Is he trying to fool around with me?

[Cherokee Tea Rose]

Ok long story here. So here goes, bear with me.

 

I'm a 31 year old married woman of fifteen years. My husband and I have a pretty ok marriage, rarely have any fights, have two kids. We met back when I was seventeen and he was 19 and have been together ever since. Through the years and the children we have somewhat grown apart and our marriage has become more like two very warm roommates living with each other. Sex is pretty non-existent because of his work schedule and my work schedule, then you couple it in with two very active children and their activities with school and church and that makes it very difficult. Plus lack of having babysitters on hand to have a night away.

 

Recently my husband ran into an old friend of his that we had ten years ago and come to find out he has a band. We went and saw his band play one night and immediately I noticed that the guitar player was looking at me an awful lot. I tried to thwart his glances and look around but then another person pointed it out to me and I began to see that what I thought was indeed true. Come to find out this guitar player was also married to my husband's friends sister but is now going through a divorce. When we were introduced to the band by my husbands friend the guy in question (very goodlooking too) immediately looks at my drink and says "That's a white zinfadel, a lady with class", I smiled and he introduced himself to me. For the rest of the night that they played he never stared off at anyone else, just me. We left that night being invited to another one of their gigs.

 

The next time we went to one of their gigs again with the staring and smiling. My husband wouldn't dance with me, no much of a dancer, and I'm understanding. So this guy in question asks my husband "Why won't you dance with her?", my husband's response was "I am not a very good dancer and I haven't had enough to drink yet", the guy in question says "I don't need to drink to dance with her, your wife is a beautiful woman". I smiled again and said thankyou, as did my husband. We left that night very intoxicated and returned home.

 

I was spose to put together a press kit for the band so had to have a meeting with them, that meeting was last night. My husband stayed home with the children while I went to the place they were practicing out of. We were all sitting around chatting about what needs to be done to put everything in place. When the guy in question orders up two shots for me. I looked at him and teasingly said "If you get me too drunk you'll have to drive me home", he smiled real big and said "Question is which home do you want to go to". I didn't respond. I am not sure if he is just flirting with me or what he is trying to do. Before I left he hugged me very tightly and give me his business card.

 

What I'm wondering, and maybe I'm stupid or I've been out of the game for too long (ie dating, flirting, whatever), is this guy trying to come on to me? If so what do I need to do. I don't want to tell the husband if I don't have to because I honestly think my husband would beat his a$$ or it would cause a real sort of tension between my husband and his friend (no his friend isn't the guy that is doing this). So any suggestions and reading into what is going on here?

 

Thanks