crazyand confused Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 What is the norm? How long should you wait to have sex with someone you recently started dating so that they dont think you are easy? Is it possible to still have a serious relationship with someone whom you have had sex with after the first couple of dates?
TUDOR Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 There is no standard rule of thumb. But a relationship that is based purely on sex is destine to fail. The reason for waiting is to build a relationship on a fondation other than sex because the sex can easily become the focus for some and that if that is all your are focusing on in the beginning how much are you really getting to know that person? But the older you get the more intune you are with yourself and your needs and I think people don't wait as long. You will know when you are ready and that is all that matters.
MakeMeBeautiful Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 you take the sum of your ages divide that by the number of partners you have had. now survey ten friends within the age range of 14 and 65 and find the standard deviation of of their ages from the mean. add the two numbers together and... the answer is there is no set number of weeks or dates to wait. you just have to decide on your own and do what feels right. if it feels right it cannot be wrong. i slept with wes on our first date and although we are no longer together, we still have a great relationship. i waited seven weeks with gunnar. i waited five months with frank. i did what felt right and i have never regretted any of the decisions. i was watching a movie called love stinks. it starred the guy from third rock from the sun and the girl married to pete sampras. the girl had a "three meal" rule. she will only sleep with a guy after she has had three meals with him.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 You have to wait at least two years. Also, wait, six months to kiss.
scobro Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 tudor i love that avitar that is the greatest i want that on a shirt:D
Slapshot2286 Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 you take the sum of your ages divide that by the number of partners you have had. now survey ten friends within the age range of 14 and 65 and find the standard deviation of of their ages from the mean. add the two numbers together and... the answer is there is no set number of weeks or dates to wait. you just have to decide on your own and do what feels right. if it feels right it cannot be wrong. i slept with wes on our first date and although we are no longer together, we still have a great relationship. i waited seven weeks with gunnar. i waited five months with frank. i did what felt right and i have never regretted any of the decisions. i was watching a movie called love stinks. it starred the guy from third rock from the sun and the girl married to pete sampras. the girl had a "three meal" rule. she will only sleep with a guy after she has had three meals with him. Someone must have recently taken Statistics....
Moose Posted November 9, 2005 Posted November 9, 2005 :rolleyes: :rolleyes: When you're married..........DUH! :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
country gal Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I agree with most everyone, there is no set guidelines. The only rule of thumb that I would say is if you are having sex b/c you think that in a relationship you should be having sex by now, then you should probably wait a while longer. You need to be comfortable with your decision today - adn down the road. In other words be true to yourself and your needs/wants and dont be led by anyone else's, including 'the standard'.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 You have to wait at least two years. Also, wait, six months to kiss. Are you freakin serious? You can't be! Are you a nun? :lmao: :lmao: And Moose.....This isn't 1945. Nobody waits until marriage. The problem with todays young girls is that when they get in the situation when things start getting heavy, they don't tell the guy no b/c she's afraid he will leave her. In that case you don't need him but not many girls think like that. So when the time comes, you won't say no. but I think 2 months is good. Depending on your age. I had sex with my fiance the first hour we met. And here we are today......about to get married. Everyone has different levels of comfort. Your either going to get pressured or wait til YOU feel comfortable.
Moose Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 And Moose.....This isn't 1945. Nobody waits until marriageYeah, no kidding. This world has gone to hell......I had sex with my fiance the first hour we met.Must resist........ .....ah forget it.....you brag about this??????And here we are today......about to get married.Yeah....good luck with that one.....The problem with todays young girls......... They listen to stupid advice.....meet a guy, have sex with him in an hour....get married, get divorced....yep....nice cycle there........
lilmoma1973 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 :rolleyes: :rolleyes: When you're married..........DUH! :rolleyes: :rolleyes: LoL Good Answer !! I was thinking that too!!
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 They listen to stupid advice.....meet a guy, have sex with him in an hour....get married, get divorced....yep....nice cycle there........ Ya know your absolutely right! That happens 100% of the time. NEVER EVER was there a case where it worked out!!! Ya know, I'm going home to him right now and breaking the engagement telling him that moose said we're going to get a divorce b/c that's ultamitely what going to happen....WOW, misery DOES love company! Go kill yourself moose.....do us all a favor. Don't tell me where my relationship is going without knowing a god damn thing about me. a**h*** hick.
lilmoma1973 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Too much going around that it is better to wait!!! We just had this coversation with ss he is 15 and having raging hormones !! I wish i had waited!!!
Moose Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 IhavenoFREAKINclue, I hope I am wrong about you two. I'm sure you deserve happiness just like the rest of us. But really, who'd marry someone who had sex with them within an hour of meeting? NOT ME! I wouldn't be comfortable in a relationship knowing how free she was with herself. The reason I see marriages like this falling apart before it even begins is because once he realizes, "She slept with me in a heartbeat, who's to say she won't with anyone else?"....he'll bail.....but then again, maybe there are people who are happy to have someone like that..... And who says I was talking about you anyways? The only reference I made was about sleeping with someone after only knowing them for an hour. The marriage and divorce hasn't happened with you...... yet anyways......WOW, misery DOES love company!No, now and days, Misery demands company!Go kill yourself moose.....do us all a favor.Whatever.....you're the only one who's a little pissy today...... As for your last comment.....let's just say I hope a thousand fleas infest........well, you can imagine the rest...........
glittergurl Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I don't really think there are rules. It really depends on you and your partner and how your relationship is growing. Me and my husband practically did it 3 days after we met; but I didn't want to lose my virginity over some guy I might end up breaking up with, so I decided to give it more time. But after a month, I gave in!!! lol Don't regret it at all Before or after marriage; whatever. I'm actually glad we did it before; it would have added a lot of pressure if we had both agreed on getting married first. And getting married only so you could have sex with that person is a stupid reason. I think, the only thing you have to keep in mind is: is this person a serious long-term boyfriend / husband material? If he's just one of the many boyfriends you're planning to have, then, I don't know. Whatever floats your boat; but I know I wasn't comfortable with that idea for myself. But hey, it's your body.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Having sex with someone one hour after you meet is pretty disgusting. If there is one rule to when to have sex, it can be at least know a little bit about each other first. Which isn't very possible after one hour. If she has sex with you, not knowing you at all, how many other men has she done that with? Unless, of course, she was a prostitute you fell in love with. Now there's something to make a movie about!
glittergurl Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 NOT ME! I wouldn't be comfortable in a relationship knowing how free she was with herself. Oh, I don't know. When there's attraction, sometimes you just can't fight it. I promised myself I would never give myself until at least 5 months; and then I met my husband, and oh my God. Anyway, he respects me, I respect him. We just love each other a lot. So, I really think it depends on the people and their relationship. It's hard to generalize and set rules with these things. But yeah, ONE HOUR is pretty damn quick! lol
KatieMae Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 The one rule that has always worked is Wait Until Marriage. It's seem to have worked anyway (although i do feel sorry for the people that wait and then get stuck with someone that's terrible at it). I think people made that rule up to make things less complicated, i mean it's hard trying to explain love and life to adolescents and saying "just wait until marriage" is so much easier. If you dont really know and your not comfortable with it, then waiting till marriage is best for u. If u cant wait until marriage, then at least know u love the person first because having sex with someone you love is so much more fun than having sex with just some person you've been on a few dates with.
country gal Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Ok, so I have a problem with all the mud slinging that's going on in this thread. Sex is a touchy subject for everyone and eveyrone has an opinion of whats best, but truth is, there is no mold, no standard, no norm. It is different for every relationship and every person. If you disagree with another persons opinion, then disagree. no need to degrade and disrespect. It takes a lot more character to simply disagree and be done with it.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 What about love at first sight? Anyone believe in that? I do.......
glittergurl Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 What about love at first sight? Anyone believe in that? I do....... Oh, me too **sigh** Been there, done that
TUDOR Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I believe in Lust at first sight but not love. I mean how do you love someone you know nothing about?
glittergurl Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 I believe in Lust at first sight but not love. I mean how do you love someone you know nothing about? Oh **sigh** That's beyond words lol
TUDOR Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Oh **sigh** That's beyond words lol I know it is a very romantic thought but my take on it is....I think a lot of people have this romantic thought of their perfect mate, the person they hope to spend the rest of their life with. It is a picture perfect thought. Then they see some one that is good looking or stands out in some way as the perfect person to fill that role or picture they have of their perfect, romantic, happily ever after. At that point it is love at first sight but really it is just a hopeful vision of what might happen. If things work out then you look back and say yes it was love at first site...and if doesn't work out, then you will be on LS cursing the a**h*** that screwed you over.
lilmoma1973 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Ok, so I have a problem with all the mud slinging that's going on in this thread. Sex is a touchy subject for everyone and eveyrone has an opinion of whats best, but truth is, there is no mold, no standard, no norm. It is different for every relationship and every person. If you disagree with another persons opinion, then disagree. no need to degrade and disrespect. It takes a lot more character to simply disagree and be done with it. Totally agree with you but when you make a post on her you are going to get some advice you might like and then you will get some you might not .. Everybody has their own opinions and we may not like them but when you bring it LS you will be judge whether or not you want to or not!!
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