scobro Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 What did your ex say to you to let you know they were done with you and the marriage or what did you say to your ex to end your marriage?
Scott S Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 Nothing intentionally directed to me. To the other man, "Just think! In a few weeks I'll be a free woman!" followed by a verbal listing of the body parts that she wanted to handle (and that I wanted to remove with power tools).
Art_Critic Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 This wasn't what they said to me as I am the one that ended the marriage with a divorce.. But I said " Goodbye "
Skeered Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 I was direct and to the point...I want a divorce. I had tried being delicate in the past only to chicken out and say ok let's try to fix it (AGAIN).
ClassLady Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 Finally I told him the truth and how I really felt. I loved him and always will but am no longer "in love" with him. There is a big differance.
slubberdegullion Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 During an argument, my ex pulled out the "that's it, I'm moving out" card one too many times. So I called her on it. Best call I ever made.
dgiirl Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 oh my where do i start? I'm sure it's all buried into my history. He said an awful lot of horrible stuff. Stuff I'm starting to forget thankfully because for the first 6 months i kept replaying the whole night in my head over and over. He started off with "I want a divorce". He should have shut the hell up after that. He could have left with some dignity, but he didnt and tried to destroy me in the process as he walked out.
Devildog Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Finally I told him the truth and how I really felt. I loved him and always will but am no longer "in love" with him. There is a big differance. ah, someone with the typical crock of sh*t answer. Quick show of hands here, how many of the dumpees heard this very same line only to find out that someone else was involved? [raises hand]
DaisyBelle Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Hmmm....well, my ex didn't say shyt. It was essentially me playing Twenty Questions with him giving yes or no answers. Me: "Are you mad/sad/hurt/what?" Him: ::grunting:: etc., etc., until I finally hit the magic question, "Do you not want to be with me anymore?" (This was after eight months of marriage.) Then he said, in a robotic voice, "I'm terminating this relationship." It was horrible. Glad it's over.
Trimmer Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Hard as it is sometimes, I have to give my wife some credit - she did not do the "love but not in love" thing - she went right to "I don't love you and I don't think I want to be married to you any more." But she would say it like "I don't think...", or "I don't want to be married to you right now...", which was probably her way of hedging, and which kept me/us hanging for some time. I'm omitting a lot of discussions, discovery of the OM, etc... But several times, I told her "if there's any chance for us, I'd do anything to work on it, but if there's no chance, you owe it to me to tell me straight out," and she was always quiet in answer to that, but finally she answered with "it's time to stop trying." (I've learned a lot since then, and I might have handled things differently with more experience, but there you have it...) That was when my mind knew it was over. Now, my heart was another deal; see the "Letting Go" thread for that process (and feel free to chime in there with your own experiences - I think that thread and this one complement each other nicely...) How 'bout you, scobro?
Mz. Pixie Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 After hedging because of all the pain he was in he just finally came out and asked me "Is there any possibility for us to stay together- I HAVE TO KNOW TODAY" he said. So I said, "No." because that was how I felt at that point. He never tried to reconcile after that point.
Author scobro Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 ah, someone with the typical crock of sh*t answer. Quick show of hands here, how many of the dumpees heard this very same line only to find out that someone else was involved? [raises hand] HAHAHAHAHAHAHA LMAO.........SO TRUE ,SO TRUE:p
Author scobro Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 How 'bout you, scobro? Im glad you asked Trimmer.The first year she did it to me(married only 2 years)she said in the car one afternoon "im not happy and its over""i am not attracted to you anymore amd I don't have the same feelings I use to plus the chemistry is gone and I don't think im in love with you I love you but I'm not in love"(we all love that one)I then found out there was another guy entering the picture which is usually the case.We got back together a month later went to councelling got things on track. The next year (2nd year of marriage) last Aug she says "we need to talk I am not happy with our marriage and I need to see a councellor to find out why I feel this way Im not saying its over just I need some time".I left for Florida to get away and on the phone she tells me"i have some bad news its not going to work"(never did see the councellor) but the usual another guy appears a couple of weeks later. Some women never change.
Author scobro Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 Finally I told him the truth and how I really felt. I loved him and always will but am no longer "in love" with him. There is a big differance. Especially when the difference is another man.This line is up there with "its not you its me"for the most pathetic way to dump someone. I would rather hear "I have found someone with a bigger penis" than to here that line.
Mz. Pixie Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Sco- I'm just curious- is that you in your avatar???
Author scobro Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 Why yes it is as a matter of fact.
kitten chick Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I would rather hear "I have found someone with a bigger penis" than to here that line. I hope you don't mind but I'm definitely going to use that one in the future!
Mz. Pixie Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 You're definitely a cutie.... I didn't realize that your wife had done this before- to you. Sounds like she might be a serial cheater. That sucks. How are you feeling this week?? Any better?
Trimmer Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I would rather hear "I have found someone with a bigger penis" than to here that line. :lmao: This is going to be the thing that makes me giggle for the rest of the day....
Author scobro Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 Thank you(blush) how do I feel=uuuuggggggh I was fine until I saw my ex at the gym this morning.I had to train a client my ex knows I train this person at a certain time and she is always there at that time as well.The last time I saw her I ignored her this time she sees me and gives me a big mother trucker smile and wave like nothing between us is wrong.I hate when I see her because I always feel bad and so inadequate and all the feelings come back and I go 3 steps backward when I start moving forward. There is nothing I can do because I am a fitness trainer and clients are my bread and butter so if she is there when I am training someone there is nothing I can do to make her not show up.Do you think i should e-mail her to tell her not to show on the 2 days I am there but then i will break no contact but i see her in person anyway........confused I feel like I did 6 weeks ago hurt and in pain I feel so inadequte around her like a real loser this really sucks she definately killed my self esteem when she killed our marriage.......What should I do?
ClassLady Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Especially when the difference is another man.This line is up there with "its not you its me"for the most pathetic way to dump someone. I would rather hear "I have found someone with a bigger penis" than to here that line. That happened too!
Mz. Pixie Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Could you get her membership revoked?? Sco- seriously, think for a second- this is HER issue and not yours. Really. You know if you guys had been married 5-10 years and you were taking her for granted and such I can see how things happen but you've been married- what two years and this is the second time?? Let me guess- she's very very beautiful- men hit on her all the time- and she ties her self worth up in how she looks?? Not trying to slam her but she seems to love attention. I wouldn't let her know that it bothered me to have her come there. I think she will just do it more actually. I'd just walk the other direction and act like she was a piece of fuzz on the ground.
Author scobro Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 Let me guess- she's very very beautiful- men hit on her all the time- and she ties her self worth up in how she looks?? Is that your final answer? You are correct.Not just correct absolutely 100% on the money baby!!! That is exactly it the whole blonde hair, nice body,tanned, big boobs all about the looks loves the attention, 3rd marriage 37 years old.Hangs out a singles bars starts dating someone with me still living in the house and only 2 weeks after she ends the marriage..........heartless.
JS17 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 That's why I decided to stop dating good looking guys after my last two relationships.
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