stevenkim Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 please dont read the first paragraph if you do not need information on myself or my crush. my name is StevenI am a 14 year old going to a christian private school in Langley Canada. this is not one of those strict private schools, it's more like a public school. I have had a crush on a girl named Nicole that is in some of my classes for a long time. She is couple inches shorter than I am, a full spanish descendent but cannot speak spanish and she is extremely quiet. You can barely hear her talk and she have never shouted or etc around peoplr I believe. I am an Asian that is not like other asians. I have more Canadian friends than I have asian friends and I am never called an "Asian Dork" or Geek. I am not the most popular guy around but people never seem to mind me when I'm around and most people think that I make things quite akward but in a funny way. Some say that I am very easy to talk to. The thing is, when I was talking online with one of Nicole's friend, She annoyed me to saying who I liked. apparently Nicole was there and her friend told me that she was there. I was just frozen there. I was going to ask her out on monday in a nice way. now that this has happened, I lost all hope and courage in asking her out. I kept on trying to talk to her on msn but only her twin sister was on all the time, and she couldn't let me talk to Nicole because she was away or busy. On monday I went up to Nicole in the morning and said, " (sigh) umm.... about friday...." and she said "it's ok" and I said "were cool" she said "yup" I was relieved and yet heart broken, for I could not understand her feelings and I believed that now she thought of me as another creep. She is talking to me like usual and it seems like she has decided to forget about what she heard on friday and monday. but she still knows now that I do like her. It just really bothers me about how she said "It's ok". I have no idea what she meant by that. the possibility is she is ok with me liking her, or she meant ok by "it's ok just forget about you and me" or "it's ok now just go away. It would be really nice if anyone can help me with this problem this is my first time trying to ask someone out and it failed even before I tried:(
slubberdegullion Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I know Langely well. Nice place. I lived in Richmond for a handful of years. Relax, dude, you're putting waaaayyyy too much pressure on yourself, and reading way too much into her words. She said, "it's ok," you asked, "we're cool?" and she agreed. You already have your answer. From what you've written, it seems like she's ok with you being interested in her. You haven't failed at anything. So take a deep breath and relax. Have a cigar. What you're experiencing is normal, standard teenage dating angst, it's nothing new under the sun. When it comes time to ask her out, do it with confidence and discretion. You're gonna be fine. (By the way, I was refused the first time I asked a girl out. That was back when the earth had not entirely cooled, mind you, but I survived and even thrived. You will too.)
NrclptcNSmniak Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 hey , im guessing your kroean just wanna let you know that i was in a similar situation to you... most of my life i was ... the only asian not to mention korean kid in the class... heh finally i moved down to irvine where.... asians reign supreme...... it was actually kinda strange... but ya... i was somewhat popular... supposedly lots of girls oogled me or whatever... at least untill i grew out my hair but... taht was way after i started going out with my now x and is a completely different story.... anyway im 17 now almost 18 and bitter, have no friends and am not in school................ i bet ur thinking how my korean father took it haha.... he certainly is a strange guy... really tho.. you really are putting way to much pressure on yourself..... if i were you id just ask her out... to a movie or something.... its not like you can drive yet but taking the bus can kinda be romantic... you could also ask your parents or older sibling, if you have one anyway... ya... well slubberdegullion said it a lot better than me heh...... good luck
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