mrB2006 Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 Hello, I am writing again to LS because you out there have given me great advice. Granted, I didn't follow it to the letter (and I should have-it would have saved me much grief). I won't talk again about my close female friend. If you are interested, then please read my previous posts. My dilemma....We had several deep emails going between us. I went ahead and spilled my guts out. She basically said that I should have given her some physical clues that I was interested. (I was too worried that I would 'ruin' our friendship by coming on to her). She said that she was curious about my feelings throughout our time together. Now, we have agreed to be 'just friends'. In one of my emails to her I mentioned that I would stop communicating with her if she wanted me to. She has urged me to continue writing her letters and emails. We have been communicating with each other weekly now. (She now lives on the east coast). My problem is this: I still have these feelings for her. I believe that these feelings probably will not go away because she has had such a positive influence on my life. She changed my life, so to speak (and I know that sounds very corny). I want to be with her...A part of me feels like I am weak for wanting to continue talking with her. Another part of me feels that I must continue because it would be hard to let go of someone who has had such an impact on my life. I have even bought her a Christmas gift already. Question: Should I continue to communicate with her? Am I being a weakling? Is it possible to still be 'just friends'? I have read that platonic relationships may mean more to the man than the female. But, does she want to keep the line open to me because something 'may' happen in the future, or she just wants to be friends? What advice can you give someone who wants to be more than friends with the one he loves? I do realize that life will go on for both of us. And I know that I am DEEP in the friendzone... All opinions are welcomed on this issue. She means so much to me spirtually, emotionally, and intellectually. At this point, I should try to let her go (for now). But how? mrB2006
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