s a d Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I missed out on my teen years. I had some crushes but i was very picky and the type of girls i liked usually didnt like me. now im 24 and my problem is i wish i was young again in a young relationship without so much maturity. im not attracted to anyone my age. its very painful because i want to be 18 and be with an 18 year old who has an 18 year old face, a small and slim 18 year old body and an 18 year old mind, like the girl i was in love with when i was 17. i remember the girl, she was so different to people in their twenties. to me no one is cuter and more beautiful than at that age. i know it may sound sick but even though my teen years were almost as painful as now i wish i was young again. i missed my young years i dont care abotu life now. you might say move on, ive tried and its caused more sadness. and dont say try harder because its just impossible. if you were in my mind you would understand. i dont know what to do.
Outcast Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Go get counselling. You need to get over this or you're going to have a pretty miserable life. It's not hopeless but you need professional help to get over this.
westernxer Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Dude, you're still young. I didn't date much when I was in high school. In fact, I never had a serious girlfriend until college, even though college relationships are a joke. If you can't get a grip, you probably will need counseling.
country gal Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Dude, you ARE young!! If 24 is old, we're all doomed! btw, I agree with some of the others.... sounds like you have an issue with your thinking or of moving on with your life. either way, I think everyone could use some counseling - a little tune up here and there - and I particualrly think it might be good for you.
Panhandler Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Go find an 18 year old girl then if that's what you are attracted too. Young fertile and fresh teenagers do have some appeal. But in their lifestyle and maturity level they may be at a slightly different phaze. But then again girls mature a lot faster than men do. I have girls as young as 11 ask me out every now and then, two 15 year olds just a couple weeks ago. I don't take them too seriously cause, I don't think it would work out right. But if they are attracted to me and trying to seduce me, it is gonna be a little easier for me to talk myself out of trouble for flirting back with them. But you gotta watch with that one, because people are up in arms about age differences, and I can understand why most times. I prefer a girl that is innoccent like a younger girl, but has the lifestyle of a more mature person. So that is a tough combination to find, and I have some problems also filling my requirements, or having stable relationships with girls still in college. But 18 is legal if you can attract them, then go for them, whatever floats your boat. I have lolita looks on my side, since I can pass for 21 easily even now at 26 1 month to 27. I used to look 16 when I was just 23 cause I was not so built like I am now. I just like the freedom that age gives, and younger girls are so much pruder, is why I am in a tangle now with my relationships being unstable and unstatisfying. Of course my friends tease me and call me a pedophile when they see me talking to young girls, but they also call me a satanist just cause I play punk rock music. It's just all a big joke, and when it comes down to it, any woman can call rape or say you touched them and lock your ass up. But I don't see many girls my age around this area, so I look hotter than these teenage boys, the girls think I'm maybe 17 18 if they are lucky and will giggle immaturely and ask me out for a friend. But I don't even have sex with girls anymore at all, and I like more the attention and flirting and softcore stuff. But other times I long for some good intimate sex, and a more solid relationship. But I have all my bases covered, and I am sure I'll find something that catches my eye eventually. Just seems that when I see hot looking girl that is a little more mature looking, I cast doubts on us, and I am content with the current girls I'm seeing to some extent. There are times when I feel really desperate though to find a commited mature hot woman. So I will get more aggressive with my seduction and unfortunately those are times when I go out and I don't see anyone hehe
Walk Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I ever catch you dating my niece's I'll wallop the living hell outta ya! On that note... Get yourself a high paying job, dress smart, and hang out at the teenybop clubs. Then you can catch an innocent youngen who can drain your bank account at the mall, and spend all her time trying to impress her friends. You can end up getting her pregnant, or having her decide to not continue her schooling. You'll work yourself stupid so that you can have conversations with her about her newest shoes. She'll freeload off your money. Then on her 19th birthday, dump her and go back to the teenybopper club and start over again. Then when your 45, you'll be mistaken for the 18yr olds father. You'll spend all your time working to pay the credit card debts your young companions will have racked up. You'll spend more and more time trying to hide the bald spot that's taking over your head, and tons of money to try to look good enough so that an 18 yrold would want to be seen in public with you. Secretly you'll never feel adequate. You'll mourn your youth, you'll resent the 18 yr old girl, and you still won't be happy. At 50, you'll still be talking to some 18 yr old about her newest shoe purchase. You're life sounds like it's going to be a blast!! Have fun with that. Or go get some counseling, and try to get to the bottom of why you are unhappy with your life. Unless you want to spend the next 40 yrs of your life looking everywhere but inside yourself.
Walk Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I just like the freedom that age gives, and younger girls are so much pruder, is why I am in a tangle now with my relationships being unstable and unstatisfying. That didn't make any sense. You like the "freedom"? But they're "pruder"? Oxymoron.
Panhandler Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 No you're not following me here, I like the freedom that age gives in Older woman. Like no parents on their shoulders no friends telling them what to do, not commited to do this or that at any time. Younger girls are generally pruder, that's a given in most cases.
monkey00 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I think it's natural to want a girl who's at her most fertile age 16- mid 20's, even in your case 18. Anyway from reading what you said, it seems you're frustrated with the dating world of today for people over 20. maybe because you lack dating & relationship experience. Therefore wnating to go back to an easier timeframe of courting girls and dating without the games. I cant argue with you there buddy life was much easier when we're kids. As adults we all have responsibilities and so do you. No matter how much you wish you could be young or go back in time, you cant. all you can do now is deal with today, the present; the future. You remind me of one of my friends, although he's 21 he too wishes to go back to h.s. and in fact wants to meet those old j.h.s/h.s. girls hew knew again. I too sometimes wish i could go back to those care-free days of fun...but no matter how much i regret those days of missed opportunities. It's never too late to catch up with the past. people come and go in life, it happens. time cant freeze just for you...the earth spins afterall and we age. Work on yourself and your goals and the right girl will come along. of course you cant just sit there and wait for her. you gotta get out there and find her! good luck.
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