BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 amongst the breakup speech for me it was "go out and get yourself a nice girl" it felt like a bullet through the head!
CantDecide... Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 well this isnt the worst thing shes said, but the worst thing she did to me was, we were at a huge house party, and i saw her there, she knew i was there, and knew i was in the room at the time, and i turned around and saw her hooking up with a guy:( that i knew since preschool that was my next door neighbor for 10 years. that was a bullet through the heart. Worst thing she ever said, she ddint need to say anything her actions spoke louder then words
JayKay Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 I think the worst thing an ex ever said to me was, "I never really thought you were that good looking anyway..."
JS17 Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 mine was..."I'm having such an easy time getting over this because you're making it easy for me to get over it" 1
Author BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 9, 2005 Author Posted November 9, 2005 I think the worst thing an ex ever said to me was, "I never really thought you were that good looking anyway..." thats bad but near maybe worse is when after 4 1/2 months of telling you how good looking you are they walk out the front door!
RecordProducer Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 My ex-husband had (and still has) a daughter from his first marriage who is two years older than our twin boys. When they were just born he said: 1."Imagine if an older child hurts the baby and it remains disabled or something... how to tell the older child when it grows up "Your sibling is not okay because of you"? In case you didn't get it, he wasn't worried about the newborns that might get hurt, but how to tell his daughter that it's she who hurt them, when she grows up. Of course, nothing like that happened. Another thing he said was: 2. "Lucky you, you have two sons and I have only one daughter!" He was refering to the myth that boys are momma's boys and girls are daddy's girls. But given that he left me and the boys when they were just 2 years old, it sounded like the boys are mine and he has his little daughter from his first marriage. By the way, she has always been a terrible child so I guess he was sure that she is HIS daughter.
chocolate_boy Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 "I just don't love you anymore" "I was kidding myself, I didn't want to have sex with you" "I don't think you're ugly I just don't find you attractive anymore" "I love you so much.. I want you back..." followed 2 days later by by "I see no future for us... " ouch. Followed by a week after we split and I'm upset "this was all over a week ago to me.. sorry"
Sloppy Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 For me it was:"I wish I could be there for you" when he is with someone else, and "I love you so much that it hurts" when is is f***ing someone else. Lie after a lie. That hurt the most....realizing he had been lying for so long and that I was willingly blind to it.
DaisyBelle Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 Spoken by my ex-husband after eight months of marriage, right before he filed for divorce: "Girls are like busses: there'll be another one along in five minutes." "Have you ever slept with a black guy? Because if you have, I have a high chance of getting AIDS from you." "Let's face it, you're not the biggest [chestwise] in the world."
totallyconfused Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 "Even if she's only 18 years old?" Reply - "She'll be 19 soon" --- the ex boyfriend was 26 at the time talking about the online affair he had. they only lasted 2 weeks... what a waste of a breakup. Just wanted to add the worst thing I ever said, "we're severely beating a dead horse. that dead horse is serious representation of our relationship"
malachai Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 "Have you ever slept with a black guy? Because if you have, I have a high chance of getting AIDS from you." wow. unbelievable. mine weren't as harsh as some of these, but three that stuck out: (the infamous) "i love you, but am not in love with you." -um, then who wrote all those letters with all the heart-wrenching confessions of love for me?? "you will find someone so much better for you than i can be" -honestly now, what about that last sentence is going to make even an ounce of me feel better when YOU ARE LEAVING ME. "there is nothing wrong with you. you were a great boyfriend" -yeah. no explanation needed.
NrclptcNSmniak Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 hmm... ive only had one serious girlfriend in my life... 3 years then about... another 2 months of crap... it just recently happened actually.... i think i may post it since im having trouble coping... anyway you kinda have to know the background a little... we broke up ( i broke up with her but under false pretences that were only cleared up a month later. nothing happened within that month.) i admitted it was a mistake and said that i still loved her and wanted to be with her. she told me that she "still had feelings for me" and that she still "liked me" and that she still "cared about me and missed being with me" and just when i think shes gonna forgive me for putting her through that heartbreak and get back with me she turns around and starts dating a person that she knows i hate with every fiber of my being. he was a friend, and we used to hang out, but as time went on i started to... hate him... but for the sake of everyone else, i decided not to create any drama and didn't say anything to him..... all the time he acted like my friend and consoled me when she wouldn't take me back........ my ex even knew i hated him... and untill she started going out with him we maintained contact.. shed call me every day or every other day or so.... untill one day she just stopped calling... i found out from my one true friend that they started going out. ya... anyway.... that was a real "bullet through the heart" as cantdecide so eloquently put it........
ziggue Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 My ex left me for his ex. A couple of days later I rang him up crying. We spoke for a bit and then he has the nerve to give the phone to his girlfriend so she can have a little chat to me. I didn't take that too well. Ended up telling her off and then hung up on the bitch. That was the first time I have ever been dumped by someone else and had my heart broken. It takes time but you do get over it.
ziggue Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 My ex left me for his ex. A couple of days later I rang him up crying. We spoke for a bit and then he had the nerve to give the phone to his girlfriend so she can have a little chat to me. I didn't take that too well. Ended up telling her off and then hung up on the bitch. That was the first time I had ever been dumped by someone else and had my heart broken. It takes time but you do get over it.
NrclptcNSmniak Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 which is the typical response but.... im all alone right now... currently taking a break from school... got outa highschool 2 years early ... just cudn't deal with it... the teachers were idiots... my chem teacher actually has a rich husband and only teaches for the sake of giving us kids a hard time... heh.... i actually even asked her once... but its not like the school can do anything about it haha..... my ex... not ex at the time didn't approve but understood and didn't make too big a deal outa it... i moved about an hour away and ... well started hating all my friends except that 1 friend.... but he doesn't drive or anything so .... ya... i guess what im trying to say is that its hard... esp when you have no one to turn to ya.... ur ex seems like an ass... im sorry....
DaisyBelle Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 Geez, this question has really got me going down memory lane... "You don't know me at all." <---- because I bought the wrong kind of peanut butter. "I don't love you, I don't want to be married to you, and I want this marriage over as soon as possible." "You have ugly legs." "You have too many problems. I can't deal with it." "You're financially irresponsible." <---- um, yeah. I have a credit score of 782. OK, this is depressing. I'm gonna stop now.
Art_Critic Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 How about ... You never noticed that I needed new tires on my car.. I want someone that cares enough about me to notice those little things
lindya Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 "You're not capable of providing me with the intellectual stimulation I need." The f***er was 100% right. Much as he needed 5000 volts blasted into his brain, I could never quite bring myself to do it.
loony Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 Maybe I'm mean now, but I think that's not a good thread to start when you just came from a break up, it rather seems very self-destructive. All this wallowing in self-pity is not going to help you get over your ex, BrainRightHeartWrong. Given your previous posts on your break up I have to say that your relationship didn't sound very healthy and the end of your relationship is so devastating because of other deeper issues you and she have (yeah, I know, it sounds cruel to say to someone that he just feels so lousy because in reality he has serious issues with himself, but I can only say, "Been there, done that." and my take is that it's more helpful to give people an objective view on their situation when they need one but are least able to offer it to themselves than to merely comfort them with the idea that things will turn out fine in the end and you will be happy again. Things don't turn out fine if you close your eyes to your real problems. You just repeat the cycle.)
littlekitty Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 "You're not capable of providing me with the intellectual stimulation I need." The f***er was 100% right. Much as he needed 5000 volts blasted into his brain, I could never quite bring myself to do it. Brilliant!!
littlekitty Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 Here we go: 'You're not marriage material. You're the kind of girl men like to f*ck...' 'You look like a cheap checkout girl on holiday' 'Saw some right sl*t with a tacky chinese tattoo on her arm...' <-- while speaking to me and remembers my 'tacky chinese tattoo'. (which is currently being removed... thank god!) I could on and on and on...
933KJL Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 The lack of words is more of a killer for me. My wife of almost ten years made a decision to cheat, and I ultimately filed for divorce after a bit of counseling, but I would have given my right nut to know what I did to drive her to cheat. It still irks me that I have no clue. Hearing the old I love you but am not in love wth you, or the you suck in bed, or the your a lazy ass, or we have grown apart, or you have a pencil dick, or any of those would have been preferable to the silence. But 5 years ppost divorce and she is remarried (not to the OM) and I asked, and apparently this is a secret that is headed to the grave with her.....speaking of graves--Lindya...got that stun gun?
JS17 Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 The lack of words is more of a killer for me. I would have given my right nut to know what I did to drive her to cheat. It still irks me that I have no clue. DITTO!!! (minus the right nut part)
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 Well he's not my ex but the worst things he's ever said to me have to be: A week after we got together - 'I'm so sorry and i have to tell you i've cheated on you with your best friend and i can't remember what we did' After being together 3 months when i was very late for my period and completely crapping myself and not sleeping at all i rang him up when he was drunk but i didn't know he was at the timec and he said - ' I can't be there for you anymore because of work and HE couldn't handle all this bad news everytime we spoke and has to avoid me sometimes ' which hurt like hell and was a lie. I hate alcohol.
In Sync Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 There were so many things he did and said that were particularly hurtful, but the one thing he said that still cuts in my heart is this one comment: "I have better things to do than be with you." How does one become so mean in life I've often wondered?
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