Perfect first date - but flakey on text/bad texter

[Alvi]

Nobody is THAT busy. Tons of people with kids and full time jobs manage to date somehow so being too busy is often an excuse.  She is not interested. 

Most first dates, more often than not, are one hit wonders. It doesn't matter what was said or done during that date since second date rarely follows. Or sometimes. there is a second or third date and then everything disintegrates for some reason. Better not to get attached to a person till the two of you agree to be exclusive. A lot of people multidate, which could be fa another reason for her flakiness.  Maybe she likes you but is shopping for a bigger better deal.  Since she is somewhat answering , I am guessing that she wants to keep you on a shelf just in case (if a bigger better deal doesn't work out).

I can never tell what the other person is feeling during the date. He or she may appear to have a good time. They might tell you how much they like you and that they can't wait to see you again. And then....somehow a second date never happens. Welcome to the world of dating, lol. There were times, when I was dating, that I was going with a flow. I liked a guy and had a good time. But at the same time, I knew that we would not be a good match and that I don't want to see him again. Or I would go home and realize that I wasn't into a guy after all. I wasn't having a bad or terrible time during the date but didn't feel a chemistry. It happens.

You can absolutely ask again when she is free and set up a day/time/place for a date if she seems keen on it. Let it go and move on if she starts acting wishy-washy or doesn't come up with anything definite. 

[Alpacalia]

You might have just come across her in a crazy busy chapter of her life, too. Or she is just not interested. 

If she want a second date, she will make it happen. I have school, work, traveling to/from another state to visit a parent that is dealing with an illness and taking care of another elder parent while in the process of moving certainly eats a chunk of my time. I also try to make time for personal hobbies and self-care, so my daily schedule is constantly changing to accommodate these responsibilities.

If you ever get to go on a second date, try to ask for another one at the end of the date, not over text. Text is not representative of vocal tone and body language, which is half the communication. When you ask a person on a date, you need to ask them for a second date right there. If she says yes, you got yourself a date. If she said "can I call/text you on such and such day to make plans?" then that date is likely not going to happen.

Women are not some mysterious species or some type of malfunctioning robots who follow some secret hidden programming. They are not some unexplainable lost cryptid or humanoids that can never be solved. They are just people of the female gender. They just act funny sometimes.

The best thing is to relax, not get attached to anyone until you feel chemistry and the other person feels it too, and not to assume that just because someone went out with you once that they are crazy about you. Enjoy that lovely place where each person discovers the other without committing to anything. She might be fantastic or that person might be lurking somewhere else. Who knows? Good luck to you.