He talks about sex but ?

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

I'm talking to a Muslim man. He's 47 years old. Was married before but divorced now. He's British born, raised in London and his mom was Welsh and dad was Pakistani.

 

While he talks about sex a lot, has casual sex, very freely shares explicit images of various sexual positions (especially a guy in a suit and a girl naked/stockings receiving oral from the guy) , shares nudes, sexts, says hes not shy or prudish, etc, he seems to have an issue with clothing.

 

I showed him some artistically sketched pictures of myself in dresses which had plunging necklines, revealing my cleavage and he eventually commented that there is a lot of cleavage show and how he has seen such Greek inspired dresses but the necklines are not so low cut.

 

Later on, he saw a picture of my cousin who was wearing a satin cami top which had a slight cleavage and he looked so disturbed and said what is she wearing. He saw more pics and was still looking quite disturbed.

 

 

He had previously said that it's not his place to comment on such things but he eventually did say. 

 

What is this kind of behaviour? I don't understand? On one hand he seems to enjoy sex and wants to have sex. He has mocked some women for being 40 year old virgins and how they can get a vibrator and enjoy themselves and even said he has experimented a lot and has done an*l, has mates who like an*l sex etc.

 

Then why is he being prudish about women's clothes?

 

 

Edited December 25, 2023 by Meangreenmysterymachine

[ExpatInItaly]

Are you actually dating this man? 

He seems to operate on a double-standard, which would put me off. Are you okay with his views? 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

4 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Are you actually dating this man? 

He seems to operate on a double-standard, which would put me off. Are you okay with his views? 

Yes we are dating but we haven't had sex yet though he talks too much about sex but then again he seems like he does not like women wearing clothes that show skin. So I don't understand. I sent him a pic of myself in a corset dress that i modelled at home and he made comments like delicious breasts, he zoomed in on my chest etc yet when he saw my cousins photo, he was looking disturbed and said what is she wearing and how this dress is for bedroom.

 

I'm not very OK with his views. I can't seem to understand how he's so open about sexual things yet hold conservative views on clothing?

Edited December 25, 2023 by Meangreenmysterymachine

[Wiseman2]

39 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I'm talking to a Muslim man. He's 47 years old. While he talks about sex a lot, has casual sex, very freely shares explicit images of various sexual positions  shares nudes, sexts, 

How do you know each other?  If you work together,are you concerned he's sexually harassing you?

Are you dating or hooking up? Or is it just a sexting type of situation? Is this the same man?:

 

[Wiseman2]

7 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He's not sexually harassing me 

If you enjoy sexting that's fine, but please get your cousin's permission to send someone like this  her photos. 

Edited December 25, 2023 by Wiseman2

[ExpatInItaly]

4 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

God it's so annoying to not get a proper reply but just have is this same man. 

Is it?

26 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I can't seem to understand how he's so open about sexual things yet hold conservative views on clothing?

Because that's what hypocrites do. They have a different standard for themselves and judge others for similar behaviour or views. 

27 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I'm not very OK with his views

Then I would encourgae you to reconsider dating him. His views are part of who he is. It would render him incompatible for me, personally. 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

3 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Is it?

Because that's what hypocrites do. They have a different standard for themselves and judge others for similar behaviour or views. 

Then I would encourgae you to reconsider dating him. His views are part of who he is. It would render him incompatible for me, personally. 

So if I send him nudes or sleep with him soon or easily he will judge and never take me seriously?

He says he doesn't judge

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

4 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

If you enjoy sexting that's fine, but please get your cousin's permission to send someone like this  her photos. 

I showed him in person. I didn't send him 

[ExpatInItaly]

3 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

So if I send him nudes or sleep with him soon or easily he will judge and never take me seriously?

With the attitude he's displayed over something as simple as an outfit? Probably not. 

4 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He says he doesn't judge

He's already shown you that he does. 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said:

With the attitude he's displayed over something as simple as an outfit? Probably not. 

He's already shown you that he does. 

Then why is he talking so much about sex?

[ExpatInItaly]

4 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Then why is he talking so much about sex?

Because he wants sex from you. This isn't difficult to figure out. OP. 

Just don't count on him becoming a serious boyfriend. It's obvious what he is after here. 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

5 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Because he wants sex from you. This isn't difficult to figure out. OP. 

Just don't count on him becoming a serious boyfriend. It's obvious what he is after here. 

But he doesn't say anything or ask me to come home with him etc. 

[BaileyB]

This kind of male hypocrisy has existed for hundreds of years in many cultures and religious groups. 

This is not a man I would consider dating. Full stop.

 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

1 minute ago, BaileyB said:

This kind of male hypocrisy has existed for hundreds of years in many cultures and religious groups. 

This is not a man I would consider dating. Full stop.

 

He shares explicit images of naked women receiving oral from men then why do all this judging ??

[ExpatInItaly]

4 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

But he doesn't say anything or ask me to come home with him etc. 

Yes, he does:

1 hour ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

he talks about sex a lot, has casual sex, very freely shares explicit images of various sexual positions (especially a guy in a suit and a girl naked/stockings receiving oral from the guy) , shares nudes, sexts

What exactly do you think he's trying to achieve with his lewd behaviour? 

I would not consider this man as a dating candidate whatsoever. He's kind of gross, actually. Why are you still even talking to this clown?

Next. 

Edited December 25, 2023 by ExpatInItaly

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

4 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Yes, he does:

What exactly do you think he's trying to achieve with his lewd behaviour? 

I would not consider this man as a dating candidate whatsoever. He's kind of gross, actually. Why are you still even talking to this clown?

Next. 

I have tried to ask where he lives etc or if I can see his pet cat but he hasn't invited me. He seems like he's only into sexting but not taking action?

He even said he's not having sex week in and out when I said he seems very experienced and he said nah , average

He's very helpful professionally, helps me a lot and is actually kind towards me. That's why I chat with him

[Foxhall]

He sounds like a weirdo to me- Id walk away.

[BaileyB]

21 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He shares explicit images of naked women receiving oral from men then why do all this judging ??

Why not? 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

1 minute ago, BaileyB said:

Why not? 

What do you mean.?

[Wiseman2]

17 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I have tried to ask where he lives etc or if I can see his pet cat but he hasn't invited me. 

You're both consenting adults so if you enjoy sexting that's ok. However it seems like he doesn't want you to know where he lives or anything more than sexting. If he enjoys it and you enjoy the attention, try not to get upset about it. Are you hoping this becomes a relationship? 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

You're both consenting adults so if you enjoy sexting that's ok. However it seems like he doesn't want you to know where he lives or anything more than sexting. If he enjoys it and you enjoy the attention, try not to get upset about it. Are you hoping this becomes a relationship? 

Yes because I'm not interested in sexting

[Wiseman2]

6 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Yes because I'm not interested in sexting

Unfortunately he's not interested in a relationship or dating. Maybe he doesn't want messy workplace romances, maybe he has a GF, maybe he only dates women from his culture, etc. If you're not interested in sexting,why do it? He has to work with you anyway whether you sext him or not. 

[ExpatInItaly]

How often do you go on dates with him?

[NuevoYorko]

Are you dating?

Why are you showing him sexy pictures of your cousin?

Why are you showing him sexy pictures of yourself, for that matter?  

If he's your coworker, and you are showing him these pictures at work - that's kine of odd behavior, don't you think?   

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

7 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

How often do you go on dates with him?

Every week and we text every other day