Lonestar Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I just sat in a meeting with a document management company that recently moved in our area. I tend to be in charge of a lot of our intense document projects and ultimately make the final decisions. Two of their account executives met with me and our office manager, and the quiet one was very cute. I kept looking at him, but he was somewhat quiet and made more eye contact with our office manager than me. He seemed shy. It was revealed by his co-worker that he was just transferred to this neck of the woods a couple weeks ago, and there was no ring on his finger, but I have to be completely professional about this. They offered to do our first project for free, but it's been so slow I have nothing to give them, and no reason to call. There are no email addresses on the business cards either, or I would have sent alone some stupid question I forgot to ask. He's new here, and has to need someone to show him around? LOLOL Any ideas??? I wish I had a sh*tload of work to send out right now.
Pocky Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 LS Honestly, I get the same reaction when someone states they want to initiate a personal relationship with a work acquaintance as I do when someone states they want to initiate a personal relationship with a married person. Regardless, Have you sent the obligatory - just touching base - email advising them that the project is moving at a slow pace, but that as soon as something transpires you will contact them? That would at least initiate a connection that might open up a door for further exploration. At the worst - you'd look extremely professional. PS. This is for you Tan!
Author Lonestar Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 LS Honestly, I get the same reaction when someone states they want to initiate a personal relationship with a work acquaintance as I do when someone states they want to initiate a personal relationship with a married person. Regardless, Have you sent the obligatory - just touching base - email advising them that the project is moving at a slow pace, but that as soon as something transpires you will contact them? That would at least initiate a connection that might open up a door for further exploration. At the worst - you'd look extremely professional. PS. This is for you Tan! Thanks, Pocky. He works for an entire different company, so I would probably never see him again outside this meeting this morning. I'm assuming any projects would be picked up couriers. We also have several different companies we use for this type of thing. I would never date anyone I had too see on a regular basis at work. Too much of a distraction when it works and doesn't work. I already thought of the email thing, but there's no email addy on the business card. I suppose I'm gonna have to break down and make the professional follow-up call thanking him for stopping by and letting him know I've been slow but will call on them when needed. I wish I had the balls to just asked him out to lunch or something. Other people do that all the time. Oh well, give it a day, and maybe he'll call me. They did ask for a few of my business cards - which a smart enough to have email addys on them. What does this have to to with tanbark? Is he chasing the girls at work now?
TUDOR Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I think a phone call follow up is a good way to get your foot in the door. You can tell just what you said that you don't have a lot going on right now but that you will stay in touch for when you do. Then you proceed to say, I understand you are new in town and if you ever want some one to show you around or grab a bite to eat let me know. This way it was a work related call and your offer to show him around does not come across as agressive be instead nice. Don't be afraid to go out on a limb, the worse that can happen from your offer is he won't call. So what, you move on but you will feel better at least trying. Good luck and keep us posted!
Author Lonestar Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 I think a phone call follow up is a good way to get your foot in the door. You can tell just what you said that you don't have a lot going on right now but that you will stay in touch for when you do. Then you proceed to say, I understand you are new in town and if you ever want some one to show you around or grab a bite to eat let me know. This way it was a work related call and your offer to show him around does not come across as agressive be instead nice. Don't be afraid to go out on a limb, the worse that can happen from your offer is he won't call. So what, you move on but you will feel better at least trying. Good luck and keep us posted! Heya Tudor, It sounds so easy when you say it. LOL Why is it us humans are so terrified of rejection or just plain looking stupid? I actually admire men for getting up the courage to ask women out. It must be hard when men feel they always have to make the first move, because as a woman, I'd much rather be pursued. I'll follow up with a work related call tomorrow and see how he responds to my call before I decide to say anything about lunch. If he's interested, he'll act flirtatious on the phone.
whichwayisup Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Good idea and also, put on some really nice perfume. Smelling good will make him notice you even more...(If you run into him...) Let us know how it goes! (Good advice TUDOR!)
tanbark813 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 PS. This is for you Tan! I feel honored. LS, the only suggestion I could think to make was to ask him to lunch but then your follow-up posts mentioned your lack of balls in doing so. I don't get why you're afraid to ask him to lunch. You're hot so he'd only say no if he were gay. Just say you want to discuss the project or something.
alphamale Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 LOLOL Any ideas??? Hmm...LONESTAR...do you own a mini skirt and a pair of 4" stilettoes (black pumps preferrabley) and a tight sweater top with a v-neck? he he he whats the deal with no emails on the b-cards? are we going back to 1975 here??? actually, on a more serious note you may want to think twice here due to you being the final decision maker and all that ethics krap.... but somethimes you just need to say "WTF"
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