Re-connected with class mate after 42yrs. So many things in common. Feel close already.

[squishall]

I rarely am on Facebook other than to keep in contact with kids and friends. One evening I get a friend request from a women who I have not seen or talked to in 42yrs. We were in the same homeroom in high school for 3 yrs. but other than saying hi from time to time we really did not have any sort of friendship.

 

She tells me she has moved back to town after being away all this time.  I ask her if she wanted to get together for a coffee and reminisce about school days. We do and almost immediately we find ourselves talking like we were never apart. We have so much in common that we were able to finish each others sentences. I cannot believe how many times she or I said "Me to" or "I am the same" etc. We even arrived in the same colour and type of car. We like all the same things from music, movies, food, etc. Our views on current events matched up as well. We both told each other things that you do not talk of over a casual coffee for the first time. I was wondering if we were long lost twins. It was crazy.

Neither of us is looking for a romantic relationship. We got together again the next weekend and had a blast hanging out on the beach, going for a hike, and once again, talking and discovering new things we had in common.

 I don't know what this means. I am a little confused. 

[Wiseman2]

24 minutes ago, squishall said:

.Neither of us is looking for a romantic relationship. We got together again the next weekend and had a blast hanging out on the beach, going for a hike, and once again, talking and discovering new things we had in common.

Are either of you in a relationship or recently out of one? Why did she move back?

It seems to be going great so just enjoy yourselves. Are you confused as to whether you want more than friendship or whether she does?

[ShyViolet]

I am happy for you that you had fun, but don't get too carried away.  You barely know this woman.  You were not friends back in high school, just acquaintances and so this is really the first time you are getting to know her.  If you continue to have a good time hanging out together, then that's great.  Don't put a lot of pressure or heavy expectations on this.  I'm not sure what you are confused about.

[squishall]

I am not asking the right question. I guess I am asking if this is a sign that we may become very close in a short period of time. I hear people speak of soul mates. Is this perhaps what we are? If so, does that mean it has a good chance of turning romantic? I guess, deep down, I hope it does.

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, squishall said:

 we may become very close in a short period of time. chance of turning romantic? I guess, deep down, I hope it does.

Try not to worry about the time frame. You're having a great time reconnecting and getting reacquainted. If a romantic spark develops, you'll know soon enough.

[ShyViolet]

6 hours ago, squishall said:

I am not asking the right question. I guess I am asking if this is a sign that we may become very close in a short period of time. I hear people speak of soul mates. Is this perhaps what we are? If so, does that mean it has a good chance of turning romantic? I guess, deep down, I hope it does.

You should stop trying to rush this.  If you two are so compatible, then things will develop naturally.  But when you try to rush it and slap labels on it so early (like saying "we are soul mates" after only hanging out two times) then connections like this tend to end just as quickly as they began.  

 

[Alpacalia]

My advice would be to not overthink it - the fact that this woman has been absent from your life for 42 years and has come back into it could simply be an indication that fate has a funny way of bringing people back together. Enjoy your newfound connection and continue to nurture it - after all these years it could be a true blessing.

[squishall]

Thank you for the advice. I will just go with the flow and see where it goes. I have never met a women that is so compatible with me so it is a little scary.

[Alpacalia]

5 hours ago, squishall said:

I have never met a women that is so compatible with me so it is a little scary.

Yes, I totally understand! It's exciting to find someone who shares the same interests as you. I think it's a great starting point. I would definitely get to know her better first before taking any big leaps. Over time, you'll know if you are compatible. See where things go, and be excited for whatever the future holds.

[basil67]

I understand the buzz of such a great connection....but you said that neither of you is looking for a romantic relationship.  So where are you hoping this may be headed?  And if you do change your mind on romance, what if she still doesn't want a romantic relationship?

Have you give this any thought?

 

[ExpatInItaly]

13 hours ago, squishall said:

I guess I am asking if this is a sign that we may become very close in a short period of time. I hear people speak of soul mates. Is this perhaps what we are?

You say you don't want a romantic relationship. So why this question? 

[MsJayne]

Has she contacted anyone else in her old home town or just you? If it's kismet and fate's throwing you together, great, but if she's a social media stalker, (ie; finding out all about you by checking your online stuff), I'd be very wary until you feel confident that you know all about her.