My gf of 6 mouths dumped me because she was afraid of committment

[Jimmy Jimmy]

•I'm not an english person so sorry about the poor language and the long text

So me and my ex dated for 6 mouths she was the one who had a crush on me she started with a love text and texting me everyday with a fake account (she didn't want to tell me who she is) we go to the same school. I was asking her if she wanted to meet and she was scared because her parents are stricts and she's afraid they will find out and she doesn't seem ready for a relationship so I cut contact with her and told her to not text me. 

After a week she texted me again and asked me to meet then we started dating and fall in love with each other our relationship was good we agree sometimes and she has defficulties to communicate with me and she always afraid of me leaving her 

After 4 mouths she started to act distant and mean for no reason and she once said she regret the relationship (she's a religious person and she don't want her parents to find out) she asked me to be friends at first but I refused (she was kinda mean and manipulative before the break up and got mad) I told her some bad things and she reminded me once I promised her to wait if she doesn't feel it. 

 We texted for three days after the breakup and she wasn't the same persone so I cut contact with her. After a week I reach out and she started to acting old and hot and told me some things like she don't wanna be in a relationship and our relationship was nothing to her and I need to move on I begged her to stay 

Then the next she started texting me for a stupid reason then I told her that I miss talking to her and she acted mean as always SO I asked her to block me and never text me again 

After a mouth I reach out to her because I wasn't feeling right (I'm a suicidal persone) she was always there to support me but this time she said that she doesn't care and I need to stop getting her to these senarious and leave her alone 

I was asking why she changed like this so I found in the internet that a dumper start to get defensive after the breakup and If I give her space she will calm down amd think of reaching out. during the break up she told me we can get in a relationship in the future 

Is there a chance we will get together in the future ?  she is moving on to college and I'm curious if she will forget me 

What should I do ?

[stillafool]

Why won't she let her parents know that she's dating you?  How old are you two?

[Jimmy Jimmy]

28 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Why won't she let her parents know that she's dating you?  How old are you two?

She an anxious person and afriad of they're reaction 

She 18 and I'm 20

[Wiseman2]

43 minutes ago, Jimmy Jimmy said:

 she was scared because her parents are stricts and she's afraid they will find out and she doesn't seem ready for a relationship.  she's a religious person and she don't want her parents to find out. she asked me to be friends at first but I refused 

Sorry this happened.  If she is afraid or not allowed to date, all you can do is date girls who can be themselves and are allowed to go out on dates. Try not to take it personally, her parents may punish her if she tries to date boys. Just stay away from her.

Edited July 13, 2023 by Wiseman2

[Jimmy Jimmy]

Just now, Wiseman2 said:

Sorry this happened. How old is she? If she is afraid or not allowed to date, all you can do is date girls who can be themselves and are allowed to go out on dates. Try not to take it personally, her parents may punish her if she tries to date boys. Just stay away from her.

Yeah but we love each others

[Wiseman2]

1 minute ago, Jimmy Jimmy said:

Yeah but we love each others

If her parents find out she could be subjected to severe punishment, so if you care about her, leave her alone or get her parents permission to take her on a date.

[stillafool]

5 minutes ago, Jimmy Jimmy said:

She an anxious person and afriad of they're reaction 

She 18 and I'm 20 allowed to date?

Why?  At 18 is she allowed to date?

[stillafool]

Just now, stillafool said:

Why?  At 18 is she allowed to date?

Are you in the US?  18 is an adult and can make their own decisions.

[Jimmy Jimmy]

3 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Why?  At 18 is she allowed to religious parents 

 

[stillafool]

12 minutes ago, Jimmy Jimmy said:

 

Okay, but at 18 she is of legal age and can make her own decisions.  Does she know this?

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Jimmy Jimmy said:

•I'm not an english person so sorry about the poor language 

They seem to be from a different culture. Some cultures do not allow dating and apparently she is afraid her parents will find out, so he may have to get their permission or leave her be.

39 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Are you in the US?  

 

[Jimmy Jimmy]

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

If her parents find out she could be subjected to severe punishment, so if you care about her, leave her alone or get her parents permission to take her on a date.

Okay so I let her go then, that's the right thing to do thanks for the answer I appreciate 

[ExpatInItaly]

She is far too immature for a serious relationship, Jimmy. 

Yes, let her go. She's not in your future. 

[JTSW]

She has made it clear that she is not interested in continuing or having a future relationship with you.

She is so young and nowhere near strong enough to hold you up when you feel suicidal.

If that is true too then you need to speak with a therapist.

This girl isn't qualified to help you.

Yes, let her go because she has sooo much growing up to do.