BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 how many lser's have done this? i think i have done it! are there exceptions to thinking like me and then the opposite occurs.... yes yes i can't get over my girl but if you seen her you'd realise mind is in a muddle of 100 directions of this at the moment, she doesn't have another man ( so i heard ) so... optimistic answers preferred as for some reason tonight i am somewhat relieved from my heartache... haven't slept for 3 days and i am drinking a bit but not that much... something happened in my brain tonight... maybe i moved on? ... maybe i received false hope... anyway i know that when i wake up tomorrow that i may feel terrible again so i'm enjoying this moment
brittanyjean259 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 some days i feel fine...but what really hits me( witch makes me realize im really not okay)...is when i first wake up...IT is the worst feeling to wake up to a heart ache if you know what im saying... you say your feeling different...use that as a your source. Let that that you that each month, or even each week you will feel different( and if you feel worse...)...just let that tell you that your feelings will eventually change...each month will seem different to you..in a different hurtful way...i know but you could be moving on and thats good!
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 some days i feel fine...but what really hits me( witch makes me realize im really not okay)...is when i first wake up...IT is the worst feeling to wake up to a heart ache if you know what im saying... you say your feeling different...use that as a your source. Let that that you that each month, or even each week you will feel different( and if you feel worse...)...just let that tell you that your feelings will eventually change...each month will seem different to you..in a different hurtful way...i know but you could be moving on and thats good! god i really doubt that i am permanently ... say longer than tonight unless i have gained an amazing ability tonight from say a god or a goddess? i called my gf a goddess btw! i hate the feeling of waking up and feeling dreadful... what a difference to waking up and putting your arms around your love and kissing them on the forehead and telling them how wonderful you feel! btw i have only ever done this with my ex... for me to do this again say with someone else... impossible! god i am such a romantic!
bunnzy Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I mean this as kindly as i can possibly say Shes gone.
brittanyjean259 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 so she said to you"go grab your self another girl"...ouch... that was said to me" go date other people".. we always want what we cant have..dont put her on a such a high pedistool..this is just how your feeling now...you dont know what life can bring you later if you dont let your self get through it...man its one of the hardest things in life( along with alot of other things)...how long were yall going out?
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 so she said to you"go grab your self another girl"...ouch... that was said to me" go date other people".. we always want what we cant have..dont put her on a such a high pedistool..this is just how your feeling now...you dont know what life can bring you later if you dont let your self get through it...man its one of the hardest things in life( along with alot of other things)...how long were yall going out? exactly, this is a girl i fell in love with from day 1 or day 2, she was mad about me too, i can honestly say i couldn't have done better! friends said to me that night my god who are you with? we were going out 5 months, very intense serious affair right from the start, she thought that we got too serious too soon, but it was her fault as well... we were 50/50 , practically lived together, told each other we loved each other after a month... do you get the picture? we are not kids in love... in our 30's ... nobody was desperate or looking for anyone
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 I mean this as kindly as i can possibly say Shes gone. i know she is, i knew by the look in her eyes, i can always tell theres nothing i can do to win her back but i'll wake up tomorrow with another idea! maybe there is... lets be objective! truth is hurting me here!
brittanyjean259 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 well i guess its different when your in your 30's, im 17 and was in love for 3 years...tell me how its different( not saying it isnt different..im just curious and it probally help me out..)..and were you ever in love as a kid( 16/17/18?) jw... well dont try anything to win her back!, it will just push her away right?.. if she wants you trust me she will come and get cha, dont hold done to hope though, everytime i hold done to hope it just hits me in the god darn face was she in a relationship b4 you?
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 yes big difference when you are 31 and 33!!!!!!!!!!!! everything changes, u talk about kids, you know there is only so much time left so you gotta think at least you're making the right decision... especially for women... biology! i was never in love until i was 24... proper love that is! yes a 9 years relationship says i'm 33 , i have to be 100% sure but i know i can't be...who can? i have my little flaws about her but i know she's brilliant, nobody can be perfect! this means i don't want you? obviously! we were talking about getting fertility checks the week before! maybe has nothing to do with anything anyhow! surely something can win your favorite girlfriend back! girls like being chased and wanted... not totally ignored!
brittanyjean259 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 yeah your right, but chasing her at this point...isnt something that will gain her back!.. how long were they broken up b4 she met you?.. and were you in a ltr at maybe 17? and thought you were in love for long timeeeeeee
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 yeah your right, but chasing her at this point...isnt something that will gain her back!.. how long were they broken up b4 she met you?.. and were you in a ltr at maybe 17? and thought you were in love for long timeeeeeee a long time... its funny how 'love' transpires between 17 year olds and people who are 30's and 40's ... i'm not being patronising but this has nothing to do with it no i didn't have a relationship until i was 24 i haven't chased her either, she walked out about 2 odd weeks ago and that was it while i like the tenacity of the younger generation i'd like the older version too cheers!
brittanyjean259 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 yeah i was only asking some of those questions for my benifit with what im going through..its just as tuff... well give it time, i know advice from a 17 year old isnt as helpful as some one who has experienced much more, but i think when it comes to love..age doesnt matter, pain is pain
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 yeah i was only asking some of those questions for my benifit with what im going through..its just as tuff... well give it time, i know advice from a 17 year old isnt as helpful as some one who has experienced much more, but i think when it comes to love..age doesnt matter, pain is pain i agree brittanyjean259, it all can be helpful, i like your input! and perhaps you are correct but consider that as when you get older there are so many more variables that are and are not important... AND the PAIN is worse when you're older! because more things are important and especially all the responsibilies you have when you are younger... i know exactly how i was told this too when i was younger! i thought you guys got no worries ... its us ... i hate to say this to you but i'd love to go back to your age! and especially the world is getting tougher but ignore this and enjoy yourself! i know i did and didn't care either! enjoy!
brittanyjean259 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 i guess it does get tougher, and maybe its good that im experiencing this now...i think maybe some people dont feel for other peopl until there older or more mature, but in my case that wasnt it!.. but ill take that advice," i still have my youth...and of course there is alot out there"... how long did she wait to date you after her and your ex broke up
In Sync Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 the PAIN is worse when you're older! Although I agree with brittany that pain is pain regardless of the age...because the pain I felt after my lover became the ex who dumped me and I am in my 40's and he was younger 28...the intensity hit me bcause I was unabandoned in my love for him. I didn't hold back and wasn't on guard. I had no reason not to open up to him and be myself because I am at a point in my life where I wasn't and didn't need to play games. I wasn't expecting marriage but I did want his love back. And when he started to change his behavior towards me, becoming less and less kind and more hurtful it was inconceivable. I refused to see that the relationship was hurtful to me. He was immature underneathe and I still hung in there figuring love would change him back. Of course I'd been in love before and had lost love, but the ultimate high feelings I had with him in the begiining and then the crushing blow of him breaking it off, I felt worse than anything I'd ever experienced in a breakup.
brittanyjean259 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 at my age, i feel like 3 years was a bunch of games and immaturity...but to loose some one you deeply loved...i honestly hope its for the better...its scary to think the healing process is very long, but time does go by quick.
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 i guess it does get tougher, and maybe its good that im experiencing this now...i think maybe some people dont feel for other peopl until there older or more mature, but in my case that wasnt it!.. but ill take that advice," i still have my youth...and of course there is alot out there"... how long did she wait to date you after her and your ex broke up about 6 - 7 months and she explicitely asked me was I over her... off course it was by then or near there... to be honest i nearly called her by my exes name one time and i thought erase that dude!!!!!! just habit, wasn't thinking of my ex! some people are gems... some are not! some don't start out as well but they improve and some simply do not!... i know i put 100% into my ex ... far more than the girl i did 6 years ago.... which makes me wonder what went wrong! back when i was 24 i was infatuated in my sport ( which i lived for ) , now 31 i was infatuated in my ex and what i could do for her and us! ( total loss in self interest to compared to when i was younger! ) i.e now want kids and build a house! been like that for a lot of years now... brain chemistry or something? things do change throughout your life!
chocolate_boy Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 how many lser's have done this? i think i have done it! are there exceptions to thinking like me and then the opposite occurs.... yes yes i can't get over my girl but if you seen her you'd realise mind is in a muddle of 100 directions of this at the moment, she doesn't have another man ( so i heard ) so... optimistic answers preferred as for some reason tonight i am somewhat relieved from my heartache... haven't slept for 3 days and i am drinking a bit but not that much... something happened in my brain tonight... maybe i moved on? ... maybe i received false hope... anyway i know that when i wake up tomorrow that i may feel terrible again so i'm enjoying this moment Dude we've been there too... first few weeks after I split with my ex I just went out, did coke and drugs all night, but it made me feel 100x worse when I came down, so I'm off anything like that now, not even drinking until 2006 I've decided. I'm still only sleeping 4 hours a day and have done since we split (Sept 23). I too thought, how will I ever get over her, she ticks all the boxes, I'll not meet a girl like her again who not only fits in with my life, physically is perfect, shares all my friends etc. But then I realise, the girl that ticks the boxes wouldn't get up and desert me after claiming she loved me more than life. Mine claimed she didn't have another man 2 weeks ago, I've since heard off mutual friends that she has been kissing one of her work mates on nights out a lot, that was 2 weeks ago, I wouldn't be surprised if he's now her new rebound fella, she never stays single, despite telling me one of the reasons for our split was "i need to be on my own in my final year of uni, then I want to travel after to don't want to be tied down". It's all lies. Best thing I heard was about this new guy though, I dunno if your brain works like mine, but that almost felt like she'd cheated on me... we had only been split 4 weeks after what she claimed was her most important relationship in her life as yet... well it obviously meant **** to her. Hearing that changed my attitude from obsessively thinking how to win her back, to deciding I wouldn't take her back if she came crawling on all fours now. I do not ever want to hear from her or see her again, and pray I don't. Good luck my friend, hope you find some inspirtation here.
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 It's all lies. Best thing I heard was about this new guy though, I dunno if your brain works like mine, but that almost felt like she'd cheated on me... we had only been split 4 weeks after what she claimed was her most important relationship in her life as yet... well it obviously meant **** to her. Hearing that changed my attitude from obsessively thinking how to win her back, to deciding I wouldn't take her back if she came crawling on all fours now. I do not ever want to hear from her or see her again, and pray I don't. Good luck my friend, hope you find some inspirtation here. that was your closure! i remember 6 years ago being heartbroken, i phoned my exes mother and she said that guy that my ex told me is her friend... well he's more than that... i put the phone down and actually felt a lot better! that was the end! this particular ex called me a couple of months ago out of the blue... weird! at the minute i still feel like i'm in limbo land
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 maybe i should just ask her out again, maybe i would get an answer as to if she is seeing anybody if she is i'd go f*** it and move on and avoid her forever i know that bumping into exes with their boyfriends wrecks your head... hits you like a tonne of bricks unless of course you have moved on and with a new love although like you chocolate_boy she maintains there isn't anybody although maybe she is telling the truth... came out with all that "i haven't been on my own since i was 17" stuff... yeah so why start now?
brittanyjean259 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 yeah espeically when you walk over there, to try to make up with them( like always i did..and it worked)...only to see your love with some1 new laying down together, that can also wreck with your mind.....
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