Insecure boyfriend

[Ami1uwant]

Have you talked to her about what this thing was with him? Do you know why they stop talking for a while? Did he move for work and now is back in town? Did he get out of a relationship recently ?  Have you met him?

 

im the type who be.ir es men and women can be just very good friends. 

[Commanders16]

On 12/11/2023 at 5:03 PM, CaliforniaGirl said:

My take is: if they had wanted to get together, they would have. They had plenty of opportunity. They didn't. Some people are just very close but never quite cross the "friends" thing.

I hope you are right and it’s just my insecurity/jealousy! 

[Commanders16]

22 hours ago, Ami1uwant said:

Have you talked to her about what this thing was with him? Do you know why they stop talking for a while? Did he move for work and now is back in town? Did he get out of a relationship recently ?  Have you met him?

 

im the type who be.ir es men and women can be just very good friends. 

Yes I have always been aware of their ‘friendship’. They stopped speaking because of our relationship starting and the dude moved away for university. When he finally moved back after the summer it’s when he creeped back into our lives again. I have met him numerous times in the past and I have never really liked him. He’s a strange, possessive guy. 

[Acacia98]

On 12/11/2023 at 6:14 AM, Commanders16 said:

IF you are correct here, is it potentially dangerous she enjoys attention from him? 
It’s hard for me to answer because I don’t have someone in my past like my girlfriend does with this guy. She is my only ever sexual partner. 

I think it's a sign that your relationship may not last as long as you hope it will. She doesn't seem particularly protective of the relationship. Someone who values a relationship will do what is in their power to protect it. They'll avoid doing the types of things that are bound to lead to the temptation to cheat. So, for instance, they typically won't carry on a close friendship with someone they used to be intimate with. In addition, within reason they will avoid doing things that make their partner uncomfortable or that appear inappropriate.

[Commanders16]

On 12/12/2023 at 5:52 PM, Acacia98 said:

I think it's a sign that your relationship may not last as long as you hope it will. She doesn't seem particularly protective of the relationship. Someone who values a relationship will do what is in their power to protect it. They'll avoid doing the types of things that are bound to lead to the temptation to cheat. So, for instance, they typically won't carry on a close friendship with someone they used to be intimate with. In addition, within reason they will avoid doing things that make their partner uncomfortable or that appear inappropriate.

I appreciate you being so honest with me. It's not something I want to hear, but it's something I possibly need to start accepting. 

[Wiseman2]

On 12/12/2023 at 12:41 PM, Commanders16 said:

. When he finally moved back after the summer it’s when he creeped back into our lives again. 

Unfortunately they've clearly stayed in touch and are more than "just friends". Please guard your heart and stay observant.

The fact that you two got together only because he left town and now he's back and they're reuniting isn't a good sign, sorry to say. 

[HugeSofa0016]

My girlfriend of 8 years cheated on me with another man whilst we were trying for a baby. She is now 3 months pregnant and there's a chance I might not even be the father. That night she cheated on me falls into the timeline that it really could be his, and not mine.

I am still with my girlfriend at the moment but I am gutted about the infidelity and the fact she is pregnant is the main reason I am still sticking around. Worst part is that I'll have no idea if the baby is mine or not until it's been born.

What a rollercoaster of emotions.

[stillafool]

Leave.  She isn't going to die because you aren't with her anymore.  After the baby is born get a DNA test and then decide if you want her back.  She should be doing  everything to get you back since she was the one who cheated.  The other guy is probably still in touch with her too since it may be his baby.  I would start distancing myself now.

[Lisa]

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