Beachgrl486 Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 OK here is the deal. I have been seeing this guy for a few months. He lives in Connecticut I live in South Carolina. We have been friends for a while. (a few years) Just recently started dating...We never see eachother but next week we are going to Georgia for a few days together. He is flying down here and I am going to drive us there. I am really excited. Here is the question. I really like this guy a lot and I know he really likes me as well. We always say we have the perfect relationship except for the distance. I am in college but not really tied down to anything but that. I have lived here my whole life and he has lived there his whole life. It would be hard for either one of us to make the move eventually but I mean I would hope that this would go somewhere. Thats what you hope to eventually come out of LDR's right? Well it has been mentioned a few times. I was just wondering how long do you think you should be together or when should you make that decision to move? I mean I know after seeing eachother next week it is just going to make us much stronger and it is only going to get harder. I dont want to be that far away from someone I care about. I mean I have such a good feeling about all of this. He always says it just feels right and I agree. Some advice please or please tell me how I should handle it. As time goes on and I start to fall in love I am not going to be away from him. I will not live like that. I can go to college anywhere. I am excited about this trip next week. I really need to see what comes from that but I know it is just going to make me like him sooo much more. Advice please.
Outcast Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 Don't jump the gun. Finish out your college year - that will give you both time to spend more time together and get to know each other. Then, if you still feel strongly that you might want a future with him, transfer to the college in his town. Do NOT live with him; live alone but date him in his own town. You should make enquiries now about whether your courses will be transferable to the new place. Not all schools are good about accepting others' credits.
downcydeguy Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 Do NOT live with him; live alone but date him in his own town. . I don't agree so much with this advice. Why move to a strange town with no friends/family if the relationship doesn't work?? You saying that college is your only activity, I'm assuming that you are a full-time student with little or no income. Moving is very expensive and Connecticut is not a cheap place to live. Also, living together is the absolute best way to REALLY get to know the true person. Check the statistics: more couples are living together from 1 to 2 years before marriage these days. There's a reason for this. Now, since you've only been dating a short time, and a move would be a little further than across town, you should wait a while. And what about HIM moving to South Carolina? Is that not an option? (the weather's better!) The ultimate decision will be made in your gut, and you'll know what feels right when the time comes.
Outcast Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 While living together is the best way to get to know someone, it's a real bad idea if you haven't spent much 3D time with him ahead of time. Take it from one who knows. Why move to a strange town with no friends/family if the relationship doesn't work? I don't see what the problem is; if someone's attending college in one new city, why not another? Your student years are the best time to make such moves when the university environment provides plenty of other opportunities to make friends, etc. in case the romance doesn't work out. Plus she doesn't have to worry about switching jobs, selling a house, etc. As for being expensive to move, that's if you have a houseful of expensive furniture. She's probably in student accommodations so she can sell the furniture she has and buy new stuff in the new town. I think you're thinking from the point of someone already established in home and job. It's way different for a student.
Author Beachgrl486 Posted November 10, 2005 Author Posted November 10, 2005 Thanks guys...I will just wait and see what happens. I am going to see him this upcoming week and that will make a big decision in where out relationship will go. I have always been told to follow my gut so we will just have to see. I will update you on whats going on in the future.
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