TUDOR Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Totally agree with you but when you make a post on her you are going to get some advice you might like and then you will get some you might not .. Everybody has their own opinions and we may not like them but when you bring it LS you will be judge whether or not you want to or not!! You will take it and like it....(sorry just talking to the woman in my avatar)
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 I believe in Lust at first sight but not love. I mean how do you love someone you know nothing about? Absolutely not. Because when you "love" someone based entirely on how they look and nothing about their personality, it's called "lust."
Walk Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 You will take it and like it....(sorry just talking to the woman in my avatar) You sick b... Grab them ears big boy, and watch them teeth!! puddin' time!!
Tangerina Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 The one rule that has always worked is Wait Until Marriage. It's seem to have worked anyway (although i do feel sorry for the people that wait and then get stuck with someone that's terrible at it). I think people made that rule up to make things less complicated, i mean it's hard trying to explain love and life to adolescents and saying "just wait until marriage" is so much easier. If you dont really know and your not comfortable with it, then waiting till marriage is best for u. If u cant wait until marriage, then at least know u love the person first because having sex with someone you love is so much more fun than having sex with just some person you've been on a few dates with. KatieMae, I have to say that I really think that this is a dangerous attitude!!! I don't mean that it is dangerous to encourage people to wait until marriage, that is often a really good option for people and a really good way to stay safe... BUT!!!! Telling kids just wait until marriage because it is difficult to talk to them about sex has been SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN to cause them to be more likely to engage in risky sexual behaviours and at a younger age, than really respecting their intellegence and telling them about all of the pros and cons and dangers and pleasures... sure it can be tough, but it is better for them as a healthy well adjusted individual and for society... The government thinks that you can just tell kids "wait until you are married, oh, and if you do have sex before them so many bad things will happen so just don't"... so the gov has put billions of dollars into abstainance-only sex ed because of this attitude and now they are finding that because young people don't have any real info about sex they are getting into all sorts of trouble... for one thing, humans are inherently sexual and telling them just say no doesn't change this fact.... here are some of the negative consequesnces of these programs... if anyone wants to dispute these facts I will do better research and find some actual studies to show you, but trust me: Ok, so.... young people are told to remain virgins until marriage, but they are still horny, so adolecents who have had only abstainance education are more likely to engage in high risk oral or anal sex because they believe their virginity is still intact but they don't know how to protect from disease in those situations... Adolecents who recieve abstanance only sex ed are more likely to get STDs or have an unwanted pregnancy because they are either taught that birth control doesnt work (oh, so why use it if it doesn't work anyways, they ask) or they aren't even told about BC, so when they fall off the abstainence wagon, they don't use a condom.... Adolecents who do get conprehensive and medically acurate sex ed are more likely to delay first intercourse until they are older because they are fully aware of all of the benefits and risks and make more informed decisions... they are much more likely to use birth control and condoms the first time as well... No matter how uncomfortable it makes some adults, their children need to know about how to have a healthy and safe sex life weather or not they wait until they are married... our country is doing its youth a great disservice by denying them this... teaching youth about sex does not make it any more or less likely that they will become sexually active, but it does make it more likely that if they do chose to be sexually active then they will be safe about it... And because it is difficult or uncomfortable for many adults to talk about it we need the government to step up and actually fund medically acurate sex ed... or squeamish parents need to take the initiative and hire a sexuality educator to talk to their kids... make a party out of it and invite all the neighborhood kids who are at that age, my parents and their friends did that for us and I am so thankful!.... or at least buy them a book aout it so they can learn what they need to know... Ok, I am stepping off my soap box....
pb-anna Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 Dear "crazy and confused", there is no such thing as normal in these things. Whenever you both feel like it, it's ok. There is no need to wait if you really want it (and the other one wants it too, of course!) Whether the other person will take you seriously has nothing to do with when you will have sex, but it depends on your general attitude, personality, etc. So, I think you should just follow your instict. Best of luck! What is the norm? How long should you wait to have sex with someone you recently started dating so that they dont think you are easy? Is it possible to still have a serious relationship with someone whom you have had sex with after the first couple of dates?
newbby Posted November 13, 2005 Posted November 13, 2005 only have sex when you know that you have his respect. could be days, could be weeks or months, or it could even be within the hour!
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