows that I'm not 100% on board hence he deletes comments etc

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

Laughing it off says you find it funny and acceptable.  He knows you'd do anything to please him.

I don't do anything to please him. I have said I don't send anything to him. Funny not much but other than laughing emoji I don't know what to send or say no as we work together and I don't want to ruin our relationship 

[Alpacalia]

Just now, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He hasnt sent perverted photos of himself to me.

Well then I must be losing my vision because it's littered in this thread. Seriously, if you're going to troll don't make yourself out to be dumb in the process.

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

2 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

Well then I must be losing my vision because it's littered in this thread. Seriously, if you're going to troll don't make yourself out to be dumb in the process.

Where did I write he has sent me perverted photos? He has sent me nudes but from the side and in his underwear and some oral sex images but he deleted them as I asked him to and wasn't really engaging much in them

And stop acting like you don't sext or have shared nudes. I haven't shared so I'm not judging like you are

Edited December 26, 2023 by Meangreenmysterymachine

[ExpatInItaly]

OP,  how old are you? 

[Wiseman2]

6 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I don't do anything to please him. I have said I don't send anything to him.  I don't want to ruin our relationship 

How did he respond to your corset pics?  Are you hoping he invites you to his home or to meet his cat? Perhaps he is waiting until marriage to invite you over? 

[Wiseman2]

6 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

OP,  how old are you? 

 

8 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I'm a 33-year-old woman working in the same office as a 47-year-old colleague who has been displaying intriguing behavior. . I'm unsure if these signals point towards a potential romantic interest or if it's a hook up situation?

 

[Alpacalia]

17 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

And stop acting like you don't sext or have shared nudes. I haven't shared so I'm not judging like you are

Don't worry about what I do or don't do. You're defending this character so I'll assume you've shared stuff. Goodbye

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

37 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

How did he respond to your corset pics?  Are you hoping he invites you to his home or to meet his cat? Perhaps he is waiting until marriage to invite you over? 

It was a long corset dress and heavily filtered so there was nothing explicit or exposed. He said he zoomed in to see and nice, lacy, hot emojis, kissing breasts emoji etc and I downplayed it by saying thanks but it's not sexy 

[introverted1]

Ok, so in your revised version of events, you don't send/show him sexy/revealing picture of you (or your cousin), you are not contemplating sending him nudes, and although he sexts you, you either tell him his pics are "too much" or you send laughing emojis. 

So...

What is your question, exactly? What advice are you seeking? 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

32 minutes ago, introverted1 said:

Ok, so in your revised version of events, you don't send/show him sexy/revealing picture of you (or your cousin), you are not contemplating sending him nudes, and although he sexts you, you either tell him his pics are "too much" or you send laughing emojis. 

So...

What is your question, exactly? What advice are you seeking? 

That pic wasn't revealing omg are you even reading. I showed the pic in person not sent him.

 

[Lisa]

Thread closed.  We are unable to advise what another person is thinking with any accuracy

Edited December 26, 2023 by Lisa