butterfly2123 Posted July 9, 2023 Posted July 9, 2023 (edited) Hi! I'd like advice on this matter: I woke up at 11am on Monday, and saw a message from my crush (let's call him Blake) sent at 1am, that says "I love you with my whole heart", "I don't care what the boys say". What should I do? This guy blocked me about 9 months ago, when I told him that I like him and he rejected me saying that (he's got 2 IG accounts) "Hey, you've texted me on my other account too, sorry you are nice but I'm not interested" . Then on the 10th of April he sent me that text. He unblocked me, Cause this text was probably sent by him when he was drunk, so...? Then, I waited for him to get sober and possibly give me an explanation or at least I was expecting to be blocked the moment he noticed he sent me that text or delete it. Nothing happened during those 3 days so I decided to text him, "Aw, that's cute. I'm seriously blushing" Then he blocked me again on IG. After 18 days, he had his prom and called me on IG and snapchat at 11pm using his friend's phone (according to what his friend told me). His friend told me he was drunk. What do u think about this? Does he really like me and scared about his friends teasing him? Why he told me he's not interested and still texts and calls me when drunk, that means he's thinking about me. Am at uni and he's already done with his A-levels. When I was still at sixth form (Y13), whenever I caught him looking at me, he looked away, and also tried to sit beside me whenever he could, that means he has a crush on me, and now he seems to not be interested. his best friends had told me that he's got a girl called Wilma(side ting) but that he still really likes me (or in love with me). I thought they were pulling me a joke cause I know this joke where they say the name and you ask who's Wilma and the answer is "Wilma nuts fit in yo mouth" I asked one of his friends (let's say Ben) and I got a text saying "Wilma nuts fit in yo mouth" answer but Ben said Blake took his phone and typed that but then Bren said to me that girl Wilma was him at that moment and if I wanted to say anything to her. It's really weird that this was not a joke, and one friend said my crush and this Wilma met at a Imagine Dragons concert and other said they met at church. Any advice, please I'd appreciate it. And two of them have sent me a SS of their snapchat group chat and there was a text apparently Blake saying that he blocked me cause I'm latina and still manage to be a 2. I asked another friends and they said that was photoshopped or that he changed someone's else name to Bartek's full name. Another of his friends (Hugo) said that Blake was saying sorry for all the rude people messaging me. Please I need advice on whether Blake has crush on me or not Edited July 12, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs
Wiseman2 Posted July 9, 2023 Posted July 9, 2023 19 minutes ago, butterfly2123 said: he had his prom and called me on IG and snapchat at 11pm using his friend's phone. When I was still at sixth form (Y13), whenever I caught him looking at me, he looked away, and also tried to sit beside me whenever he could, Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately it seems he and his friends are playing jokes. Please delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Try to move on and start socializing with boys who are clearly interested, ask you out and treat you with respect. There's no point in having a crush on someone who plays games and keeps blocking you. 1
Author butterfly2123 Posted July 9, 2023 Author Posted July 9, 2023 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately it seems he and his friends are playing jokes. Please delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Try to move on and start socializing with boys who are clearly interested, ask you out and treat you with respect. There's no point in having a crush on someone who plays games and keeps blocking you. When I was still at sixth form (Y13), and he was in (Y12) whenever I caught him looking at me, he looked away, and also tried to sit beside me whenever he could, does that mean he had a crush on me. Maybe also I have a guy best friend and he thought we were dating so he distanced himself and also I was on my way to uni so... But I do think he had a crush on me when we were at school, cause during that time where he looked at me I was alone during break and lunch cause my friend group pushed me away and sat alone during 5 months so he thought I didn't have a relationship with anyone and then I became friends with my guy best friend so he got jealous.
stillafool Posted July 9, 2023 Posted July 9, 2023 1 hour ago, glows said: I don’t think he has a crush on you. Sorry. Neither do I. You will know guy wants you when he asks you out on a date. His friends sound like they're playing tricks on you. Stop asking and talking to them about him. He will speak for himself if he's interested. 1
ShyViolet Posted July 9, 2023 Posted July 9, 2023 Are you serious? This all sounds like very immature teenage behavior. You can't just look at that one text he sent you (the one where he said he loves you). You need to look at the overall context of his behavior. The blocking you multiple times, the immature games. This is ridiculous. Don't waste your time with this. And the way he has been acting, this is definitely not the way someone acts when they actually like you or care about you. Surround yourself with people who act like respectable adults. 1
JTSW Posted July 10, 2023 Posted July 10, 2023 I can guarantee that he has never had a crush on you. I can also guarantee that it wasn't him that sent the love text. I'm betting it was a friend of his sending it for a laugh then deleted it so this dude probably has no idea about it. He and his friends have been taking the mick and playing jokes on you for a long time now. You have just been the butt of their jokes. Time to put a stop to it. Stop talking to his friends because the more you ask questions the more they mess with you. Block them all. 2
Author butterfly2123 Posted July 10, 2023 Author Posted July 10, 2023 1 hour ago, JTSW said: I can guarantee that he has never had a crush on you. I can also guarantee that it wasn't him that sent the love text. I'm betting it was a friend of his sending it for a laugh then deleted it so this dude probably has no idea about it. He and his friends have been taking the mick and playing jokes on you for a long time now. You have just been the butt of their jokes. Time to put a stop to it. Stop talking to his friends because the more you ask questions the more they mess with you. Block them all. He didn't delete it, he just didn't reply to give me an explanation. I waited for him to get sober to give me an explanation about it but he didn't blocked me just yet until I decided to reply to him with "Aw, that's cute. I'm seriously blushing" That was 3 days after that text. So like he sent me that text at 1 am in the morning of a Monday. I was expecting that on that day he was going to notice that text and say something to me like sorry I sent you this text, I didn't mean it. But no, I waited Tuesday, Wednesday, and finally on Thursday I decided to text him the text above of "Aww, that's cute" when he saw the message he blocked me in that instant. but during the other 3 days he didn't. so what does that mean?
JTSW Posted July 10, 2023 Posted July 10, 2023 8 minutes ago, butterfly2123 said: But no, I waited Tuesday, Wednesday, and finally on Thursday I decided to text him the text above of "Aww, that's cute" when he saw the message he blocked me in that instant. but during the other 3 days he didn't. so what does that mean? It means nothing. Are you assuming he was drunk or do you know that for a fact? How do you know he was the one that sent it? Like I said, you are just the butt of their jokes so don't waste your time on him. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 10, 2023 Posted July 10, 2023 Why are you wasting an energy at all on this nonsense? A guy who is really interested in you isn't going to behave like this. Wait for a more mature, respectful guy. This one sounds like a juvenile clown. 1
Author butterfly2123 Posted July 10, 2023 Author Posted July 10, 2023 35 minutes ago, JTSW said: It means nothing. Are you assuming he was drunk or do you know that for a fact? How do you know he was the one that sent it? Like I said, you are just the butt of their jokes so don't waste your time on him. I'm assuming he was drunk cause texts at 1am are not normal
Alpacalia Posted July 10, 2023 Posted July 10, 2023 Err. A guy that texts you at 1:00am is an automatic pass. Sorry but nice guys don’t do that. Don't need to read the rest.
Wiseman2 Posted July 10, 2023 Posted July 10, 2023 Please read up on cyber bullying. Please talk to trusted adult relatives or teachers about what's going on. They are pulling pranks on you. You need to delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. 1
stillafool Posted July 10, 2023 Posted July 10, 2023 48 minutes ago, butterfly2123 said: I'm assuming he was drunk cause texts at 1am are not normal Block this guy from contact. These guys are trying to make a fool out of you.
Author butterfly2123 Posted July 10, 2023 Author Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/9/2023 at 2:53 PM, butterfly2123 said: When I was still at sixth form (Y13), and he was in (Y12) whenever I caught him looking at me, he looked away, and also tried to sit beside me whenever he could, does that mean he had a crush on me. Maybe also I have a guy best friend and he thought we were dating so he distanced himself and also I was on my way to uni so... But I do think he had a crush on me when we were at school, cause during that time where he looked at me I was alone during break and lunch cause my friend group pushed me away and sat alone during 5 months so he thought I didn't have a relationship with anyone and then I became friends with my guy best friend so he got jealous. So what does this mean?
stillafool Posted July 10, 2023 Posted July 10, 2023 9 minutes ago, butterfly2123 said: So what does this mean? It means nothing because no action was taken. Did he ask to take you out?
Author butterfly2123 Posted July 10, 2023 Author Posted July 10, 2023 2 hours ago, stillafool said: It means nothing because no action was taken. Did he ask to take you out? nope but I mean he could be a shy guy
Alpacalia Posted July 10, 2023 Posted July 10, 2023 (edited) 23 minutes ago, butterfly2123 said: nope but I mean he could be a shy guy He blocked you when you expressed interest and said he's not interested. He's not shy. He sounds like a wanker. I wouldn't read too much into messages he sent you while drunk or on a friend's phone. He has made it clear he's not interested in pursuing you. He has also made disrespectful and inappropriate remarks about your ethnicity. You should stay away from him. Edited July 10, 2023 by Alpacalia 1
JTSW Posted July 11, 2023 Posted July 11, 2023 15 hours ago, butterfly2123 said: nope but I mean he could be a shy guy Nope, definitely not a shy guy. He told you straight that he isn't interested. You need to block them all. It worries me that you don't seem to understand what they are doing.
Author butterfly2123 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Posted July 11, 2023 it couldn't have been him, probs his friends as well
JTSW Posted July 11, 2023 Posted July 11, 2023 3 minutes ago, butterfly2123 said: it couldn't have been him, probs his friends as well I think his friends are messing with you and he's joining in.
Author butterfly2123 Posted July 11, 2023 Author Posted July 11, 2023 1 hour ago, JTSW said: I think his friends are messing with you and he's joining in. Probably
ShyViolet Posted July 11, 2023 Posted July 11, 2023 On 7/10/2023 at 10:18 AM, butterfly2123 said: So what does this mean? Who cares what it "means".... when someone shows themselves to be an immature loser the way he has, you preserve your self-respect and you move on from them. He is not serious about you, he gets drunk a lot which is pathetic, and he doesn't respect you. What else is there to talk about? Don't you think you can do better than this?
Wiseman2 Posted July 11, 2023 Posted July 11, 2023 Are you on summer break from school? Please use this time for a part time job, joining groups and clubs, taking some extra classes and courses, getting involved in sports and fitness and of course, applying to universities. Worry about your future, not what these bozos think.
basil67 Posted July 12, 2023 Posted July 12, 2023 I agree that this is social media bullying. Block both his accounts and any of his friends who follow you. Then change all of your social media settings so that you need to give permission for people to friend you. DO NOT give permission for any of them to friend you. Please seek support from your parents or a trusted friend about this 1
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